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Nicole - posted on 07/10/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is 4 years old and has started lying. I am not sure how to handle this, when I punish him apparently it is enough because he has done it 2 days in a row. I am a single mom so it is just me no back up. Please help me I need advise.

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Amber - posted on 07/11/2013

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Hi , I would have a talk with him about lying. Just simply explain to him why lying is bad and that if he continues to lie about things you will start taking toys away or maybe some t.v. time. It's kinda hard to get a child to understand why lying is bad at this age but, I had to start my kids when they were young too. It's better to start to teach them when they're young so they understand it better when they are a little older.

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Tracey - posted on 07/13/2013

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Hi, Nicole I'm a mom of two and an elementary/special ed teacher. First of all know that this behavior is developmentally appropriate for your son's age. At this age lying becomes a form of testing some independence. Your son is not destined to be a pathological liar. Try not to react too harshly when he tells you a "story" you don't want him to start seeking your attention negatively. By no means should you ignore his behavior either. Calmly cut him off and tell him you know he is lying to you and you don't want to hear lies. Tell him when he can come tell you a truth you will be happy to listen to him. Also at 4 kids are legitimately confused by what reality is (blame Spongebob) and may need some discussions on what is real & what is television. Good luck but just know that this is a common stage that will pass.

Amber - posted on 07/12/2013

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Hi, You're welcome. It's not easy raising kids especially if you're on your own. I hope my advice helps.

Nicole - posted on 07/12/2013

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Amber - Thank you so much, I have started to take things away because I can't figure out if he just being a brat or testing me to see what he can get away with, but lately he hears what I say and does it anyway. I'm trying my best not to loose my patients but the lying and not listening all started this week. Thank you so much for you advise and I am going to try.

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