OMG! can someone please give me peace of mind...

Kmotshedi - posted on 04/30/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )




I am 30 and have 3 kids, all boys 11yrs, 6 yrs and 4 yrs. I am no longer with their dad. I have been dating this awesome guy for 3 years now. He also has 3 kids of his own and I have a copper IUD in place for 2 years now. I have missed my periods and don't know what to do... I am scared to take a pregnancy test. Do you think that having 4 children at my age is a bad thing? I went to the kitchen at work and they were making fat cakes, I couldn't take the smell. is it in my head? or is it real?


Candice - posted on 05/05/2013




Sweety,having 4 children just means you get to love four little people more than you ever thought you could. It does sound like you are pregnant, but it's not the end of the world, merely the beginning of something amazing. besides now you will have yours mine and ours together. How could the bond be made any stronger. get a test honey, if you are. Then Congrats, I have one daughter and am dying to have more, I turn 30 in October so my time is counting down lol enjoy it. Let us know how it goes.

User - posted on 05/05/2013




I have friends that have that and some say that they dont have periods at all, some say they spot. But really for you to have peace of mind, just take a test. Id imagine if you were pregnant having an IUD can be very serious, if you were, you will need ob attention asap.

Having 4 kids is a wonderful thing, age 30 isnt old at all, and nothing wrong with having several children, each is a blessing, you are at a great age to be raising children

Lisa - posted on 05/05/2013




I had 3 kids and I was on the depo injection I had my period as normal then it stopped I thought nothing of it but then started to get the pregnacy sighns it took me 3 months to take a test I ended up taking 7 all neg apart from one so the doc sent me for a scan an I was indeed 3 half months preg I was devestated but don't belive in abortions I went on to have my little boy an now I'm so gald that I had em he's hard work with learning disabiltys an daily tantrams but it was the best thing I did its not all bad with 4 kids 2 of my kids have learning problems an it can be tuff but also rewarding so take the test hun! At lest u knw what coming an put u at ease! Xx

Lauren - posted on 05/03/2013




Kedibone, I've been there. Just take the test. You either are or you aren't, and you'll worry until you know. Take the test and then you can start either planning for baby #4, which is awesome, or go back to your every day. If you're already managing three, and your bf has been around for 3 years and is great, I imagine he'd love to be able to contribute to this wonderful family.

In terms of having 4 kids at 30, I kind of sensed you were asking if it was a lot of kids at that age rather than being too old? I hope to have had 4 kids by 30 or close to it. I have two now at 26. Think about it--all kids could be done w/college around when you turn 50...and you're still young enough to travel, enjoy your kids/future grandchildren, etc. There are benefits to being younger and older, so if you are expecting, try to embrace that you'll be able to do many things when you're still young enough to enjoy them fully yet old enough to have saved up more money or have a better paying job with more vacation time perhaps.

Side note: Even chemical birth control (IUD, pill, ring, etc.) is not foolproof, and technically, you can conceive a child on BC and have it not attach to your lining, so if you personally believe life begins at conception, you'd lose that life. If you are interested in non-chemical forms of BC aside from a condom, check out "Natural Family Planning" on Google or Wikipedia. The Creighton Model Method is super effective when done right and is based on science.


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Janessa - posted on 05/18/2013




I'm 33 and about to have my 5th, my oldest is 7. We were planning on having more, but not right now, due to the possibility of a job change for my husband, we look at this pregnancy more as a miracle, because honestly we don't know how it happened. I was very anxious, because we didn't plan on having another one just yet because of timing, but it is all working out, one thing I know through my experiences is babies are no accidents. They come from God. I've been able to work through my anxieties and now look forward to the birth of this little girl. It will be okay. Prayer is a powerful thing, as to whether or not you are, I don't know, it took me a long time to want to confirm my suspicions with this pregnancy, but when I did, I was finally able to move forward. Good-luck and my prayers are with you.

Diana - posted on 05/07/2013




Having 4 kids at 30 is not bad at all! That just means you love kids! Congrats on finding a new man! It takes a great man to date a woman who has children from a previous relationship! I have a Mirena iud since just after I had my second son last yr and I actually don't get periods at all anymore. I would def take a test bc if you are pregnant you need to know ASAP! Good luck!

Hayley - posted on 05/06/2013




Hey hun! First of all ... Having 4 kids at the age of 30 is not all. I just had my 4th boy (I have all boys) almost 3 months ago and I am 30 and a single mommy. Second, I'm so happy for you finding you a good man and I'm am sure he would be ecstatic to have a little one with you. Third, just go take a test and see what it says. If it says you are pregnant....CONGRATS! Also, go see your ob/gyn ASAP!!! I just had the Mirena put in and my midwife said that getting pregnant with an IUD in can be dangerous for you and the baby (but not all the time), but you for sure need to get checked out!! If it says your not pregnant I would might want to go to your family doctor or ob/gyn to do a blood test to make FOR SURE that you're not since your periods can be off or not have one at all with an IUD. Good luck! Hope everything turns out great for you!

A - posted on 05/06/2013




I agree with Stacy, having an IUD and being pregnant can be bad. I would take test just to be sure. I have the Mirena and I will not a get a period every month, so it could just be that. Take a test to be sure.

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it's not the end of the world if you have another child and 30 is not really that old, is really the age around when most people have kids, so you don't have a huge risk of birth defects or anything. just take the test so that at least you will know and can stop worrying

Michelle - posted on 04/30/2013




The only way to know is to take a test. You will also need to see your doctor because it can be very dangerous while still having the IUD in.

In regards to having 4 children at your age, there's nothing wrong with it and I know quite few that have 4 or more by your age.

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