Nightmare boyfriend!!

Rebecca - posted on 03/20/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




We have been together for almost a year and a half and we have a 3 1/2 mth old baby. Everything happened quite quick and a lot of ups and downs along the way. He got his ex pregnant and he now has a boy who's 10 months old. This happened before we were together but she gave birth to their baby when I was 4 months pregnant so it affected me badly with my hormones etc. now we have just moved in together and he stays up all night playing FIFA and not getting up to late afternoon meaning I am left with a mess he has left lying around, he doesn't help with anything and barely pays me and our son any attention I have to do it all. I do love him but I'm just finding it hard and don't wana give up our relationship but don't want to be unhappy. Also we have had a few heated arguments since we have moved in together and we can't have a conversation without arguing and when our son cries he always shouts at Him even if he's crying because he's hungry which starts a row between us cus it's not fair to shout at a baby help!!


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Michelle - posted on 03/20/2014




I agree with Sarah, you moved way too fast and you need to step back and see if you are actually compatible. You may think you're in love but at the beginning of a relationship it's usually lust.
Maybe you should get some couples counselling to work through your issues. I would also be concerned that he's getting you pregnant as soon as he left his ex.
It may also help him to do some parenting classes, if he's serious about hanging around.

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2014




Sounds like you moved too fast too quick. You may want to slow things down as much as you can right now. Meaning living separately. You did not even know him before you had sex. Find out if you like each other, have the same morals and goals. You will be forever hooked together due to the baby. But that does not mean you two will make a healthy relationship. Start out where you should have started in the beginning and find out who he is. Also don't ignore his past behavior as to who his character is. If his ex has a baby and he gets you preg. right away kind of speaks about his character and morals. My guess is that some of your frustrations you are having she also had.

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