OVERWHELMED PREGNANT MOTHER!!!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Amanda - posted on 11/23/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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HI THERE. Im a mother of 2. i have a 2 year old and a 8 monthold. I am also 12 weeks pregnant with my 3rd. I am married and have been for 3 years. My husband and I have a fairly decent relationship. We dont fight normally. Mostly we have disagreements. We dont yell or cuss each other we dont call each other names. He suffers from PTSD, anxiety and depressioin. He believes as a woman i should clea, do laundry, take care of the kids,etc. I also work a full time job to support my family. He doesnt have a job due to his disabilities. I have been extremely tired and overwhelmed lately all ii can do anymore is cry. This pregnancy is taking its toll on me. Ihave gotten a lllittle lazy around the house because i have to fight the kids to do anything. everyone says take time to myself and relax but i cant do that. even when i try to take a shower or bath i have my 2 year old in the bathroom with me. My husband goes for walks every day to talk to his friends. I dotn have any friends to talk to really I try to talk to my mother and everything i tell her gets twisted and repeated to my husband causing conflict. All I need is some advice on how to not be so overwhelmed. Normally I hold my daughter and she cheers me up, but lately that doesnt even work.

Any advice would be helpful. Thanks in advance.
Sincerely
a person about to loose it

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Michelle - posted on 11/24/2014

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I'm sorry but your husband needs to get out of the 50's and help around the house. Yes if you are the one home and he's working then fine, you do all the household chores but with him not working he can pull his weight.
In his "ideal" world he should be supporting his family and because he can't he needs to help you.
You need to get out of the house and do something for you. Tell him that you are going to go to the movies ON YOUR OWN and he can feed and bathe the children.
He helped create them so he can help raise them.
You are allowing yourself to be treated like this and only you can change it. You need to get him to see that he has to help or he will lose you.

Amanda - posted on 11/23/2014

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my 8 month old will fall out from 9pm til 3am then again from 4am to 9am then a nap or 2 during the day
my 2 year old will either go to bed between 9 and10 or when we do then he naps for an hour or 2 during the day but never together

Janice - posted on 11/23/2014

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Do your Kidd have a regular bedtime? I had to begin instituted the bedtimes on my 3rd pregnancy, my kids were the same age as yours are now. I was also working full time, cleaning, etc. I know it is extremely stressful. Once I got the kids on bed, every night I took time to myself. It was the only time I could. I would soak in the tub and read or watch A movie just to calm my nerves. I know it's hard, but hang in there. I'm sorry if this wasn't very helpful.

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