My Sons Father Is s Liar

Kam - posted on 09/09/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Am I wrong bc I refuse to let my sons dad take him anywhere by himself/ without me? He has lied to me countless times over little and big things and I trust him about as far as I can throw him! He gets angry with me, but maybe if he stopped lying I would trust him more! Knowing him he will say he is going here with him & end up there! I'm not ok with my 17 week old son bring around just anybody!! Opinions?!

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Trust me, I have my OWN set of issues with my son's father even though we are living together at the moment. -__-; men....



I'm glad I've helped :) Feel free to message me ^_^

Kam - posted on 09/09/2012

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This was VERY helpful!! I love the idea about writing down set rules we both agree on!! It's so hard co-parenting with a liar, bc they break promises and then lie about why they have broken promises.... Or say they will get diapers or formula and never hold their word! It is VERY frustrating...

Janet - posted on 09/09/2012

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I agree with you. I do feel, however, that a father has a right to see his child if there is no danger of harm to the baby/toddler. Regardless, trust is a big issue. If you cannot trust him then I say I'd say no. I am not sure what lies he's telling, but you are mom and you also have a say in the matter, especially if you are the main caregiver. If his plans change, you should be the first one he calls. If you have an issue with strangers around a 17 week old (which I would too!) then he should understand and keep the visits within the family.



Maybe you and he can sit down (with no interruptions) and set up a list of rules in which you both state what you feel is acceptable or not (or compromise) regarding your son. Then you both sign it and each of you have a copy (just in case). Then every 6 months or whatever you sit down and make changes to them (or not) as your son gets older. Have consequences set up. I know it sounds a bit strange, but I personally hate nothing more than to tell someone something a hundred times and have "I forgot" or "I didn't it would matter" as a response. If you don't know or aren't sure, or even a change in plans call the person and ask/tell them. If you don't pick up leave a voice mail or text message. Once again trust is key if there isn't any when it is about your baby, then no. It isn't unreasonable to deny outings by himself if you don't know what will happen.



I hope I've helped somehow. :)

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