Name Problems

Amy - posted on 07/11/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am having a baby in September and I am not sure if it will be a boy or a girl. My husband and I have already decided on names, however for a boy we decided to make him ACL JR. We are now separated and may get divoriced. I love the idea of naming the first born after the father but I am not sure that I should since we most likely wont stay together. My husband is in the Army and is stationed in another state than I am in so it makes it difficult to try to fix things. I am just not sure that I should still go with naming the baby (if it is a boy) after his father when I may not be married to him for long??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Christy - posted on 07/12/2009

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I feel that it is not a difference whether the two of you will be together or not. Why should that matter? he will still be the father and still have the DNA and genes of his father. None of that will change because of a name. You will never forget your husband even if you divorce, so why base it off of that fact? Not being hateful or sarcastic, just trying to help point out some things here. I would say to choose only what makes you feel like it is the only name.

Kirstin - posted on 07/12/2009

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Its your choice and only one that you can make. Choose wisely otherwise you may end up regretting it.

When my kids father left me when i was 5mnths pregs he didnt like the name i gave my lil girl but he wasnt around and hasnt been since so im happy i went with my decision

Good Luck

KIM - posted on 07/12/2009

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I'm not into the Jr thing so, I'm really not into the III thing...but what I did is name my son after his father, but not really...My son's fathers initials are CLW Jr...my son has the same initials...CLW...my son has the same middle and last name as his father...His first name is different!

Catherine - posted on 07/11/2009

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Its really up to you I have a Jr but his daddy & I are still together but we had split up a while back and having Jr and calling him his daddy's name was really hard on me.

Jocelyn - posted on 07/11/2009

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i don't think that there would be any thing wrong with naming your son after the dad. even if you're not together, the dad will still be involved. of course if the name starts bringing up horrible feelings then i would probably decide against. but i agree with the other posters; i'm not a fan of the whole jr. thing (that's just my opinion tho) if you do decide against it, why not use the same middle name? or use your hubbys name for your sons middle name? or you the same name, but a variant of it...like isabel and elizabeth are different forms of the same name (sorry i don't have any examples for boys off the top of my head).

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I've never known a Jr. who liked being a Jr... I feel for you with your difficulties. My husband left and a week later I found out I was pregnant with our second, he came back, I filed divorce a year later but we reconciled and got pregnant again! Things are good now, but I know how it feels to be pregnant and dad's not around. But you still have to share the fact that you are both the child's parents, so you both get naming rights. Good luck!

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instead of him being a Jr, could you just use the same middle name? i also like the idea of a first born boy being named after his father, but instead of having a Justin Blake Jr, we name our son Preston Blake.....

Jennifer - posted on 07/11/2009

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If I were in that situation I would name the baby boy what you have already agreed to. He is still his father's son, regardless of his parent's relationship status. Hopefully his father will be very active in his life. Good luck!

Anna - posted on 07/11/2009

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I would just talk to the babys father about it. In my opinion the child is still going to probably have a relationship with his dad so what would it matter if he was named after him. If its going to remind you of your ex in a negitive way then dont name him after the father...but because your indecisive now, it sounds like your not crazy about the idea. do what you feel is right..remember it;s a name...Good luck! and Congrats!

Tressa - posted on 07/11/2009

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just my own personal opion but i am not into the jr. thing but this is a choice that you both should sit down and talk about together and discuss it into detail because it is a big decision to pick a name for your child

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