need help

Melissa - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




hi im mel im 22 years old im single mum to a 2 and a half year old. i have been single for 5months now and just lately im been feeling really down and finding it very hard to cope. i was wondering if anyone could give me some advise or something. cause i would really love the help


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Terresa - posted on 08/05/2009




when i separated i had to find something i ejoyed that kept my mind busy, i went out, blew all my savings on a wicked digital camera and stared teaching myself how to use it, i havent looked back since and im on my 3rd camera.... i keep saving for better ones. make sure you have friends around you to keep your mind occupied, or find someone to chat to... you will get through it, its a rut and you can get out of it. try to stay positive and make sure you find something to smile at every day even if you have to pull a silly face in the mirror to make you smile... do it, the days will evenutally seem brighter

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I am a single mom myself and I could understand what you are going through. When I'm feeling do I take a break from everything and do things I enjoy ex: getting nails done, hanging out with the girls, working out, etc... Probably you feel lonely you dont have that company from a man...something you are probably use to and you feel lonely. Whatever it may be dont let it get you down talk to the Lord put him first in your life and you will see how your life will get better no matter how small or big the situation it. I wish the best for you and your child...God Bless!

Lisa - posted on 08/05/2009




I don't have any advice for you, but I have to give you and all single moms alot of credit. It is hard taking care of a child with someone, I can't imgaine how hard it is alone. I feel for you but I also have a ton of respect. It takes a strong and independant person to raise a baby on their own and to do it well. So keep up faith in knowing that you are stronger than you think. Good luck to you and all single moms!

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this is true, you gotta take time for yourself, whether its getting your nails done, buying yourself a new outfit, just anything you just gotta have time for yourself, even something as simple as a bath with candles and a cup of wine to relax after your kid goes to bed. it is a miracle worker.

Amie - posted on 08/04/2009




I know that I have posted this numerous times to questions that are similar to yours but I honeslty think that all single moms should do this. You need to take a break for yourself from time to time. Even if it is going to get your nails done or your hair cut. I didn't do this for the longest time because I felt that it was my responsibility to be with my daughter as much as I could. I started to get stressed and overwhelmed and realized that I needed to take care of myself to be able to take care of my girl. Since then I have tried to do something for me at least once a month; there are many months that I forget and it ends up being once every two months. But just remember you are not only a mother you are a woman too. Hope this helps some.

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