needing advice asap

Ash - posted on 03/24/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hi mummys I need some help I am soon to be 21 single mum with 2 boys 3 and 1 I just found out I am pregnant the father left and I suffer from depression/anxiety I was on the pill and not ready for another baby so I booked in for abortion but I have been changing my mind cause it would hurt me so much im just feeling crap my last pregnancy everyone was negative about and I dont have many people around I have a house and a car and not much debt still struggling with money though I want to give it a go but hoping to hear what others think I should do thanks


Amber - posted on 03/27/2014




I am 29 and have 2 children of my own and 2 step children 13, 13, 10 and 9. I had an abortion when my youngest was 2 and I regret it every day of my life. I thought it was the best thing for me to do at the time but if I could do it over I wouldn't. I also suffer from depression and anxiety and know that u will never forgive urself for doing it. At least if u give the baby up for adoption u will b able to see it. But like others have said, its ur decision and u have to live with it. Hope it is an easy one for u to make, b blessed.


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Jessica - posted on 03/28/2014




only you know your situation if you thinks its the best way to go do it your the one going to have to try n make 40 dollas stretch with 3 kids. why bring a child n this world to struggle. I thinkn it will be hard on u to give him up for adoption if u do that might as well keep it because when u see him u gonna b like no I cant do it. but most people dnt like abortions but are they gonna take care of the child for you. NO NOT AT ALL. my friend had n abortion n she doing good. only you can make that decision tho. Ask god what to do.

Sarah - posted on 03/24/2014




Maybe look in to adoption. I would suggest getting connected with either a crisis pregnancy center or an adoption agency that does birth parent counseling. They will look at parenting and placing and help you get resources for which ever one you choose.

Kennishia - posted on 03/24/2014




Hey Hun! I'm 25 and just had my third child, well he's 8 months now and I'm a single mom as well my oldest just turned 5. It's not the easiest but it's not the hardest either. You and your children can overcome this stage if your determined to stay strong for yourself and your children. You don't seem like you really want the abortion so try to know that your making the right choice, it's your decision what you feel is best for you. Let me know if you want to talk more, just me being in a similar situation as you I feel you could use a friend and don't mind speaking with you more if you like. Praying the best for you darling!!

Sherii - posted on 03/24/2014




This is a hard choice/ decision! Many people would encourage you to have this child and some may say you have enough to worry about! But ultimately you have to live with your choice... From what I've read you are not really for an abortion, forget other people if you want to bring a child in the world don't let others bring you down, it's your body! Im a young mother also who has a two year old but I also had previous to him an abortion.. It's not an easy thing to undertake but I was not ready for a child and when I had my beautiful boy I was.. It's your choice and what you can live with.. Advice is hard to give in terms of abortion topics as your either for or against it! Soo you need to sit down and work out with yourself if you got strength for another child, because if your not ready for another child it will not just affect you but the other kids you have already! I hope I wasn't seeming blunt or rude, I wish you all the best and I hope everything works out for the best for you! x

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