Newborn schedule?

Jennifer - posted on 06/13/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




My son is just over one month old and I am wondering when I should start trying to put him on a schedule. This is my first child, so I am new at this, but I hear that kids do better when they have a predictable schedule. He just isn't consistent about when he eats or sleeps yet, so not sure what to do.

Any advice?


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Sarah - posted on 06/14/2009




with my youngest i kept a note of when she fed and how much she took (or if breastfeeding which breast she took from) after a couple of days i saw a pattern emerging so i kind of set her 'schedule' around that. so it was her setting the schedule really but at least i knew roughly what to expect!! after a months or whatever, you can start trying to set it a little more in tune with your schedule. but personally i think it's best to follow their times to start with.
hope this helps :)

Amie - posted on 06/13/2009




I agree with Jennifer. There is no real need to get him onto a schedule at the moment. Especially if your little one is breastfeeding. They digest breast milk much faster than formula so they need to eat more often.
My littlest one is 10 weeks old and she's on a schedule but it's her own one. When she's hungry I feed her, when she's tired I nap her. I sleep when she sleeps, except during the day since I have 3 others to take care of as well but it's working for us. I've always done it this way though. I knew what to expect when I had kids and let them make their own schedules until around the 6 month mark. Since I didn't need to change much with mine though it was easier than it is for some. Though when they went through growth spurts and again with teething it just throws everything off. =)

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Babies generally don't need a schedule, though some may thrive on one - completely depends on the personality. With regards to feeding, if you're breastfeeding, then definitely feed on demand, not on a schedule. Babies have regular growth spurts in the first 4 months or so, and so it they're hungry it is probably because they need it. For now, you're probably better off following his cues - feed him when he starts sucking on his hands, put him down for a nap when he rubs is eyes, etc. You'll likely notice his own schedule emerge over then next few weeks, and you can work with that. You may want to introduce a bedtime routine though - bath, story, baby lotion, singing, whatever. They'll get used to that and associate it with bedtime.

Shanell - posted on 06/13/2009




My baby is 3 and a half months old and she isn't on a schedule yet, either. I'm breatsfeeding, and I just let her eat when she's hungry, which is anywhere between every 2 and 4 hours. She doesn't have a regular sleep pattern. Some days she takes naps, some days she doesn't. I just let her do what comes naturally to her, and she's doing just fine! I've read that newborns will eventually work out their own schedules, and that you don't need to stress too much about it. If you read the book "What To Expect The First Year," you'll find a lot of great tips and a lot of good info!

User - posted on 06/13/2009




I started my youngest on a set schedule at about 3 months. It did not work easily until she started eating cereal at 4 months.I was also working at that time so that made it a little harder. At 5 months though I became a stay at home mom and she has not strayed from her schedule since, unless she was sick or we were out. But even when we are at family or friends houses she takes her naps, eats and gets her bath at the same time.

Kay - posted on 06/13/2009





I tried to introduce a routine from we came home from hospital. My 2 kids were bottle fed (don't know if u bottle feed or breast feed)

I fed my 1st baby every 4 hrs and my 2nd baby every 3 as he wldnt go any longer than 3 hrs.

Our routine stayed the same every day we would get up in morning have 1st bottle then get washed and dressed and when it was time for napping between feeds i put my daughter in her pram to sleep i didn't put her moses basket i only used her moses basket for night time so as she got bigger she would associate her moses basket with bed time at night time she would have her bath then pj's a bottle and bed we swaddle wrapped her in a shawl then put her in her moses basket then turned the light during the day when she was napping i only covered her with a blanket i didn't swaddle wrap her i only used swaddling for bed time i done the same routine for my little boy even to this day i stick to a simalar routine but im a lot looser with it as they are nearly 7 and 4.

goodluck x

Aimee - posted on 06/13/2009




i have four kids and i started them all on a schedule as soon as they were about 6 weeks old. the key is to start paying attention to when he is eating, use that as a starting point then go from there. I found that when a baby gets fussy or restless that a routine often helps calm them and keep them calm. it really depends on the baby.

Lucy - posted on 06/13/2009




Is your baby breastfed? if he is then you shouldn't really be considering a schedule as feeding on demand is best. It depends what suits you really if your bottle feeding, my little girl is breastfed and our routine is very baby led. She's 9wks now and is starting to develop her own routine which we are happy to go with. I do believe for us this is definately the best way, she sleeps when she's tired, feeds when she's hungry and plays when she wants and we have a very happy baby girl.

Charlotte - posted on 06/13/2009




Its best to start putting a routine into action as soon as possible and it wont happen straight away just try to drag out his feed to a suitable time if he doesnt cry for it, thats how i started it. My baby has a bottle at 9, 12, 3, 6 and 9 and it makes planning the day alot easier :)

Kristy - posted on 06/13/2009




hi i think it depends what sort of baby you have, if he is a happy cruisy baby then i don't really think a routine is necessary. If he is a restless baby then a routine would probably help settle him a little. I never has a routine for my little girl and she is now 16months old and still going along just fine. I had an easy going baby who started sleeping through the night when she was 6 weeks old. listen to your baby and dont feel pressured into putting him into a routine. Hope your little one goes well with whatever you choose... hes adorable.

Stephanie - posted on 06/13/2009




Hi Jennifer

I started both my girls on schedule from birth. i did 6 am 10 am 2 pm 6pm and 10 pm every 4 hours when you start to give him his milk thats when you count 4 hrs from then not when he is finished his milk and try not to spot feed him so dont stop and start you give him 30 mins to 1 hr to drink his milk. put an alarm on at 9.55 pm to get your self up too feed him so they dont sleep in and muck up the schedule. i found this worked with both my children and there just over 2 yrs apart. be strict with ur yourself ur child wont die if you dont give him his milk distract him by playing or put him in the stroller or give him a bath etc.

Good luck any more questions just ask :)

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