Jdp7211 - posted on 03/06/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am fixing to have my 3rd child. Which will put baby #2 and #3 about 12 months apart. Can anyone give me any advice on how to help cope or deal?


Chet - posted on 03/06/2014




Get pregnant first. Not everybody is able to get pregnant exactly when they want to, and getting pregnant when you're three months postpartum is ambitious... especially if you're nursing. I'm not trying to be pessimistic. I'm just saying don't start worrying or planning until it happens.

Our kids are close, but not that close. Our girls are 16 months apart and our boys are 17 months apart. I have a pair of cousins who are 11.5 months apart. One of our kids had set of siblings in her class who were just under 12 months apart. It happens, and people who've done it seem happy to have had closely spaced kids. I'm really happy that our kids are close in age.

In the beginning it really amounts to having two different aged babies at the same time. That can be challenging when the kids are very young because it's a lot of physical work - diapers, laundry, feeding, babies wanting to be held and carried, etc. However, pretty quickly it's more like having twins. By the time they're 3 or 4, or 6 and 7, you've got two kids in the same stage of development - they like the same things, wear the same size clothes, have the same bedtime, like the same books and tv shows, have the same friends, etc, so you can do a lot in parallel.

Also, anyone I know with kids who were born less than about twenty months apart had no issues with jealously when the baby came. That's more of an issue with a 2 to 4 year age gap.

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