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Crystal - posted on 05/28/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is Crystal Im 23 years old and i have a 6 month old

when my 6 month old crys it really annoys me for some reason and i cant handle him i dont know what to do to or try to prevent me from getting annoyed when he crys , Dont get me wrong i would never hurt my child , i just need help with how i should handle that sort of thing

your opinion would be much help to me .

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I don't want to be too forward but do you think that maybe you have postpartum depression ? It can start at anytime all the way up to about a year after you have your baby. I know I've been struggling with it myself and just today I was given a prescription to help me get through it. My "symptoms" were me getting annoyed very easily as well as not wanting to take care of my daughter when she cried, I also was becoming so scared about stupid things like when I switched her from breast milk to formula I felt I was doing something horrible to her. Things like that. If it really concerns you or you have felt down or had any of the "symptoms" that I just mentioned, Talk to your doctor it can get pretty serious. but as for now I think what Erin said about taking a break is the best thing to do. Just stay strong hun I know it's rough. P.S I'm 24 and I was 23 when my daughter was born, she is now 4 months so I'm almost on the same page as you, I know it's tough.

Ez - posted on 05/28/2009

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Quoting Crystal:

i do i walk away i just dont know why i find it so hard when he crys , thank-you for your help


I'm sure there's not a mother on Earth who doesn't find it difficult hearing their baby cry. You're certainly not alone in feeling this way. We all have different tolerances for stress though. Maybe you can talk to your doctor about this?!?! Have you had any anxiety issues before?

Sara - posted on 05/28/2009

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my 7 month has got to the stage where she just screams, she screams when i sit down with her, when i stand still with her, when i put her down on the floor to play, when i give her food. the only time she doesn't scream is when i out her to bed at night. i find myself getting stressed, but i just put her on the sofa, go out in the garden for to minutes, take a deep breath and pick her up, and try everything again to calm her down. if you are stressed he will pick up on it, making the situation worse. just remember he cant tell you whats wrong, just that there is something that is wrong. if you find yourself getting worked up just take that deep breath. it does get easier.

Crystal - posted on 05/28/2009

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i do i walk away i just dont know why i find it so hard when he crys , thank-you for your help

Ez - posted on 05/28/2009

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Babies are hard work, and I think we're all prepared for the physical exhaustion of caring for them but nobody tells you about the emotional drain that can sometimes happen. Feeling frustrated is normal, but it's important to realise that he's just a little baby and he's not crying to intentionally annoy you. He's crying because he can't speak and needs to communicate something to you. As the mother of a 4 month old SCREAMER I constantly have to remind myself she's only trying to get her message across. My daughter had colic and for the first couple of months would scream for HOURS on end. I did everything humanly possible to settle her and sometimes she'd still cry. I just took it one day at a time, hoping that tomorrow would be better. I will say though that if you get too upset or distressed yourself you are in no state to console your crying son. So in that case it's ok to walk away for a few minutes and compose yourself. Then when you go back to him you'll be ready to deal with it all again.

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