over protective mom

Makeaba - posted on 05/27/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




I an over protective mom, I don't trust anyone with my baby and I feel like only I can take care of him the right way. IS IT WRONG FOR ME TO FEEL THIS WAY?


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Whitnee - posted on 05/28/2009




No I definantly don't see anything wrong with it... it's like our god-given right to be protective not sure if there is a such thing a OVER protective anymore look how the world has changed. Kids kill each other and themselves every day some people you think you can trust end up hurting your children it is just what feels right to you and that is all that matters.

Ally - posted on 05/27/2009




I felt the same way when my son was first born and I think untill he was 6 months I didnt ever let him out of my sight, i wouldnt even let my mother inlaw have him! I didnt have my mum around because she lives over seas! I believe taht you need to be overprotective at the start and you need to let people know that he is your child and not theres. I had many problems with my mother inlaw acting like he was hers. So i felt like i needed to keep him all to myself and not let people been with him alone because I didnt want them to raise him. This is your child and you need to let people know that you will do things your way and on your time. Eventually you will become more giving but never let our guard down, trust no one but you hubby! Always feel protective but try and enjoy your life aswell.
Hope I was help to yah hun
Good Luck

Samantha - posted on 05/27/2009




I think it's quite normal, to feel that way. Dave Barry even has put out some really funny columns on that very subject. Personally I am not like that If it is my mom or my fiance's mom, or anyone of my friends who had a kid, then I am cool with it. Although since before he was born my fience say's "he's playing hockey......" but that is another subject all together. LOL.

Coley - posted on 05/27/2009




I know how you feel. My daughter is 2 years2 months and 2weeks old and I've never used a babysitter. But now I'm forced into working now and I have to leave her with someone. I am stoked that she can talk and tell me all that happens. I've already been to check out 13 different in home daycares and hated them all. So good luck and it will teach her better communication skills.

Stephanie - posted on 05/27/2009




I felt that way too. I didn't even like my mom taking our son. He's almost 2 now so it's better since he can actually tell people what he needs, can entertain himself, feed himself, etc.

Marie - posted on 05/27/2009




I think there is a difference in being over protective versus a difference in parenting styles.

What do you consider being overprotective? Not letting baby out of your arms? your sight? your house?

We have a lady staying in our house who responds a certain way when baby makes a whiney type sound. We don't respond with "aww what's wrong?" we respond with "what's up" in serious parent voice. Its up to us as parents to make sure the lessons our children learn are what we want them to learn - even if it means teaching the caregivers about responding to certain behaviours of our children.

Frankly when I'm out and about I totally appreciate when someone else wants to take him. That's when I get things done! :)

Abby - posted on 05/27/2009




i dont think it's wrong i think u slowly begin to trust other people, i found the more he grew up i became less protective xxx

Christy - posted on 05/27/2009




I dont think its wrong to feel that way. I felt that way with my daughter...I still do...but I had to allow others to watch her when I went to work as so on. It was very hard at first, I was always critiquing everything anyone did with her. I eventually got over that and am more positive about the way others care for my daughter. Although I still feel that I am the best person for the job!! Best of Luck

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2009




I'm the same way! I just try to remember that even though someone else may not do it my way that it doesn't mean that they are doing it wrong. As long as they have my childs best interests at heart and are allowing harm to come to them.

Rachael - posted on 05/27/2009




I don't think so. I can't bring myself to let anyone take my daughter without me too.

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