Need help in dealing with mother in law

Denise - posted on 04/17/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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How do I confront my husband about his mother?
We've been married for a little over a year and are expecting our first child(my second I have a 4 year old from a previous relationship). We had in the beginning of my pregnancy had my mother in law living with us until her issues with substances proved to be too difficult to live with her assaulting my husband and I in one rage so we decided that it'd be best if she moved in with her mother and having her sisters near by would be good. Well since this move she has repeatedly called at all hours of the night in the last 7 months since drunk demanding to speak with my husband and bad mouthing me saying I'm keeping them apart. We've made visits out to see her when we can and call her but it just doesn't seem to be enough and my husband really doesn't like speaking with her because she never remembers the conversations. We have repeatedly asked when she is sober for her to call at reasonable times for we both work, I during the day and him in the evening. She has gotten so bad with the midnight calls I have had to block her numbers on my cell. We talked with other relatives and have asked them not to give out numbers because she has repeatedly did the early am calls and now she has started calling my parents house doing the same. I'm not sure if my husband just doesn't want to deal with her or if he's afraid of hurting her feelings but I just find it incredibly rude of her to call my parents like that. How do I get my husband to deal with his mother? Any help or advice? I'm due to give birth any day now and I'd really like not to deal with this while in the hospital. Thanks

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Denise - posted on 04/17/2013

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We've had the sit down talk a couple of times and it seems to work for a bit before she pulls a stunt that pleads for his attention. He's broken down once because she out of no where sliced her wrists up during a drunken/drug bender called the cops to be committed. He blamed himself repeatedly and I told him he has no control over her decisions and its unfair of him to blame himself for her faults.

Tara - posted on 04/17/2013

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I have had similar experiences with my MIL and at one point I sat doen with my husband and asked him how he felt about it....my hubby is very non confrontational...I found out that we were on the same page about her and that he really had no idea what to do. At that point I suggested cutting her off for a while until she got herself together as I didnt want her around our child. Maybe your hubby is the same and is fed up but doesnt know what to do. Having your support I'm sure will mean a lot to him

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