New to Circle of Moms Preemie Question

Christen - posted on 07/24/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Hello, Just wanted to introduce myself. I have a 3 1/2 year old name Maya and just had twins in May named Alex and Jake. They were born around 6 weeks early and spent 2 weeks in the NICU. Does anyone have any experience with preemies?

It seemed my daughter was smiling and holding her head up from birth, but my twins still cannot hold their head up and rarely smile at me. Although they are 10 weeks old, are they only as developed as a 4 week old? Should I even be trying to get them to sleep through the night?

Thank you.

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Claudia - posted on 07/24/2009

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please don't try the cereal thing cause it is too early, and that can cause obesity or allergy, you can wait on that, ask your pediatrician he'll tell you the same...

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Britni - posted on 07/29/2009

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Too funny...My son is 3 1/2, spent 2 1/2 weeks in the NICU and was 6 weeks early. I think for now, they should def be treated like 4 wk olds. I know some people get lucky and have their babies sleep through the night early, but at that age they need to eat more often. Like every 2- 3 hrs. I don't know how anyone gets a baby that small to sleep through the night unless i guess they are in the bed w/ them. All i can say is i wish mine slept through the night. Anyway...I read that preemies catch up by one yrs old. Congratulations on the twins!!

Joanna - posted on 07/28/2009

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I have always believed that although my Due Date was the 25th of August that I was actually due later and my daughter was born via emergency c-section on the 21st of August at just 4 lbs and 3 oz... she did not actually start acting like a newborn baby til she was 2 weeks old... she will be 2 this coming august and she is still delayed in size but she is so social and smart... I'm sure they are fine and will catch up quicker than you think

Tanith - posted on 07/28/2009

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Hi my twins are now 9 and a half months old and were 5 weeks premature. Let them dictate the routine, just follow, they will get there in their own time. Multiples are always different, my friend has triplets who are 2 months older than mine but mine do more than hers. I was where you are and believe me they will soon catch up and you will wonder what all the fuss was about. All babies develop at different rates and these little bundles of joy will find their own way. Welcome to a special club as a mom of twins and enjoy!!! Anything I can ever help with just let me know.

Amy - posted on 07/28/2009

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I have 5 kids, and my first ones were twins born 10 weeks early. I know it's probably easier said than done, but try not to stress out about what they do compared with your other child. Every baby develops on their own time table, and you really won't know for sure if there is any delays until they are almost a year old. One of my twins has cerebral palsy from a hemorrhage in her brain that occurred sometime after she was born but before she went home from the hospital, but she wasn't diagnosed until she was 10 months old. It was a few months before I started to see a big difference between her and her twin, though. And they are both healthy and strong. They are now 7 1/2 and going into 2nd grade. Even though Olivia has Cerebral Palsy, she started talking at 9 months, and had an IQ of 139 in Kindergarten. She and her twin were the only two 1st graders in their school in Gifted. Olivia uses crutches to walk with and wears braces on her legs, but she is happy and popular in school. Her twin, Elizabeth looks just like every other kid in school.

I wanted to tell you this because I know it can be very stressful not knowing what the future will bring or if your babies will be delayed, but no matter what, you can have a happy family. Do I wish my twins had been born later? Sometimes. But things are great in our house, and maybe a little bit better because we have challenges to face. And as I write this, I have a house full of kids, both mine and neighborhood friends, all playing happily, and no delay is holding them back

Christen - posted on 07/28/2009

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Thank you guys for all the great responses. I agree all babies are different, I have done things with my twins, that I would not even have thought about with my first born. I am still breastfeeding, but considering a bottle of formula to top them off at night. I start back work next week. ( I am a teacher.) The twins are almost 11 weeks now, and weighing in at 10.2 and 11 lbs. Yeah, they have doubled their birth weight. As far as sleeping, they are now starting to sleep about 4 hours at a time, much better than the 2 1/2 that they were before.

Stacy - posted on 07/26/2009

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Christen, I delivered my twins at 30 weeks 1 day and from the day they was born they had to fight for their lives.My kids are now 7 months old and they have caught up fully. I wouldnt worry about how fast it takes them to catch up just help them along the way. I also was against the cereal but it turns out that it helps alot. I started putting a little cereal in my twins bottles just before bed when they was 3 months old and that was the night they slept all the way threw. Every child is different and doctors say its not a smart thing to do but I believe a mother knows best. My twins love their night bottles and did very well with them

Mel - posted on 07/26/2009

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haha omg mine doesnt care at all. food all over her she loves it. im trying so hard to teach her to walk right now but cause we play this game where she puts her arms up in the air and falls onto the matress, now when i stand her up she thinks she has to put her hands up and fall onto the floor again. so she wont even attempt to balance herself lol but she will eventually :)

Momma - posted on 07/26/2009

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lol my daughter started to get things on her bib when she was about 7 months or so and would cry until i cleaned it up and she is still like that to this day :) its so funny cuz she will stop eating until its cleaned, i think shes going to be worse than me when she grows up :D

Mel - posted on 07/26/2009

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wow thats brilliant Jessica, wish mine was like that! all her food ends up on her bib its so frustrating because shes practically a toddler now ;)

Connie - posted on 07/25/2009

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Hi my name is connie, my first son was five weeks early and weighed 5lbs 8 oz and he spent two weeks in the nicu...the nurses and the doctors all said he would have developmental issues and not to push him but he is now almost four and he is very smart and did things on his own time but all babies are different, he doesnt even look like he was a preemie. But my second on the other hand was induced and on time but weighed 4lbs 11 oz and he is now 2 and a half and he just now started saying more and he looks like he is the preemie, I think that it is based on the child.. by the way my preemie now weighs 46 lbs and looks like a five year old...all babies are different. About the rice thing I gave both my children rice about three months because it wasnt because they werent sleeping through the night, it was because the doctor told me to stop feeding them so much in the bottles and they were acting like they did not have enough to eat so I gave them rice...but didnt tell the doctor he would have flipped...just listen to your instincts and you will know when they need it..

Momma - posted on 07/25/2009

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melissa - i spoon fed because preemie babies don't have as strong as jaws as full term babies... she did very well with it :) never got a drop on her bib, i was so proud of her :)

Mel - posted on 07/25/2009

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Jessica - thats the same reason my daughter was on solids to get her to gain weight. thats what some people on ehre dont realise because they dont have underweigth children and they dont spend their lives seeing pediatricians and dietitians for FTT. they started my little girl at 3 months and as i said personally i woudlnt actualy start spoon feeding a premmie at 10 weeks but i would give cereal in the bottle, and i would start within the next few weeks x

Momma - posted on 07/25/2009

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My daughter was a preemie as well. She was 9 weeks and 3 days premature and weighted 3 1/2 pounds at birth. She was in the NICU for 19days. I never worried too much about what she was doing or when and in the first 3 or 4 months she was slow on her developments (as every preemie is) but it seemed that once she hit 5 or 6 months she started to excel in her developments. So I really wouldn't worry about it. As far as sleeping thru the night, I wouldn't recommend it unless they seem to be gaining weight at a consistent rate. I would ask your babies doc to see what he/she thinks and go from there. Some preemies do very well with gaining weight and others like my daughter are very slow at it. She is 2 now and was weighted friday and shes only at 18pounds and she eats like a cow, she has 3 big meals a day and grazes all day long. My daughter didn't hardly hold her head up properly until she was about 12 weeks. I started feeding my daughter baby solids when she was 10weeks old and that helped her fatten up a wee bit, not much but a bit. The solids didn't hurt her at all, it just stopped her crying every hour for food. I recommend that if you give your babies solids that you make it with more milk/water/juice than it recommends. I made it for my baby so that I can suck it out of a straw without much efforts and it always seemed to be the right constancy. Hope all this helps.

Louise - posted on 07/25/2009

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my first baby was 6 weeks early and spent 2 weeks in the nicu premi babys do sleep more anyway i think and theres no harm in getting them in to a routine i found with all my three children when its bed time if you say goodnight and put them down thats all the talking you should do for the night to them until morning when you would like them to get up babys have no concept of night and day and i found if they heard my voice they would kind of get excited and wouldent go back to sleep so i decided to say nothing feed them change them and put them back down for the night all in silence then in the morning go to town on the good morning baby how are you today it seemed to work for us and they were all routeind very quick and never went to bed with any fuss hope this helps x

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2009

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HI there, my 2nd baby was 8 weeks prem, he was in the NICU for 3 weeks. All babys are different but you have to give them time, (their prem date to due date) then about six weeks before they smile etc. My baby was born 6lb 6oz (nearly 3 kg) so that helped him, he slept through the night a six weeks (2 weeks before his due date) But he still isn't doing what my 1st son could do by now, but give him the extra 8 weeks and they are exactly the same!

Be patient, and dont stress.

Valerie - posted on 07/24/2009

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Hi, my son was also 6 weeks early too. If you are concerned, talk to their pediatrician. But I'm sure he/she will tell you the same thing I'm gonna- they are fine!! It's gonna take them longer to catch up. I had the same issues with my son, and I would fuss to his doc. I'd say, "I know he might be a bit slower cause he's a preemie, but he's only 6 weeks early!" and his doc would say, "He's not ONLY 6 weeks early, he's a whole month and a half early." And the doc was right. All my fussing and worrying was for nothing. My son is now almost 3 and just fine. And I"m sure your boys will be too. Just talk to your doc about your concerns and he/she will reassure you. Good luck!

Claudia - posted on 07/24/2009

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hello... christen I have experience with a preemie.... my first born was a 7 week early preemie, and it wasn't easy at all!!! it's still too early to try and get them to sleep through the nigh most babies will do it by 3 or 4 mos, my son didn't smile until he was like 4 or may be 5 mos old, i thought it was his personality but it seems to be a preemie thing, my son spent 4 weeks in the nicu he was induced cause i had severe preeclampsia.

Mel - posted on 07/24/2009

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i only meant rice cereal in the bottle, i believe its too early for a premmie baby to be spoon fed but just my opinion. i did have to feed my daughter 3 hourly from when she was one week old because she was not gaining good weight even though i used concentrated formula. at 15 months i still need to feed her high calorie formula over night. but i say if the baby's gaining weight theres definately no harm in trying to get them to sleep through. i will be looking forward to having another baby one day that i can feed on demand

Heidi-Anne - posted on 07/24/2009

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My son was born in January exactly 10 weeks early weighing 3lbs. You wouldnt not know it as he is now 6 months 3.5 corrective and 20 lbs. I agree with Melissa weight makes a big difference. My son is now sitting, rolling and bouncing and etc but at 4 weeks he was not holding his own head up. Everything is fine with him and he is actually above average for his corrective age. They all develope at different stages, no baby is the same. And if your boys are still on the small side I would not recommend trying to get them to sleep through the night. My sons doctor told me babies dont know much but one thing they do know is when they are hungry. They will let you know when they are ready. I did not push my son and by 4 monthshe was sleeping through the night 8-12 hours. Good luck with everything.

Also I think it is a little early to try rice cereal

Mel - posted on 07/24/2009

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depends on thier weight, what is their weight right now? provided they are gaining weight ok and making up feeds during the day theres no harm in trying toget them to sleep thru the night, as you may know you can always try things like rice cereal or formula to help fill them up at night.

my daughter stil had shaky head control at 6 months, and stil has a head lag now at 15 months but she started smiling at 1 week so that came early. i wouldnt be worrying especially since they were early as most twins are.



oh and its nice to meet you btw ny name is Mel, look forward to seeing you around in the other communities

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