New baby on the way how to help my baby girl transition with a new baby?

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Okay so i have a little girl whose 14 months and were getting ready to have another baby in October i just wanted to know what all i could do to make the new transition of having another baby around easy for her. We already talk to her about having a little brother and she rubs my tummy but i just dont want her to take it hard when we bring the new baby home. Can anyone help me out with any suggestions?

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Charnetta - posted on 08/18/2009

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we r like in the same exact boat lol!!! my daughter is 14 months and i have a baby boy on the way in nov. sorry 2 say but i'm not really doing 2 much 2 prepare her i really dont think she's gonna take it hard or have a hard time adjusting if she does than that will suprise the hell outta me lol. but she have cousins and lil baby friends and she do great with them so i'm hoping it will be the same i'll let u know in nov how it goes and plz let me know how it goes in oct with ur babies

Charlene - posted on 08/18/2009

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also with your lil girl maybe she has dolls why not play mammies with her and explain that this is what you need to do when the new baby comes....and ask her would she like to help mammy with the new baby. im not sure if lil girls do things like this at 14 months as there has only neen lil boys born in the family for 18 years lol until my lil girl arrives good luck xx

Charlene - posted on 08/18/2009

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my son will be 16 month when baby sister arrives he is 12 month now i have story books for him about being a big brother and the baby in mammies tummy. i also plan to have a present for him in my hospital bag so when daddy brings him to the hospital i can give him it, you get the idea lol.....also family and friends have also agreed that if the bring the new baby something then they need to bring ashton something. i didnt say it in a cheeky way though lol. i did it because i dont want my son to feel left out tthey are both as important as each other. i will also do things like let him help mammy hold the bottle and get her clothes ready and stuff if he wants to just to get him involved.

Tiffany - posted on 08/17/2009

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I just found out Im pregnant and my 3 yr old daughter is doing very well with it. I just tell her that it is her baby too and she has to help take care of the baby when it comes. I will probably buy her a gift or something like another poster said and give it to her from the new baby. Good luck.

Amber - posted on 08/17/2009

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I just went through this. I bought a book called I'm a big sister and read it to her. When my son arrived I wanted to make sure that my daughter new that she was still important. I bought her a big girl bed and painted it pink and purple and spend time with her every night before she goes to bed. I tuck her in and let her know that mommy still loves her very much and how much I appreciate her help with her brother. Now she is very helpful and doesn't feel neglected. She is very protective of her little brother. hope this will help.

Gretchan - posted on 08/13/2009

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I think that if gifts are a big deal in your family that you buy a few little things to be wrapped and ready to give to your daughter when people bring the new baby a gift. A that age it is hard for them to understand why they don't get something. Not that the people bringing the gift are rude. It usually just slips there minds.

Melissa - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughter was 3 when we brought her brother home,I believe if you just include her in everything she will be fine.just let her help as much as you can

Ashley - posted on 08/13/2009

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We bought a big sister bear for my little girl when we brought our little boy home and told her it was a gift from the baby for haveing a wonderful sister like her....Just a thought.

Morgan - posted on 08/13/2009

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My Daughter was 13 months old when her sister arrived. Prior to that we just spent a lot of time with her and she used all her dolls and stuffed toys and pretended that she was a little mommy. She really wasn't jealous at all of the new baby. We let her hold her sister and help feed her. She loved helping she would bring s the bottle or soother when baby cried or she would bring diapers if we asked. I think the key to it all is not making a huge deal about it. We told her she was going to be a big sister but we didn't make a huge deal out of me being pregnant. We just lived our lives how we would have if no baby was coming. She would sit and rub my tummy and give it kisses. We had a planned c-section so the day before I went in she went to my parents house and then my partners parents took her 2 days later for the weekend. By the time she got home on the Sunday she was just so happy to see us that the new baby wasn't a big deal. The only thing she didn't understand was why mommy couldn't pick her up. Also we made sure not to change her routine and we spent as much time with her as we did before. She always been pretty independent so we were lucky in that sense. I wouldn't worry too much she will probably react better to it than you think. Just don't change how you treat her do everything you did before baby came just add baby into the routine. When you feed baby let her help if you bottle feed if you breastfeed maybe let her bring a bib for you or give her, her own doll to feed I'm sure she has little dolls with bottles. And when you change diapers let her hand you the diaper and the wipes. If you don't make a big deal of baby coming home then it won't bother her. I know it's hard baby coming home is pretty exciting. Maybe have a family member or friend take her for a sleepover while you are in the hospital and for a day or two after you get home and when she gets home she will just be happy to see you and baby won't be a huge deal. And you can have all the visitors over while she is gone and they can do their fussing over baby and when she gets home it will be the same normal routine she is used to. Have her come visit you in the hospital to meet her brother. But most of all don't sweat it and enjoy him and your daughter, she will adjust just fine. My two girls are the best of friends.

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