napping & dream feed scheduling...

Amy - posted on 01/22/2014 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I try to keep my 3 month old on a schedule for his feedings (6am, 9am, 12pm, 3pm, 6pm & then his bedtime feed at 9pm). Now, sometimes his schedule gets a bit off depending on circumstances such as his wake up time. When this happens I do my best to adjust his feeding times (most of the time at least one of the next feedings will need to be adjusted to being more towards the 4 hour mark to get him back on track). Do you think this feeding schedule is okay for a 3 1/2 month old? I have read/heard that dream feedings are supposed to be done between 10-11 pm but my boyfriend and I are never awake that late as he works early in the morn and I am just always plain ol' exhausted, so our son's 'dream feed' ends up being at 9pm. Is this too early? Does anyone else do dream feeds? If our son is able to keep the 6am, 9am, 12pm, and so on feeding times during the day his daytime bottles are 4 ounces and his nighttime bottle is 5 ounces in hopes that it holds him over long enough to sleep until it's time to get up in the morn. Too many ounces? Not enough?

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Lauren - posted on 01/27/2014

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If he is getting big don't worry about interfering with his feeding time. Don't make him sleep to much in morning and just do a morning and afternoon nap instead so it won't be to frustrating. This worked for me so hope it works for you.

Amy - posted on 01/24/2014

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Congratulations on the new addition!! :) My son takes a morning nap...a mid-day nap and then a later afternoon nap. His late afternoon nap is the hardest as he pretty much always fights sleep for this nap. I can tell when he's tired--it's not like I'm putting him in crib just because I feel like it--so it's frustrating when I know he is tired and just won't sleep. And then he ends up being overtired. Eventually he goes down for the nap, but it's a very frustrating process everyday. ...You think it's okay to let him sleep until he wakes up even if it's past the 2 hour mark for either/both of his first 2 naps? I worry this would confuse him with knowing the difference between daytime and nighttime...plus, what if he's sleeping over 2 hours and it runs into his next feeding time? I always worry he won't get enough calories throughout the day to keep him satisfied for a long sleep period throughout the night. He's 17 pounds, so, he's supposed to be having 39.5 ounces of formula in a 24 hour period and he never quite reaches that amount.

Lauren - posted on 01/23/2014

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Well I have a two year old and I just added a bundle of joy to my family today. My two year old slleps from 2-4 and I don't let her sleep past 4 so she is tired for bed. She sleeps sort of well but wakes up becAuse she is hungry. What time does he\she sleep till? If she\he sleeps later than 4pm then you should have a later bedtime. That will help him sleep more. If he's still sleeping past the 2 hour mark as long as it is not 4pm you should let him sleep. Keep up the good work!!!

Amy - posted on 01/23/2014

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how old is your little one and how well does he/she sleep at night? do you wake your little one up from naps during the day? i do (only if its hitting the 2 hour mark), but maybe i should just let him sleep til he wakes on his own?

Lauren - posted on 01/23/2014

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If he keeps waking up in the night then yes. But try to put him down 7:30 that will allow you to get more sleep. And it is the bed time my little one goes to bed at. It is not to early and not to late. You seem like a very nice and good mother. Can I add you to my circles?

Amy - posted on 01/23/2014

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I'm sure he will be fine about switching things up. I was thinking about this: what if I make his bedtime more like 7pm-ish? Instead of waking him up (maybe that's interfering with his sleep pattern?) at 8:30pm, I think I might try giving him his bath around 6-7pm...we can have some quiet play time for a bit maybe, bath time, bottle and keep the lights low and tv quiet so he still has that feeling of it being bedtime. I mean, by 3 1/2 months most babies are sleeping through the night--like 7pm-7am--so maybe it's something I'm doing wrong. Do you think 7pm is too early for his bedtime?

Lauren - posted on 01/23/2014

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You should talk to your boyfriend about the situation and see if he is fine with you not waking up as early. Explain about the schedule and change it. After your baby is old enough if you like the old schedule more switch back to it. If you have another child it might be different.

Amy - posted on 01/23/2014

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I have thought about setting an alarm and getting up around 11pm, but it just seems like such a hassle---plus, I would be super upset if I got up at 11pm and then he STILL got up at like 3am!! If I'm gonna set an alarm for 11pm-ish I want to KNOW it's going to work and that I and my son are actually going to be able to sleep soundly until at least 6am (that's why I haven't done that yet). Plus our son sleeps in his crib in our room, so that kind of screws everything up since mommy wakes up to EVERYTHING. Def can't wait until we move into a 2 bedroom! :) I'm not much a napper during the day; never have been. I hate napping because I feel like I'm wasting the day away. But, I might have to if I'm gonna stay up that late... I just don't know what to do. Sometimes I wish all babies were the same so everyone could just follow all the same rules and the same things worked for all babies. It'd be so much easier...

Lauren - posted on 01/23/2014

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I didn't feel like I was doing the right thing either. Here is an idea. Give him a small amount after he is ready to go to sleep, then set an alarm for yourself for 11 pm and give him more then. I would recommend if you have more than 2 children to try finding someone to watch them while you nap. If you have young children then you should take a nap at the same time as them and just keep the baby monitor with you and turn the sound all the way up. Hope this helps!!!!!



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Amy - posted on 01/23/2014

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I just don't want him to be confused if some days we're on schedule and then some days we aren't because I know babies thrive on a schedule. I really don't feel like I am doing the right thing because he still will not sleep through the night and he is almost 4 months!! I have to be doing something wrong and/or my son just hates sleep. I wish I could stay up later (like 11pm) but I am exhausted everyday and if I could go to sleep at 7pm every night I sure would. Maybe 9pm isn't late enough for him to have his last feed... maybe I need to start napping when he does during the day so I can stay up later to give him that feed more towards 11pm. However, we always get him up at 830pm for his bath and bottle (and I don't really want to change his bath time to be any later), so, if we still got him up at 830pm for bath time, what is he going to do in the mean time (until about 11pm) while he waits for his bottle?? He won't wait that long.... :( I'm so frustrated. I wish he would sleep through the night already!!!

Lauren - posted on 01/22/2014

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That has happened to me before many times, but know that it is OK to go off the schedule. 5 oz is fine, but depending on your baby you can also do 4 1\2 oz. My hubby works very early and I like to support the fact he has to wake up early so I go to bed around the same time as him which is 9:30 pm depending on if I'm awake at 11:00 pm. So you are not alone and are doing the right thing!!!:-)

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