not sure what to feel?

Anita - posted on 02/22/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone,
I was raped and I am pregnant the person that raped me keeps telling me that I am going to be a bad mother because I am not currently working. He has said a lot of other hurtful things as well that I wish not to repeat. I just am getting the feeling he is right and maybe I am not ready to be a mother again. I lost my daughter and have never forgiven myself even though it was NOT my fault at all. I can say that but not believe it. I also am a parent to my God daughter now and I am having a lot of issues because of the fact I have NO support what so ever with her mom being gone I have no one to talk to. I have tried to reach out to the parents I know but even that is not helpful. I feel sad and fearful a lot and I do not know what to do any ideas?
shanita

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Anita - posted on 02/23/2013

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Gena,
I found a support group that the police gave me to go and get help and talk and stuff but I need the one on one so I am still looking for somewhere cheap or free for at least three meetings. I am still doing a lot of research on it . Thank you for the support and I understand how you feel about people needing help and not being able to get it.

Gena - posted on 02/23/2013

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Is there anyway you can get help? In the country we live they have organisations that can help. I was wondering if you can ask the police if there is a possibilty to get help somewhere with out having to pay. (i get angry that sometimes people realy need help and they cant get it because of money) I hope you feel better soon and never give up.

Anita - posted on 02/23/2013

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Michelle,
He just went to jail so that takes care of that. Second I do not have the money to get into counseling so I can not get into that until I can pay for it.
Shanita

Nina - posted on 02/23/2013

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Be strong and cut all ties with your rapist. You were put here for a reason remember this too shall pass

Gena - posted on 02/23/2013

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I agree!! You must make a charge against him!! I feel very sorry for all those bad things that has happend to you. You should really go to a therapist, you need help. If you dont want to go to somebody because you feel its going to hurt more to speek about the problem..believe me its worth it! I lost my sister a couple of years ago.I made the mistake not to talk about it. I then did go to a therapist and it helped me. Please look after yourself and get help.

Michelle - posted on 02/23/2013

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For starters you need to get away from the person who raped you and get him charged. Why would you listen to anything that came out of the person that raped you!!!! Has has physically abused you and now he is mentally abusing you. GET AWAY NOW!!!!!

Next you need to get yourself into counseling and build up your own self esteem. Stop listening to the negativity around you and realize that you are a great person and Mother.

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