need some advice

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Ok I got 4 kids all under 7 years old, the problem i am having is my 6 year old is always pinching or hitting my 17 month old when I am not in the room. i never actually see him doing it, but as soon as my back is turned my daughter starts crying and i see the marks on her. when i ask my son what he did he says he didnt do anything. I dont know what to do?


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Christina - posted on 09/10/2009




If possible, try to sit your 6 year down and talk to them. Calmly and gently asks him what is going on and if he is hurting the baby. Many times, children will confide in what they are doing if sometime takes the time to talk to them privately. Ask them why they are hurting the baby. Why he makes the baby cry. Just ask several questions and depending upon their answer, go from there. This is how I handle my children and it has most generally worked.

Sara - posted on 09/10/2009




Stop leaving them alone. Take her with you. He is probably mad at her for getting all of the attention. Plus she could be pinching herself sometimes. Take one of them with you to see if it stops. Choose one or the other. I know it sucks but that is life. If it continues when he is with you then it is something else or someone else.

Karalee - posted on 09/10/2009




Yea, defiantly need to catch him in the act, otherwise it will continue to happen.

Kaylie - posted on 08/30/2009




maybe he likes to try to comfort your 17mth old so he makes her cry or he could be jeolous of her you need to catch him out so you can do somethig about it

hope this helps

Cassandra - posted on 08/29/2009




if u have a vidio cam record them playing and u will see then what is happening and u will see if he is the one doing the hitting and pinching even if u set it up when they are not in the room then take them in thier and see what happens when u walk out yeah ur 17 month may get hit or pinched once more but in the end u will know if its yr 6 yr old doing the hitting and if so u know then his the one that needs the time out corner or what ever u use for punichment

hope this helps

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