New Child

Stacey - posted on 07/23/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am 26 years old married for 7 years.We have 2 children ( one is deceased) and our youngest is 4. We are wanting to try for another child but due to past problems with my family I am scared to have another child because I don't want to hear the bull crap that may arise. They have a problem with my husband not be able to work due to doctor request at this time. They believe its all a fake. Which it is not.
We really want to have a silbling for our daughter, she keeps asking for a sister. But I do not know how to handle the family pressure that could arise. HELP!!


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Jessibell - posted on 08/03/2013




Are you financially capable of supporting another child with your husband not bringing in a regular working income? As much as family love is amazing, love does not pay the bills, put food on the tables, pay for college or pay for medical needs in case of the child being sick or disabled. This is the most important factor to consider.

Considering that your husband is physically unable to work I assume that means he is unable to physically tend to a child, are you prepared to tend to the child on your own without his assistance? (If he is unable to work for emotional reasons or other health related reasons will these reasons interfere with his ability to assist with the new baby?)

Is your family emotionally prepared for another child?

Do you have other forms of support such as friends or other family members?

-Once these factors are met, you need to decide how much you really care about your families flawed views. Does it REALLY matter to you THAT much? Do what is right for your own little family and don't worry about the opinions of others. As long as you are capable of fully supporting your family then opinions don't really matter.

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2013




I totally agree with Vanessa. It is your choice and I understand getting crap from anyone, family or not is hard. But it is you and your husband's choice. If others don't like it it's really not their business. I say go with what you and your husband feel is right for you and your daughter.

Vanessa - posted on 07/25/2013




You are 26 hunny --- your family IS your husband and daughter. Have a baby if you want one!

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