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Heather - posted on 08/25/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm not sure if anyone else has the same problem, but I find it extreemly difficult and lonely being the only one in my group of friends who have children. They don't seem to understand that when you have children you no longer have the free time or money to do the things we once did together. I do miss them.

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Kristin - posted on 08/26/2009

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well, thanks tiffanie. and I agree with you too. I do not believe that having a drink or two when you're out is a bad thing, however, partying is totally not my thing and i want to set a great example for my children. You think about it...who's the number one person to look up to you as a role model????????? you're child(ren)! do you really want your kids to be pretending to smoke and drink and curse? to be truthfully honest, i have a potty mouth, but i have been trying to keep it to a minimum...and not say it around my kids, because i don't want them going into preschool/kindergarten and cursing. you have to set a great example!

if you all can/want, add me as a friend on facebook. my name is "kristin rogers kline".

Whitney - posted on 08/26/2009

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I kind of have this problem, but a lot of my friends have children too. however, it is lonely when all my mommy friends have found babysitters so they can go out...and i can't find one. BUT, you can always talk to ppl online. that passes the time. i feel crazy when i realize i haven't spoken to one person over the age of...4months.

I'm totally up for conversations! You can message me or let me know if you have yahoo or anything like that!

Tiffanie - posted on 08/25/2009

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I understand exactly how you both feel!! I know people who don't hang out with me because I can never go out to bars. I also know a couple of people that still have kids and still party. I agree with Kristin completely and thats how I felt. You know I'd rather be the "boring" friend and be a good mom than be a party animal and be a bad mom. Don't get me wrong, I think having a girl's night out once in a while isn't harmful, but being a mom it made me look at everything in a different light. When I do go out and drink, I'm constantly thinking of my son. I lost a lot of "good" friends when I had my son, but in return I got something so much more. And if they were "good" friends, they would have stuck by and at least tried to understand. Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out, being only 23, married with a kid. But then I think of everything I have. I have a stable life, one I'm happy to be in!! Well enough of my blabbing haha. But I do totally understand you both. We should just be our own friends. My name is Tiffanie, and feel free to message me anytime!!

Kristin - posted on 08/25/2009

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I have had that problem. I've also had the problem of knowing people who have kids, but still do stuff like go out to bars, or party and things. It's aggravating. Alot of my friends, who have no kids, don't hang out with me anymore...not because they hate my kids and me, but for the sheer fact that I couldn't be the "irresponsible, care-free, crazy" person I used to be...and you know what? I was okay with that, because I loved my kids so much and I knew for a long time that I wanted to be a mother.

The feelings you have are completely normal. That's why they have websites like this up...for mom's like us who need to be understood for once. :)

If you ever need to talk, my name is Kristin. I'm new to this "circle of moms" thing.

Have a good one!



Kristin

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