ok my son dad hasn't told anyone about our son his mom,dad,brother anyone but still say's he wants too be with me, I don't know what too do anymore I want the best for my son. I want him too but my son come's 1st.

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Amanda - posted on 05/04/2009

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well im ur bestfriend girl n we talk about this all the time and he needs to step up and be a damn father already yah him givin u money is all good but id rather him see his son n his parents need to know i dont care if ur not figi cause they will get over it they have the rite to rite to know they have a grand child i think u should tell him that he tells them or gonna tell them either way cause omar needs his grandparents on both sides so yah u know how feel bout this so just do it already OK lol love yah xoxo txt me when yah see this lol

Amber - posted on 04/20/2009

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I agree with Jennifer! I think if he really cared he would respect your feelings and at least try to understand where you're soming from, If he can't(or won't) than you need to do what's best for you, because what's really best for you is best for your child! It's not supposed to be easy, especially if you think you love him, he just may not love you as much as you love him, and that's not how it should be. Your son will grow up seeing him treat you like that and think that it's okay! Be Strong!! Only you can change your situation.

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2009

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I say ULTIMATUM....... if he wants to be with you and "loves" you there should be no secrets PERIOD! he needs to get it together....If he hasn't told his mother....something is VERY wrong like maybe another girlfriend....

Barbara - posted on 04/20/2009

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If I were his mother I would be much more upset with the fact that he would be denying me my grandson for all this time rather than the fact that you two aren't married. He's an adult now whether he or his parents like it or not. It sounds like he's trying to hang on to life as it was before he became a father, but it's too late for that. I'd give him some set amount of time in which to choose whether he wants to keep playing or start being a father and a serious partner to you, and if he chooses to keep playing I would leave, or at least stop depending on him for anything but child support. You gotta do what feels right for you and your son, though.

Pilasi - posted on 04/20/2009

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yeah I know its a lot I try in tell him not too but no he says it'll be ok, we used too do it is all he ssys I tell him yeah before we had baby we did not anymore tho... I tell him we can't.. the other day he won't in got a $400 swater, I was so mad... I we can't do that anoymore but its his money not mine so he caN ha says.........

Adjoa Anita - posted on 04/20/2009

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Omg how can he spend so much money.You have to give him some kind of ultimatum. That is seriously irresponsible for him to spend all that money especially on things such as drink. He will one day realise his mistakes and regret it.

Pilasi - posted on 04/20/2009

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his 25,26 this year, and yeah I think so too but everytime

I try leave him he tells me no I want you I'll be there more but then he goes out in spends 1500 on drinks or buys clothes when we dont have the money for it..... I tell we can't do that anymore and if I can't go out with him he gets mad.........

Adjoa Anita - posted on 04/20/2009

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How old is he? Do you think its something to do with maturity? I personally think hes being a bit of a coward and doesn't want to face up to his responsibilities. What he is doing is not fair on you and your son at all.x

Pilasi - posted on 04/20/2009

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yea that too his fiji so is his hole family, they don't mind him not datin a fiji girl tho and thay want him too have kids so bad in get married that why I don't get why he won't tell them??

Pilasi - posted on 04/20/2009

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I do ithink he is when ever i need him his there in everythin.. i'm happy am not the only one who had too wait. i've met his famy but sonace i had our son i havent seen em cos i moved, well he says he doesn't want too tell them yet cos once he does we'll hve toog et married in everythin and his not ready for that yet... i'm just kinda sad he doesn't want them too know right away I mea there going miss out on our son 1st year. i wanna tell but he would be so mad.........

Adjoa Anita - posted on 04/20/2009

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Hey. Is it something to do with a clash of cultures or religions maybe?

Eilizabeth - posted on 04/20/2009

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I say that as long as he's being a great father and taking an active role in your child's life don't stress it. It took four years for me to meet my fiance's family and once I met them I understood why. As much as we want to think that all families are close knit some are not. Just work on making the best family for your son.



Maybe, he feels like his family are a bad influence and doesn't want that in his son's life. Just talk it over with him and find out the reason.

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