need some advice

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i need a little support or advice..i am not sure what to do..i have the most beautiful little girl in the world and i stilll have feelings for her father and its bothering me and i just dont know what to do about it..ive tried to forget about it but its always there...i want to move on but im having trouble is there anything i can do?

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Jackie - posted on 07/21/2009

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I understand what you mean by having the same circle of friend but I guess what I'm trying to say is in my experience, I've always wanted what I couldn't have. If he's in your daughters life and treats her good then that great but don't give him the opportunity to be a bad influence on her. What I mean is don't let her think that it's ok to be treated like an inconvenience because that's how Daddy treats Mommy. Good luck to you and I know it's easier to be on the outside looking in...

Jessica - posted on 07/21/2009

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Maybe you can't let go,cause you are holding on to the memories you use to have with him before getting pregnant. And of course he is always go to be in your life because you have a child with him. But, you shouldn't want to be with someone, who doe not treat you with respect, respect for you as a person, and respect for being the mother of his child. Sometimes memories can hold you back as a person. You just need to use all the negative and turn it into a positive, and focus all you energy on the beautiful child of yours.

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Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009

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yeah i will defantly keep that in mind...thanks alot..im never gunna let that happen...he is in her life and my main concern is that he develops a good relationship with her,,,,as far as me and him go..hes got ALOT of growing up and trying to respect other ppl to do..

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009

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thanks alot...i now truly get what you are saying..maybe i have held on because of that..i cant help how i feel but i do want to move on...

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009

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yeah i realize that..hes the same age as me...we used to date in high school...i just think its hard when you have a child together and stuff like that i dunno..maybe theres some other things i can do...we have the same friends kinda so its hard sometimes..is there any way this could be easier?

Jackie - posted on 07/21/2009

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I think you really have to ask yourself WHY you can't stop thinking about him. If he treats you badly then he's not worth devoting anymore time. How old is he?

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009

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no i havent been for awhile..when i got pregnant, he denied it of course until the dna test came back and then everything was cool but it seems like he resents me and he treats me like shit and plays with my mind and im just sick of it..i have to take care of his daughter and i just dont know what to do

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