Not a baby person

Evangelyna - posted on 03/14/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I'm currently halfway through my pregnancy and can't wait to be able to hold my darling in my arms but I'm not looking forward to the baby stage. I love this kid and know I will even more once I have my baby in my arms but I just prefer toddlers to babies. I find myself dreaming and planning more for the fun toddler stage than I am for the "stare into your soul, poo, cry, sleep baby stage." My mom and best friend think I'm nuts because they're both head over heels for babies, anyone's babies. I'm not. I have 2 nephews and a niece, I love them all dearly but I really wasn't wild about them when they were babies. My niece was an amazing baby, if she was awake she was smiling, I never once heard her cry but I still wasn't that in love with her baby stage. Now that she's 3, I love it! Once they start walking and talking I'm in heaven. I can spend hours with a toddler but will gladly give a baby back to it's owner after a few moments. I don't even ever refer to my baby as "baby", I call my little one "kid" lol the parenting books that interest me are geared towards toddler age and not babies. I was a nanny for years before being blessed with my own but still always preferred older kids to newborns. Luckily, the baby stage goes by fast. I'm honestly even looking forward to having a surly teenager lol I'm just not a baby person.

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Rachel - posted on 03/24/2013

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Oh honey! You are fine! I have never understood why two year olds get a bad rap. They are the cutest! Everyone on. here is right- you love your own baby, but my first two really did bore me. My third and fourth had much more open energy and smelled like what I imagine opiates would do to you though. That said, I still am not a baby person, and told my husband today, "if only you could skip to two yrs old, I'd have a dozen kids". I mean- you get these cute clothes and theyre just all bunched up on these little oozing formless lumps. Dress looks cuter on the hanger... LAME.
Today my two year old took off trying to touch the moon. Endless entertainment value. You are not alone, sista

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I don't think there is anything wrong with preferring one stage of childhood over the others or even not wanting to have children at all. everyone is different with different strengths and preferences

Evangelyna - posted on 03/24/2013

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LMAO Oozing formless lumps. I love it. Thank you ladies so much! It's nice to know I'm not the only one who wasn't gaga for drooling bugs. I feel the same way, I love kids and want like 5, I just want to skip the baby stage. I'll probably end up adopting a couple instead of being pregnant 4 more times. >.< I'm not a fan of pregnancy either. I wish kids could just appear one day at this adorable walking, talking, potty trained age with spunky personalities instead of having to go through pregnancy and baby stage.

Evangelyna - posted on 03/23/2013

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LOL your post seriously made me laugh out loud. Thank you so much. I'm sure things will change once my boring little monster is here although I'm sure I'll still be looking forward to when the personality will start to come out. If I can deal with months of acid reflux, heartburn, getting kicked in the bladder and stomach, constant hiccups, cravings at all hours, having to pee every two seconds and having the sense of smell of a bloodhound for months I can deal with a few months of a boring, demanding baby. Lol

Shaylene Marie - posted on 03/22/2013

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Uuugg, I know what you are talking about. I really dislike infants. I cannot stand their smell, their cries annoy me, i can't stand when they are fat and have rolls....
But it was completely different once I had my own. I couldn't get enough of him. I had a hard time letting others hold him because I was afraid they would do something wrong. But, like you said before, even if you aren't crazy over your kid in his baby stage, I mean all they do is sleep for the first two or three months, suuuper boring, it will be over before you know it. Cherish it.

Evangelyna - posted on 03/22/2013

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Thanks. I keep trying to buy baby books but I find them so boring I always go for toddler books. -.- not even pregnancy is that exciting to me. I don't get excited when I feel the baby movie, I actually find it kind of annoying. I don't like the way it feels. I don't really keep track of how far along I am so when people ask I have to guess or look up the calendar on my phone and count backwards from the due date. I want to be excited about the baby stage but for whatever reason I'm just not. I barely even think about it or the fact that I'm pregnant. I actually forget that I'm pregnant sometimes lol I'm not worried about not knowing what to do, I know I'll be fine I just wish I could have an ounce of excitement about the baby instead of just being excited for the older stages.

Janessa - posted on 03/22/2013

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I have always loved babies but didn't know what to do with them, when I had my first it came so natural and I loved her so fiercely there was no question to me in what I needed to do, it will come natural for you and you may find you love the baby stage after all at least with your own. I wouldn't worry. I had a hard time with young children until my 4 came along. It is just different when it is your own. You'll see. Of course it is still hard, but kind of in a good way.

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Meh. Don't worry about it. I wasn't a baby person either... But when you have your own, it changes. Now that my daughter's a toddler, I miss the baby stage. lol

Evangelyna - posted on 03/14/2013

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@Denikka LOL I feel the same way about toddlers! The only thing I don't like about them is their dirty little hands and faces after eating. But I figure if I could keep my employers kids clean and not touch everything with grubby little fingers I can do the same for my own. But I love the way they say things and the lack of filter. (I'll probably rue saying this once my own are spewing every detail of our lives to strangers lol) Haha Babies are another story though. I'm dreading the drool soaked teething months. -.- I'm glad I'm not the only one who isn't crazy for babies. I try to get excited for the baby stage but I can't. I'm not even interested in decorating the nursery. I can't help but look forward to camping, building a treehouse, teaching my kids how to shoot, sports (even the uncoordinated toddler teams), cooking dinner for my family (I absolutely hate cooking, I'm a pastry chef, but I can't wait to cook for my family lol go figure), hearing about school, friends, teaching manners, to be kind and responsible. The walking/talking, getting into shenanigans part is my light at the end of the tunnel lol

@firebird haha thanks! I know just about everyone says I won't find my own kid boring in the early days, I'm hoping they're right. I don't know. I just have such an easier time imagining this kid as a fun, independent toddler than I do as a tiny, helpless alien. Oh well, they have to start somewhere. :)

Firebird - posted on 03/14/2013

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You may find that mindset changing after your baby is born. It's one thing to see other people's babies, but once you have your own and you get to see them learning and growing every day, you may just find your baby to be a little more interesting than you thought. lol Even if you don't, it's not really a big deal, babies are loud and messy and smelly.

Denikka - posted on 03/14/2013

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Don't worry, you're not the only one in that boat :P
I've never been big on kids under the age of about 8 or so. Babies never interested me, to much poop and crying, and toddles drove me crazy. It was all that food on the face, drool, snot, sticky hands touching everything, unable to listen, unable to talk properly, etc kind of stuff.
Once kids could actually talk, go to the bathroom by themselves, and actually play with you...then they were kinda okay.

And then I got pregnant. Now I have a 4yr old, a 2yr old and I'm expecting my 3rd child in June XD
Having your own changes so many things. You may still be uninterested (or as in my case, even dislike) other kids of a certain age group, but you adore your own. There's just something about your own sweet little baby, toddler, child that makes them...different some how :)

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