ok guys this is a heavy subject, has anyone ever lost any children

Kristy - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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hi , i was just wondering if this is a site we can talk about our lost babies or is that subject too heavy for here, ???????????????? if it is im sure this post will be deleated. i have two kids, dylan is 7 and kayla is 4. i also have had two miscarages before dylan, and we had a stillborn son at 39 weeks between dylan and kayla. im not looking for pity, im in a good place now, but would like to share stories and memories, if ok

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Jenae - posted on 04/27/2009

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I had 3 miscarriages before my son. The last one was twins. The first pregnancy lasted 14 weeks and the next 2 only 8 weeks. It was really hard, because I was starting to think I was never going to be able to have children. My doctor says I may not be able to have any more, but at least now I have my miracle baby. I know miscarriges are tough, but I can't imagine a stillbirth, I know you said you don't want pity, and that's not what this is, it's sympathy. I'm so sorry about your loss.

Carla - posted on 04/26/2009

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hi, i've lost two babies, it took me 2years to fall with my first angel and i lost at 8weeks, i then fell pregnant again 2years later and again i lost at 8weeks, it was so hard with the second one because i didn't know i had lost the baby untill a 10week scan, i felt that somehow it was my thought and they are forever in my memory, i'm now 5months pregnant with this baby, and i suffer a lot of pain and can not really enjoy the pregnancy, i think untill i have this one in my arms i wont stop worrying, i truly believe that my 2angels are looking down me and this child

Keli - posted on 04/25/2009

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I have a son, almost 7 yrs old, and two daughters, ages 2 1/2 and 3 1/2. After my son was about 18 months we decided to have another baby. We were so excited to find out we were pregnant. I was 16 weeks along and started having contractions. I went to the hospital where my water broke, so I had to deliver my baby. His name is Cameron and he looked so perfect, I just couldn't understand how this had happened. I am very thankful for my children I have, b/c after losing my baby, my other 2 pregnancies were high risk. I miss Cameron every day and still sometimes have bad days. Everyone is in my prayers. And know that all of our little angels are playing together in heaven!

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2009

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I had 2 miscarriages before I had my son who is 12 months. 12-05 (19 weeks) and 11-06 (17 weeks) were mine. After going to many many dr's we were told I would need a cerclage (sp??) It's were they stitch up your cervix to ensure your water doesn't break to early. They are never far from my mind. It's always good to talk about it and talk to other people you never know who you can help.

Amanda - posted on 04/25/2009

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I had a miscarriage before i got pregnant with my daughter. It was a horrible time but we got through it and now have a beautiful baby girl and hoping to have more kids.

Jennifer - posted on 04/25/2009

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After having a rough delivery with my now 4 year old daughter...; my husband and I decided to try again and we ended up getting pregnant, but it didn't last long. After telling my daughter she was finally going to be a big sister, we ended up having a miscarrage at 8 weeks..

Amber - posted on 04/25/2009

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After my daughter was born in January of 2006, I got pregnant again when she was 8 weeks old! YIKES! However, I didn't actually FIND out until I was 11 weeks pregnant! When I went for my first ultrasound, there were so many abnormalities with the baby that it was either going to die, or could have ended up causing me complications because it was such a severe case. They told me I could carry the baby possibly under closer supervision, but at birth the baby would pass. For two weeks I thought about and prayed over what decision I should make for this baby, and also take into consideration my 4 month old at the time! After 7 ultrasounds (just to make sure the problem didn't correct itself), I decided to terminate the pregnancy. It was a truly TRAUMATIC experience for anyone to have to go through! I DO NOT believe in abortion at all, except in situations such as this- and after going through it- I don't know how anyone could CHOOSE to do this because of an "accidental pregnancy"!! And to make a bad situation even worse, the doctor that performed mine was a total BUTCHER!! I reported him to the state medical board, and he is now behind bars for the way he was handling procedures in his office!! I didn't find out what I was having, but truly believe that I was carrying a son.

On a better note, I did get pregnant again 6 months after this, and I now have a beautiful son Owen, who is another sweet little blessing!!! It's such a horrible, painful thing for anyone to have to go through, but you do heal and you do recover- but you never forget!

Renae - posted on 04/25/2009

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Loosing a child is not something you forget. With me i remember every single detail that happened on the day. I had a baby boy who was 2 months premature. He had problems right away. he was whisked away to special care. He was so tiny and fragile. The hospital i gave birth in didnt have the facilities to look after him, so he got transfered to another hospital in the city. The doctors found he had a perferated bowel. They had to operate on him. Such a risky surgery for such a little infant. Before the surgery, his little body became inflated. He blew up like a balloon. That was really scary to see. cords and monitors hooked up from everywhere. We dound out by the doctors that he only had less than a 10% chance of surival. i couldnt begin to tell you how i felt. We decided to baptize him. his gown was so big for him, but it looked so cute. he came through the surgery and began to get better each day. He was in hospital for 5 months and we finally had the OK to take him home. We were lucky enough to have him him for my 20th birthday. He passed of phenmoia. That was 4 years ago. It hasnt been an easy 4 years but we have managed to push through all the hurt and pain. As i mother i felt like i was the one to blame and i was the guilty one, that took me a few years to overcome. We are now expecting another child due in september, we find out the sex in a few weeks. I also have a 5 year old daughter who is a blessing. I didnt seek any help through the painful time, though sometimes i wish i did. But i am in a happier place now and pray for all those who have loved and lost.

Felicia - posted on 04/24/2009

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I lost my first when I was 19 weeks - her name was Brittannya Sherie. I was able to have two successful pregnancies after that giving me a beautiful son, Jaydin - now 8.5, and a gorgeous daughter, Maechala - 7 as of today. Every pregnancy after though has resulted in a miscarriage including one just two weeks ago. My hubby and I (my children's step-dad) are trying to have at least one of our own and it's a pain beyond words that we lost our first. We are still healing and still trying but it's still so hard to believe that the baby is gone.

Kelly - posted on 04/21/2009

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I had two miscarrages before i had my son. one in 2006, one in 2007 and got prego with my son in feb of 2008. Both of mine were early in the pregnancy, before 14 weeks, but i still think about how life would be if they were here......like others here, i am in a good place with everything, but still think about them and how they would have been.......

Natasha - posted on 04/21/2009

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We'll i have 3 kids ages 1, 3 , and 11 .. Also lots my daughter named Kaitlynn in 2004. I was 25 weeks and 2 days before my Bday. So no I dont mind this subject at all..

Stephanie - posted on 04/21/2009

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ive onyl lost a baby at 4 months. but my friend lost her little girl 5 weeks after she was born premature. I know it hurts but im sure you will always think about them and wonder wha tthey would have been like if they were there playing with your othe rchildren

Kate - posted on 04/21/2009

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Hi Kristy, I also have a daughter called Kayla and I also lost a little boy due to stillbirth at 39 weeks in June 2003 when Kayla was 3 and a half. She is 9 1/2 now and I also have Braiden almost 4, Bailey 2 1/2 and Jaxon 7 1/2 months old. Doctors could find no reason why my little boy passed away, unfortunately it was just one of those things... It was a very difficult time for our family but like you, I'm in a happy place now and have 4 beautiful kids that I adore and one very special Angel baby. He will never be forgotten and is always in our hearts. Like Cassandra said, there are some communities on this site that are especially for mothers who have lost a child so feel free to join them but you are welcome to talk it about here as well.

Cassandra - posted on 04/21/2009

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Hey, I lost a lil boy Deangelo (I call him Dean though) in September 2008, he was born still at 23 weeks, they weren't able to find the reason why I lost him. There are a few communities in here that are just for people who have lost children if you are looking for more people to talk to. I just searched for stillborn and found quite a few.

User - posted on 04/21/2009

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I lost my son 8 yrs ago. He had hydrocepholus and his shunt blocked. He didn't get his surgery soon enough to un block it. He was 19 months old when he passed away.

Hillary - posted on 04/21/2009

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i wouldnt mind emily was stillborn she pased away 10 weeks b4 i gave birth to her and her id twin at 32 weeks. emily died from ttts.

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