no sex drive

Hilary - posted on 04/10/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am a 32 year old mother of 4 and I have literally no sex drive and physical affection does not seem important to me anymore. At least not from my husband, I can love and show affection towards my kids all day and night however. My husband and I never argue, except about this anyways. I can't explain why I feel this way, because I don't even understand why. Are there any other moms out there who have gone or are going through the same thing?

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Samantha - posted on 04/10/2014

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And having 4 kids you must be tired!!!! Make sure you know your just tired and exhausted. Its not him or you. Anyone would be!

Samantha - posted on 04/10/2014

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Hilary I don't think you have a problem as long as your in a good relationship and love him. I have been married to my Husband for 4 years and I work full time and I don't have much of a sex drive because I am just to tired to even think about have sex after working 45 hours a week. I love him so much and I think he is so sexy and attractive. But I'm just exhausted it seems like a lot of work, haha! We do have sex about 3 times a week either way and I always end up liking it a lot once we do it! But before it seems like the biggest task!!! He is from a great family and so respectful and in love with me and wouldn't cheat on me. But I want to make him happy is the biggest thing. I don't want to dare just stop having it all! Because if we stop this early he has to go his life without it and wouldn't he want it somewhere else I just think? Even though I don't ever see him as a cheater. But If it was me and I was always trying to have sex with him and he was rejecting me I would feel horrible, sad, unwanted, un attractive and like he wanted something else and he wasn't happy. I would also probably want to be with someone that actually wanted me. You don't need to have sex all the time but make a joke like honey I'm just tired! Don't use that excuse ever day for years. Make sure that at least once a week I would say. It's true I am always tired! To tired for sex or anything and having sex seems like more of task then a pleasure! But always after we start having it its great just make yourself start it and the rest will follow. Luckily he just got a new job where he works 50 hours a week or more so he is always tired as well so it works out only having a sex a couple times a week for both of us now. Now he understands being tired!

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