NEED TO VENT AND NEED SOME ADVICE FROM MOMS

Julia - posted on 07/21/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I AM A MOTHER OF 3 CHILDREN, A BOY THAT IS 9, AND A GIRL THAT IS 7 AND A GIRL THAT IS 4. THIS IS MY FIRST YEAR HAVING THEM ALL IN SCHOOL. EACH OF MY KIDS HAVE DIFFERENT FATHERS, WHICH ADDS TO THE CRAZINESS IN MY LIFE. MY SONS DAD AND I WERE TOGETHER FOR 5 YEARS AND HE WA STHE LOVE OF MY LIFE, UNTIL I GOT PREGNANT. HE LEFT ME WHEN I WAS PREGNANT AND WAS NOT AROUND UNTIL OUR SON WAS 2 1/2 YEARS OLD. HE GOT INTO DRUGS BAD ONE TIME AND HAD EVEN TRIED TO KILL ME. IN 2004 ON EASTER SUNDAY HE GOT INTO A CAR CRASH WITH OUR SON IN THE CAR. JAMES WAS KILLED INSTANTLY AND OUR SON WAS IN THE HOSPITAL IN A COMA FOR A LONG TIME. HE HAD A FRACTURED SKULL, BLEEDING AND SWELLING ON THE BRAIN AND WAS GIVEN A 20% CHANCE OF LIVING. I REFUSED TO GIVE UP AND THANKFULLY HE LIVED.

I WENT THROUGH A TON OF THERAPY WITH MY SON AND HE IS BETTER NOW AND CAN WALK AND TALK AND EVERYTHING BUT HAS SOME BEHAVIORAL PROBLEMS THAT WE ARE TRYING TO OVERCOME. I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH PTSD (POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER) AND I HAVE ANXIETY AND PANIC ATTACKS OVER EVERYTHING THAT HAS HAPPENED. I GOT INVOLVED IN A BAD MARRIAGE AND WAS ABUSED IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE. I TOOK MY SON AND MY DAUGHTER AND LEFT HER FATHER AND MAN THAT ADDED FUEL TO THE FIRE. WHEN I LEFT HIM HE BURNED ALL OF MY THINGS AND I HAD NOTHING EXCEPT FOR MY LIFE AND THE LIFE OF MY CHILDREN. WE HAVE BEEN IN A CONSTANT BATTLE SINCE THEN, AND THERE SEEMS NO END IN SIGHT. I JSUT WANT HIM TO SIGN OFF AND LEAVE US ALONE. HE IS SUPPOSED TO PAY SUPPORT BUT IS OVER $4,000 BEHIND AND REFUSES TO PAY. I DONT LIKE HER GOING THERE TO VISIT AND WANT HER HERE WITH ME. HE DONT SPEND TIME WITH HER AND SHE IS VERY TENDER HEARTED AND CRIES A LOT. I ALSO HAVE ANOTHER DAUGHTER BUT HER DADDY GETS HER EVERY WEEKEND AND TAKES WONDERFUL CARE OF HER BUT I AM AFRAID SHE IS LEARNING BAD HABITS FROM THE OTHER KIDS. WE CURRENTLY JOINED A CHURCH, I WAS BAPTIZED AND HAVE MET A WONDERFUL MAN THAT I CAN NOT IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT. I COULD USE SOME ADVICE WITH THE KIDS, THEY GET OUT OF CONTROL AND IT MAKES IT HARD TO TAKE THEM ANYWHERE. I NEED TO GET THEM UNDER CONTROL NOW BEFORE THEY GET MUCH OLDER.

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Debbie - posted on 07/27/2009

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So sorry u have gone through all of this!!! My son fell out of a shopping cart and I have never really gotten over it. He is fine now, but it was really scary at the time! Looks like u could really use some help! Can your church help out? I also think good christian counseling could help!

Jamie - posted on 07/21/2009

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I am so sorry that you have had to go through all of this. Ho about some loving discipline. Maybe time outs, less TV just in general, taking things that they really like to play with. Lost of bible reading and praying will alos help. Pray with them too.

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009

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Wow, its sounds like you are a very strong woman for having gone through what you've gone through. I could not even imagine going through that. As for the kids, how much time do you spend with them?? Being a mother of three boys, I know it's hard to find the time throughout the day to spend time with them each indiviually. Maybe try a special day with them one by one. As for the dad issue...I don't know.

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009

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Wow, its sounds like you are a very strong woman for having gone through what you've gone through. I could not even imagine going through that. As for the kids, how much time do you spend with them?? Being a mother of three boys, I know it's hard to find the time throughout the day to spend time with them each indiviually. Maybe try a special day with them one by one. As for the dad issue...I don't know.

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