Need some help on a big decision...Thinking of getting a Tubal???

Stephanie - posted on 08/02/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I am only 21 have 2 kids the 3rd due in feb. I am considering getting them tied I don't think I can do another baby. I have tried Mirena (IUD) that is how I conceived my second while on it. I do not do well with pills, I am trying to lose weight so not sure about the shot. So I am thinking tubes tied, but someone brought up what if something happens to my children and I want another. I just dont know what to do or whats best? Any and all advice is appreciated...

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Amber - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have thought about getting it done because I had severe PPd after my pregnancies, I am almost 27. My doctor at the time wouldnt do it after I had my daughter she said that I was too young. I'm still not sure if I want to go through with it either after hearing all of the changes your body goes through. I have the mirena now

Amanda - posted on 08/07/2009

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I am 28 I had my daughter at 24 and my son at 25 I have 2 kids i've been pg 4 times I lost the first two, both of my kids were a c-sec. and when I had my son I know I didn’t want any more kids so I had my dr tie, cut and burn my tubes. I did worry what if something happened to one or both of my babies but if something did happen to them I wouldn’t want to replace them. but I watch my kids like a hawk to make sure nothing happens lol I know I get it from everyone that I need to let lose a little but I want to keep them safe. and its even harder now because I left my husband 4 years ago because he was touching my little girl and 4 other girls in my family and he hit me and raped me, and from all the drug abuse he left us 5 times for three days straight to stay in a crack house and him telling me everyday he was going to kill me. So I left and now he is saying he is going to take my kids from me and calling me a thief. But I don’t regret getting my tubes tied it’s really up to you and how you feel about it. I just knew I didn’t want to get pg again because I could always get pg I just had a hard time having the baby and didn’t want to go through the hurt of losing another baby. But I can tell you make sure it’s what you want because your body will change a lot after you have it done. My periods got a lot worse and I go through a 1/2 box of tampax just in the 4 days i am on and I double over in pain. But that could be me I am almost 30 so my body is changing any ways but my dr did tell me that there was a chance after 3 yrs that I could get pg again it’s not a high one but there is a chance. I hope this helps you good luck. also they can tie your tubes after they take the baby out if you have the c-sec. thats how they did mine because i had to have them with both of my kids. and other then my periods changing i had no other pain. and my little girl is 5 yrs old and my son is fixing to turn 4yrs old.

Kimberley - posted on 08/03/2009

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im in the same situation ive only got the one but planning the next one next year after our wedding, but im thinking after that get it all took out i suffer really badly with period pains and since having the coil they have got worse
people keep telling me not to incase somthing happens to one of our children but i wouldnt have another to replace them ,
its a big big decision but do whats best for u =]

Stephanie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Yeah I thought I was 100% sure I did want to have a Tubal done. Since its been brought to my attention I cant help but think what if something happens. And I know if they are not tied then I am going to get pregnant again. I have tried many options as far as Birth Control some I didnt mention but honestly I think I want it but the thought of losing one of my children haunts me just so frustrated.

Kirstin - posted on 08/03/2009

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Im only 24 and have 2 kids and have decided to not have anymore as the last one sent me through Postnatal Depression. I have thought about tubal as well but being a single mum just cant afford to. My mum said after me at 30 she def knew she didnt want anymore and got her tubes tied and has never regreted it. She had 3 kids.
I think its a personal descion, i thought i might maybe one day but when i sat down and seriously considered it i was certain I aint having no more, even told my new bf if u want more kids then im not right for u.
Good luck

Tina - posted on 08/03/2009

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Well I tell allot of my friends about anything they ask me about, If you are not 100% sure going into it, it isn't meant for you just yet.I am 22 myself and the thought of things to come down the road make me worry about your choice. At 21 the world is just opening up to you, and what if further down the road like you said 1 of your 3 has something terrible happen? That door is a permanent closed now. Honestly, I think you know you aren't sure or ready. I would say sit down with your Doctor and ask every single question you can as far as birth control. Some may not work for you, but honestly I think women under estimate the number of options available. The thought to me of having my tubes tied I would die. Even though my husband and I only want 1 (And we have one on the way) I can't help but think that I am young and may change my mind. Again, my strongest words and advice to you are "If you are not 100% sure, than you should not go through with it".

Katarina - posted on 08/03/2009

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I think its a great decision if it's right for you. Birth Control is a nuisance for a long period of time and can cause problems as you get older.

Stephanie - posted on 08/03/2009

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My dr said my husband and i need to decide before I am so long into my pregnancy i wanted to do it after my son but was too young so now i want it but thinking of my future...

Katarina - posted on 08/03/2009

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I know a lot of Drs won't do a Tubal right after a c-section. I've heard they aren't as effect?

Stephanie - posted on 08/03/2009

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I have to have a C-section so either way I am out for a little while thats why I am trying to figure it out before baby comes. Thanks though

Katarina - posted on 08/03/2009

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Personally, I would think it over for a long while. You're only 21 and if you still want to get it done and you're comfortable with the idea and your decision I'd say go for it. But only after you've exhausted every other option possible. It is considered permanent and its a fairly invasive procedure. Also keep in mind that you would be out for a little while and would need help with you're 3 little ones.

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