Overenthusiastic or just lying?

Donna - posted on 07/30/2009 ( 90 moms have responded )

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Please don't anyone take this personal, because it isn't aimed at anyone in particular, especially not on here...

...but some mothers are driving me crazy! Why does it have to be a contest when your child reached a certain milestone? I used to think it was mainly older mothers who were the worst culprits for this kind of thing, but recently I noticed that a lot of younger Mums are doing it as well. I'm sick of hearing, 'my 9 month old can walk', 'my 7 month old can feed itself', 'my 2 month old can read!' Ok, the last one was a joke, but still...I don't believe you. Sorry, but I don't.



Sometimes I think, well, they love their baby and they want to show off what their kid can do even though they are probably exaggerating a little, but sometimes I think, what a load of crap. For example, my friend was telling me recently her 9 month had started walking. Well, she had stood up by herself for a few seconds and tried to take a step then fell down...fair enough. But I was in the hair dressers a few weeks ago and the girl sat next to me was absolutely adamant that her 10 and a half month old son had fluent conversation with it's Dad...b*****ks. Sorry, but it is.



I'm all for encouraging your babies, and bragging about what they do. Who isn't proud of their kids!? But come on!? Am I alone here?

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Jeanine - posted on 08/02/2009

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Ok Ladies im not sure why this turned into a "hot" topic. But please respect the rules of this forum. Please refrain from personal insults name calling etc.This lady only asked a question , she just wanted to know if other people saw/felt the way she did. There is no need to start arguments or trade insults . Please respect one another questions and refrain from "bad behavior" just because you do not agree . Thank you Jeanine-Nicole

Charlie - posted on 08/03/2009

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My 8 and a half month son walks , yes walks!! he has been physically advanced for his age his whole life , do i brag , yeah , i am so proud of him why wouldnt i !!
I mean obviously the people i tell are my friends who can see his accomplishments as he is always with me and they are genuinely happy for him as any good friend should be ,just as i am happy for their childs accomplishments ,
Milestones are an Average they are not set in concrete for all babies to all of a sudden do ( action ) at this age .
Some children develop early some develop late it doesn't make the child any better or worse than anyone else's child , but no mother should feel bad for being proud of their child .
Some parents might over exaggerate , so what ,share in your friends joy even if you do think its a load of crap she was obviously excited her child took a step or two .
Kat i really do not see how a parent who is proud of their childs accomplishments are
"probably just insecure with their own parenting skills..." hmm that doesnt make much sense , i would say most parents who are proud of their child's accomplishments and want to share it , do so because well ............they are proud , not insecure .

I agree competitive comparisons are annoying , but sharing a wonderful moment in time between friends is a beautiful thing .

Sarah - posted on 08/03/2009

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Maybe you don't like hearing about other people's children and that is fine, but it is quite rude to call them liers just because their children are more advanced than yours. Many babies roll over both directions at 3 months...yes, my son did, but he is also almost a year and still army crawls, but has been cruising for a couple of months. So what! I am proud of him for everything he does as are most parents! All children develop at different rates. You don't have to believe it, but it is quite possible for children to carry on conversations at ten months old. Study child development before you criticize others for having children who reach certain milestones before others and you will better understand how likely this is. And if you really don't want to hear about the accomplishments of others, don't listen.

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DONNA, my older daughter had a full vocabulary in english and some spanish at the age of 12 months and had started speaking at 9 months. she could hold a conversation within a few weeks of learning to talk. I am not talking babble as she was doing that at 3 months but yes she did talk with people at 9 months just single words and then a couple words together and soon full sentences. It is not bull shit that some children are academically advanced. Her little sister I can say is way behind (only says da da and uh oh) but I really don't care because they are 2 different kids. I babysit a child is is 2 and only knows about 20 words. every kid is different but you shouldn't make other moms feel bad just because their child might be making his mile stones before yours. that child could very well have had a conversation with his dad and here you are bashing his mom. what for? why? how does it affect you that some babies can have conversations at 10 months? I'm sorry but it does sound like jealousy to me.

Shari - posted on 07/30/2009

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Well, babies grow and develop at there own rate. No two babies are the same at everything. It could be that they are telling the truth and just excited that their child can do these things. I don't think it is necessarily a contest. People just like talking about their children and I say if it makes them happy, then it shouldn't drive you crazy.

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Stephanie - posted on 08/20/2012

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Sorry Donna. People didn't actually READ your post. I get it. And yes, I hate that new mom's especially lie about their kid's accomplishments/milestones. There are TONS of articles about it. Parents lie because of pressure. They feel pressure from family members, friends, spouses, etc. I have a friend who always does it...and always get caught. It's not about feeling pride in your kid, its about one uping the next person. It only creates future disappointment in your kid. If anything we should be raising our kids to be proud of THEMSELVES not us. Self acceptance is more important...But back on topic, I hate it. I hate exagerations and the skewed comparsions. I'm glad that everyone on here seems to be honest parents and don't beef up the facts to sound better than the next parents. Keep on!

Shieni - posted on 08/15/2012

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I am in the opposite of you Donna.
I am sorry.
it's also not easy to be a mother of a child who is developed faster than his friends.
I am proud of him but i can not tell to other moms without inviting jealousy. i try to bite my tounge most of the time so people don't think i am bragging.
for example , i met a mom who is so proud his kid walk by 1 years old. & the other mom said walk by 10 months.they ask how old when my son is walking . i said i dont remember. ( sounds like bad mom don't remember ) i do remember though , but just dont want to say it to them . He was walking at 5 months old . i just tired being accuse of brag or lie . but i have video tape to prove his milestone to some judgemental friends. but i prefer to be quiet & cover up because its inviting more aggresive behaviour after that. prove by video tape is not make people stop accusing . but just make them try to attact me another way. like accusing me to be a tiger mom. he learn to read by himself at 20 months. but people dont believe it. they think i force him to learn. So i think its not fair in a way. if the development is regular , its ok to brag. but if its advance it become a brag . i think if they are a good friend they should be happy for me. Kid develope in different time. if slower doesnt need to make the mom sad or jealoust. & if faster doesn't mean the kid will be always be faster or guaranty to become a scientist someday. i am not in competition with anybody. Just a mom that naturally proud of her kid , just like every mom naturally proud of her kid .

Jamie - posted on 08/06/2009

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Loureen, that is absolutely great, i wish i could've summed it up like that.. love the randomness, that was so something i would have said..

Charlie - posted on 08/06/2009

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Just a summery of the anti braggers . * takes cover from flying shoes/ moblie phones * EEEK !

Charlie - posted on 08/06/2009

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So according to a few people on this thread , those of us who " brag / are proud " Are Lying mothers of a Lower class , who by the way are less educated are insecure about our parenting skills AND live vicariously through our children , WOW !! Vicious .

Candice - posted on 08/05/2009

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I love it(not!) when people brag about their babies do outlandish things.This chick from work was all gung-ho about her daugter eating chickenMcnuggets at 4 months by herself that made me want to repo the kid and get her straight on the boobie.

It tends to be lesser educate/lower socioeconomic status types to make a big deal over every little thing and HOW young there kid was when they did it.This being said I do sound alarm bells about certain milestones for my baby but I don't go on about how old she is when she did just that I'm excited she did someting new.

Jamie - posted on 08/05/2009

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I think It would abnormal if parents didn't brag or exaggerate about their children did and when. We are just all proud of all our childrens accomplishments and their would be something wrong with you if you weren't, but your right it shouldn't be a contest. In my case i have 4 children one has ADHD/asperger's syndrome/asthma and one with tourette's syndrome and a whole slue of other lil things so when they do something special i absolutely brag to anyone who will listen, is that wrong of me absolutely not, because i also put everyone of my children up on the higest pedistal i can because they are my life and i am proud of everything they do even if no ne else thinks it's that great i do and that's what your supposed to do as a mother.. no matter how corny the thing is that they do i always make it like they just won the presidential election, praise is never a bad thing and i don't think we do it enough as parents...

Louise - posted on 08/05/2009

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Treat anything you read or hear the same, don't believe everything on the internet. I'm not annoyed by moms who do this and maybe they're not lying. I have a child who had special needs, I didn't find the need to compare or compete him with other kids. He was just different, it was hard trying to find a different normal. But kids are different and they're all special.

However I do want to share my child's milestones with the people important to us. Call it bragging or whatever.

Emily - posted on 08/05/2009

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*shrug* Babies walk on average between 9-16 months. So, a baby that walks at 9 months is actually walking on the early side of average.

Jennifer - posted on 08/05/2009

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Ok so my thing is SOME kids can I know from experience.....my first daughter I sat with her 3 hrs a day teachin her cuz she was 2lbs at 28weeks they told me she wudnt talk til 2 I said watch me I wont let that happen......at 11 months she said her FULL abcs CLEARLY not baby talk and she cud sign over 50signs(my hubby is deaf tho) and by 18 months she cud spell cat dog and baby......she is now 3 and has been tested on a 7yr old level the ONLY thing she cant do yet is read a book but she can read a few words.....she can also spell her own name and write it and has been doing that since age 2 so yes SOME kids can now I admit my youngest I didnt work hard with and so she cant do ask much but she can count and says her abcs and spells her name and signs BUT my 3 yr old is way more clear.....so some parents r making it stretch but sometimes like in my case its true and people dont believe it until they see it......I am just blessed that my 3 yr old wasnt behind....and on top of that she rolled in her crip both ways by the time she was 3 months at almost 4 lbs which is y she rolled over in her crib and suffocated...I had to do cpr 3 times to get her to breath then call 911 and they ran all test on her they didnt believe me she was rollin they thought I DID it but nope they tested and while in the hospital she rolled over again they said whoa u r free to go sorry for this she is very advanced I said yea I know.....then she was standing and takin baby steps at 5 months....BUT didnt walk walk until 12 months and that is walking across the house I dont consider walking until they can walk from one room to another all day.....

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it's crummy, but moms do compete and they often over brag about their children, i think it all comes from a good place though. Be proud of your baby whenever he/she reaches a milestone and ignore all the snide comments. I got them too, my son was 15 months old before he started to cruise. Some of the best advice i was given as a new mom was... if you are worried, ask the Dr, if the Dr isn't worried, then you shouldn't be either. It is their opinion that matters not some random play group mother.

Jamie - posted on 08/05/2009

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Well, like alot of people have said each baby i different and can do different things at different times, My 4yr old son walked at 9 mos, but my 15mos old just started. But that is besides my point, how can anyone say that someone is lying if t hey don't know them or their children, i think it is very hipocritical to say some one is lying oe even exaggerating if you don't know them, we are allowed to brag about our children if you don't want to listen that's fine but don't be judgemental that's just as bad as everyones suppossed lying. My 6 yr old could read at 4, My 12 yr old could barely talk at 2 but is in a gifted program at school now so whos to say that a 9mos old can't walk or a10mos old can't talk untill you see it you shouldn't judge or or get angry at a mothers bragging, we all are entitled to bragging rights after 9mos of pregnancy and giving birth i think we have all earned it.......

Angie - posted on 08/05/2009

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HOLY COW!!! Donna I'm sorry!!!! I do understand what you are talking about. Yes you can be proud of your children about hitting milestones and "bragging" to friends and family about it. But there is a certain way you need to do it without rubbing it in. I think it is a contest for most people. I also think people should stop taking this post so literally...she wasn't directing it to anyone...and obviously if everyone is getting defensive about, then maybe they are guilty of it sometimes. Just because you used the word "lying"...PEOPLE GET A GRIP...and get your panties out of a twist :)bwahahahaha.

Chantelle - posted on 08/05/2009

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Angela, I think we all get the point of the post. Quoting the OP:

"I'm sick of hearing, 'my 9 month old can walk', 'my 7 month old can feed itself', 'my 2 month old can read!' Ok, the last one was a joke, but still...I don't believe you. Sorry, but I don't."

I have taken that to mean that Donna thinks those people are liars. I'm sorry, but being called a liar (even though not directly - and I did notice the part in the post where Donna said it wasn't directed at anyone in particular), and having a whole group of people whose kids are hitting milestones ahead of the curve, also being called liars is pretty offensive to me.

I think if the post had left out the word 'lying' it would not have become such a hot topic.

Angela - posted on 08/05/2009

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i don't think a lot of people get the point of your post. it seems more like outrage cause they feel it is a personal attack. every baby is different. who cares? and if people get this worked up over something they are saying is true, that just makes them look like idiots for not reading correctly, and pretty pathetic. its great to be proud of your kids. but a post set up talking about liars, and you just get people saying your jealous? looks like you hit a nerve, maybe some on here are liars. who cares? they are kids, everyone be proud of your own kid, and if you don't have anything about the actual subject, get a life!

Angela - posted on 08/05/2009

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i don't like the parents who use thier kids as a contest against other peoples kids. but i do brag because i'm proud. my daughter first said mommy when she was 6 months old, and no one beleived me. UNTIL, she she was having tummy time at a family gathering and during a brief period of silence screamed out for me. i don't think shes a genius, i just wanted her first word to be mommy! some people are just proud, but some take it too far. i think that puts waaaayyy too much pressure on the kids though, so they should back off. let them have fun.

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i pity ppl who fill the need to 'keep up with the joneses'. its a sad sad day when you cant brag on your kid for what your kids can do. i was the only one of my friend with a baby so i didnt have the 'competition' factor with my 1st, by the time i had my 2nd i had seen it all and just smile and nod at the braggin' of my friends. we read baby books on when kids are suppose to do this and that, we thought it was cool when our kids hit them, but mostly we cared more about if WE were doing enough, not vice versa.

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thats why video is so awesome..LOL otherwise ppl will call you a liar online. in real life you 'witness' with your own eyes and can't dispute the truth. my son pulled himself up and moved along the couch at 5 1/2 months. had i not caught it on video the women on my mommy board would have undoubtedly called me a liar. not that i gave damn, but still no one likes to be called names just because they are proud of their kiddo. i have 3 kids, they each hit different milestones at different times. my oldest was superior mentally, my youngest physically, my middle child was 100% average in everything but i feel all 3 are just great:)

Donna - posted on 08/05/2009

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Once again Robin. If I was jealous I wouldn't draw attention to myself and I would just lie...

once again, again. This isn't a debate about whether or not reaching these milestones early is or isn't possibly, it's about people who lie...forgot it, people obviously aren't bothering to read the posts properly.

Bridget - posted on 08/04/2009

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I love moms that brag about their babies! I really enjoy talk about the differences between my baby and all my friends babies. My brother is so jealous because my son holds his bottle most of the time and he is only 3 months old. His little guy didn't start doing that until he was 6 months. But I am sure my son is going to be be slower in some areas and quicker in others than the other babies I know. I also like to share what Jack is doing because I am so proud and excited that things are going the way they are suppose to. I have never thought any of the moms I know are making a contest out of things. I really think they are just proud. Start bragging about your little one(s) I am sure people would love to hear how they are changing and growing!

Robin - posted on 08/04/2009

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I dont think that is fair, I know a lot of babies that reached milestones early I know mine has, I dont boast because its a contest but because Im excited about what he is doing and how smart he is, and its such a fun age, my nephew by the way was walking at 9 1/2 mo. My son is 8 mo. old and he has been crawling for a couple months now, he pulls himself up and if he holds onto my first finger on each hand he does put one foot in front of the other on his own, no he cant walk yet, but it is SOOO EXCITING! AND FUN!



It sounds like to me that you might be a little bit jealous, I dont think people make it a contest, I think they are just excited and proud, why wouldnt they be, so why should they have to diminish their childs ability because it makes you feel bad about yourself. If you are confident in your own child and proud of him or her, then it wouldn't bother you what anyone else says about their child.

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

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oops...Emma this wasn't intended for you! I wrote the last part before reading your last comment...sorry

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I agree with you...and I find it annoying also!!!!! Its one thing to be proud of what your child is doing...but bragging and shoving it in everyone else's face is just wrong!!! I just love it how people say my son is doing this and this and this...your child isn't doing that...Like there is something wrong with my daughter. GET A GRIP PEOPLE! :)

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Posted by Donna Athena Field (August 1, 10:31 am)

Mine has eaten finger foods since 7 months, big deal. It's still not the same as using a knife and fork.



Don't call me woman and don't tell me to get a grip. You have no idea why I am so annoyed about people doing this...you don't care so I won't bother to tell you. I am not jealous and I don't have to justify myself to you, so I wont. I clearly have nothing to be jealous about...



...I'm not the one resorting to insulting people and being rude just because I don't agree with someone. Next time I want an honest debate, not just being told I'm wrong, I'll know to look elsewhere





yes its an honest debate... so therefor in responses people are being honest..!!..

Dolley - posted on 08/04/2009

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I find Rosie amazing every day I don't boast but thank god I make it through every day.

Ena - posted on 08/04/2009

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well....I agree with u but , its annoying if someoneis trying to be competitive, but those things ARE possible, my sisters babyy I WATCHED walk at 7 months when mine was 11 months and still couldnt walk and my eldest ( who is now 8yrs and at a 12yr old level at school) DID talk in sentences at 10months. But she did not walk till later than other kids.The thing is, unless we were out and people heard her( which is when theyd say something), I did not ever tell others about it, unless they asked. I still feel though that it is a mothers instinct to think your kids the best and that you should....it makes them feel loved and special.

Tonya - posted on 08/04/2009

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lol I understand what you are talking about. I own a day care. I have parents who drop off thier little ones and tell me all these wonderful stories about what they did the night before. Some true, alot of the time however, they are exaggerated a bit. I find that they are looking for some type of reassurance not only thaty they are a good parent but that their child is doing good as well. A parents worst fear is that their child isn't where he or she should be. That fear follows a parent all through the childs life, welcome to why you have parents with bumper stickers that say how well their child is doing in school. It's not a bad thing.

Monica - posted on 08/04/2009

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I believe in accepting all babies the way they are, no matter what they can or can't do. My son is early in some things, late in others, and I don't have a reason to "brag" because he's not any better than any other baby, and I'm no better than any other mother. I just love him the way he is and let him be himself. As for someone's child walking at 6 months or talking fluently at 10 months, I don't know. Some people DO lie. But on the other hand, anything is possible. We couldn't know for sure unless we saw it happen.
And in my personal opinion, not to criticize anyone, I do find those "Your Baby Can Read!" videos a little silly. I don't expect my toddler son to read when he can't even talk yet. He has quite enough to be getting on with at this age anyway, and I'm just going to let him develop at his own pace.

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Every mom wants to brag about her son or daughter especially when they do something for the first time! And there is definately no question that all babies develop differently. But what DOES make me angry is when another mom CONSTANTLY tries to have her baby one up your own child especially when your own child is several months older.

Tiffany - posted on 08/04/2009

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Its just insecure parents who are living vicariously through their children's achievement. I brag about my kids too (GUILTY)! It seems that once you become mommy these days, it turns to my kids' achievments mean more because as of this point, my girls are MY biggest achievments. Eventually, when I get back to school and get my degree, I'll have something of my own to brag about, but for now, I'll just be happy my girls both walked at 8 months and my 4 year old is learning to read.

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Um...Whats the problem with a parent being proud of their childs accomplishment? Or them wanting to share that with a group of peers who can understand an appreiacate their excitement? I'm new here so I'm not really a part of it, but I joined this group to have a social envoriment of others at a similar point n their lives as myself...I look forward to hearing "suzy took a step" or "Mike said Da for the first time." I don't get offended because I'm just as excited about shareing when my little one holds his bottle for the first time.



I just don't see the problem, or why it should bother you.

Taylor - posted on 08/04/2009

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There's bragging and competition.... I have to say that i brag about my 9 month old son every chance i get.. Hes my fav topic. I'm so excited to share with everyone and anyone about milestones, little things, and every cute clothes he wears. But then you have competition which alot of moms do. I have a cousin who has children and her and her family are always trying to make me feel like her kids are superior to all the rest. But I dont think most moms are trying to have a competion of who has the better child. Its just they want everyone to know how proud they are. Exaggerating happens. But does it really mess up your day? As long as u and ur kid(s)are happy, health and having fun who cares what other mom try to beat u at.

Donna - posted on 08/04/2009

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Please don't tell me to chill, it's very patronising and frustrating. My last posts shows I have 'chilled.' I don't care anymore...

Juli - posted on 08/04/2009

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ok what happed here, how did it get so bitchy?
Donna chill a bit i can see your point as iv had my fill of it meself but i dont care what other babys have done what and when, i just look and smile. At the end of the day every mother is proud of there baby and so they should be!!!

Emma - posted on 08/04/2009

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I know what you're getting at Donna. My daughter get to milestones awhile after others do b/c she is a preemie and has a later development. I do brag but I do get a little annoyed when people say my childs done this at this age knowing my daughter is not as advanced as theirs.

Donna - posted on 08/04/2009

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I'm not repaeating myself AGAIN. If you're bothered you can read my previous posts about this NOT being a debate on if kids can actually walk at an early age...I don't care anymore...wish I'd not bothered to be honest...


...Oh yeah, and if I was jealous of 'advanced' babies: A) I wouldn't have drawn attention to myself & B) I would just lie...

Sarah - posted on 08/03/2009

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Moms want to present our children in the best light, its in our nature. We are proud at every little thing our baby does. Heck i was proud when she giggled for the first time or when she found her hand and sucked it like crazy! I think the most important thing to remember though is that they all even out in the end. One may walk at nine months and the other might not until 15 months... by 2 years they are both walking and no one remembers. Just like my sister was the child prodigy, reading fluently at age 4. Fast forward and she is an intelligent girl but average.

Kat - posted on 08/03/2009

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i think everyone should just chill out a bit and enjoy their kids because they don't stay kids for long-time flies by so quickly.
i have a 12 yr old and a 2 yr old and they are polar opposites but so what?? it makes them who they are. they have both developed and learned things at different rates.
some mothers do brag and probs lie a bit but if you are a confident mum you shouldn't let this bother you in the slightest.
as long as you take good care of your kids and give them lots of love and support their development will take care of itself and you don't need to worry about what anyone else says.
parents who brag and exaggerate are probably just insecure with their own parenting skills......x

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I 100% agree with you..I was just complaining about htat to my husband. I made him promise we'd never EVER tell someone about a "milestone". Especially since all babies develop differently...I'm obsessed with my son but bragging seems so obnoxious to me. Some women told me her daughter said her first word at 3 months.........you know when babies say "awh" or babble? yeah thats her first words...ridiculous. The exaggerating is the worst part..if your child can ACTUALLY read, call ripleys becaue thats incredible, if your child is pretending to read (like I did until i was like 8) lol not so incredible.

Caitlin - posted on 08/03/2009

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I agree that it can be overwhelming, but people are just so proud of their children.

Alison - posted on 08/03/2009

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I dont think these moms are saying these things to make anyone feel bad...it is just exciting to them when their child learns something new...I think too that after becoming a mom your children are your life and some of these moms literally have nothing else to talk about because they have no life outside of their children...I do think some of it is exaggeration but not on purpose...A few weeks ago my 3 week old was on her back and ended up on her stomach (probably because I sat on the bed, which flipped her) and I was going on and on about how my 3 week old could roll over already...She has not rolled over since, so I now realize it was probably me that caused her to roll over...but I was so excited at the time that I had to tell everybody. I wasnt meaning to piss anyone off.....I think Nicole is right though...Alot of parents when doing this are looking for affirmation that they are doing a good job...and everybody likes to think their child is the smartest one in the world.

Samantha - posted on 08/03/2009

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I take my baby to a class called Gymboree and I actually saw an 8 month old walking.. very well. They do develop so differently. My baby was just learning to crawl at that age! I too get so tired of hearing other moms and grandmas brag about what their baby can do. I just listen and I try not to compare my baby to theirs. If it really does sound like an outright lie or exaggeration, so be it. I just disregard it and move on.

Chantelle - posted on 08/03/2009

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Donna, I add this to support the mums who may have exceptional children, who you seem to think are liars. Not to brag about my abilities. I was an early walker myself, at 9 months, spoke early (I think my first word was around the same time I walked), and was reading Enid Blyton books by myself at age 4. I could read faster than my mum could by about 6 or 7 (and my mum is an intelligent, educated person). I was not pushed into anything, I was merely provided with the stimulation that my mum thought was appropriate. Would you think another mother was lying or exaggerating if they told your their son/daughter was doing the things I did?

I half expected my son to be advanced they way that kids in my family seem to have been, but he has been right on averages since the day he was born. He is one now and is just now learning to walk, can say 'Mama' and 'Dada', and babbles a whole load of cute baby nonsense. And you know what? That's just fine with me, I think he is perfect. But I will continue to give him opportunities to shine, and allow him to try to do things that may be out of his 'developmental milestones'.

The thing about milestones is they are based on an average. An average by definition must be based off of a wide range of data points, including both highs and lows. So there will always be kids who walk/talk/whatever really early or really late, etc, and it is normal for them. Don't dismiss a mum who is proud of her childs achievements just because you think it isn't possible. Would you tell a kid whose gift was running really fast (for example) that he couldn't run in races at school because the other kids weren't as fast as him and it wasn't fair to them to have to lose? I doubt it. Its the same thing as taking away a book from a gifted child because they couldn't possibly be able to read it. Or Or discouraging a mother from believing in her children because 'she must be exaggerating'.

I agree that some parents do seem to turn the whole milestone thing into a contest. And I dont agree with that, likewise I don't agree with a parent boasting about their child with the intention of putting down another child. But I think its awful that alot of these parent's with exceptional children will find that as they grow older, that other parents will just not want to hear about their childs achievements, because they will class it as boasting.

And for the record, before you accuse me of boasting about myself, I grew up to become what most people would class as an 'underachiever', didn't go to uni although I could have gotten into almost any course I wanted, worked mostly temporary jobs, and am now a stay at home mum. And I wouldn't change it for the world, but will encourage my children to be whatever they want to be, even if it means surpassing other people's perceptions of 'normal'.

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Donna, I have to admit there are many mothers out there who want to compare and compete with their children, after all look at the TV show toddler and Tiara's. but having said that, all children are differnt. I have 4 and expect #5. my oldest son is 6, son is 4, daughter will be 2 on Aug 30 and a 5 month old baby girl. my boys did things slower, they both didnt walk until 16 months, actually my oldest didn't walk until the day after his bro was born, he walked at the hospital. it was like it clicked and he got it. they both crawled at about 8months or so and were scooting at 3 and 4 months. My oldest daughter, who is turning 2, Can talk. She is putting sentences together. She ask's me wat dat? I'n know, nothing, want some things like that. too me she is carrying on a conversation. I understand what she is saying and she understands me. perhaps the mothers who are saying there child is fluantly speaking are meaning that type of conversation. All moms brag, I'm as guilty as the next mom, my oldest made the honor roll all yr last yr. You bet I tell everyone, but I don't compare him to another child who didn't and say well my child is better/worse etc. I think thats where the problem comes in. I agree its ok too brag, but not ok to flat out lie. What are we teaching our kids? they are watching us.

Donna - posted on 08/03/2009

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Just for the record, this thread was just about people who lie or exaggerating about what their babies can do. I'm not debating that some of the things they say are possible, except the talking thing, which I think we have covered, completely. This Christina person is arguing with everything I say, and turning everything back on me to make me look bad...and like a liar. All I can say is, the good thing about online forums is, you can open your mouth as much as you like because no one knows who you are...or where you live etc...I think some people wouldn't be as brave in person...and she should really look back at my old post about children being disabled, then maybe she would think twice about what she's saying. Alas, I don't really care because she is one of the mums I'm talking about on this thread.



The funny thing is, that all the mums who claim that their children can do these things (personally, if my kid could speak two languages fluently at 10 month I'd have the Guiness book of records people out pronto...) are the ones who dont like my thread. Maybe that's because they are annoyed because they think I'm having a dig, or because they think I'm calling all mums liars...but I think it's because they know i'm just a little bit right.



Ho hum, not for me to say. Hey Christina? You'll be happy to know I've been throwing up all night and so has my baby girl...so, I won't be on here much today to be 'rude; to you.

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my daughter started walking 2 days before she was 10 months old and can read "baby, tiger, elephant" and she knows how to say like 15 other words....not trying to brag, just trying to show that some babies really do learn faster than others. I haven't pushed her to learn anything faster because I really want her to stay little as long as possible. I'm just really big on giving her the tools to learn on her own. My parents got her the your baby can read program as a christmas present and she enjoyed watching it, so every once in a while, we'll put it on while she's playing and she loves to look through the books and play with the word cards. So one day my husband and I were just playing around and I set out "baby" and "tiger" in front of her. I read them to her and pointed to them as i read them, then I stood back and said "where's baby" and out of the 10 times we did this, she grabbed the baby card EVERY time...same with tiger and elephant. We didn't really think she could do it, we were just playing with them with her, but we were amazed that she recognized which word went with what we were saying. Bottom line, I've noticed a few moms who have exaggerated their baby's development and don't like when it happens, but when it's honestly something they can do, be happy for them, don't criticize them...

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my daughter started walking 2 days before she was 10 months old and can read "baby, tiger, elephant" and she knows how to say like 15 other words....not trying to brag, just trying to show that some babies really do learn faster than others.

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I honestly find it amusing when mothers fall into the competitive parenting catagory. I talk about what my son is doing and what milestones he reaches with other parents as a way to guage if he is normal. Having never been around babies until I had one, I had no idea what was average, what was early and what was late, so hopefully no one has thought I am bragging when mentioning things he is doing!

I must admit I do feel little pin pricks of pride when I see babies the same age who haven't started doing things he has done, but then I also look forward to things they are doing that he has not yet started doing. They all develop at different rates, and just because a baby is early at doing these things, it is no reflection on the type of person they will become. I would rather have a loving kind son who didn't walk till one and a half or talk till three than a baby running round speaking three languages at 6 months old!!!

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