Parents won't let children play with son because we aren't LDS. Help?!

Nicki - posted on 03/02/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )




I'm a 26-year old single mother to a 6 year old boy. We live in a small city in souther Utah & the majority of people here are mormon. I'm finding that these kids are mean! They tell my son that he can't play with them because he doesn't love Jesus, even though we are members of a church, just not theirs. Because he doesn't have a "CTR" ring, he isn't allowed to be in their "club" or invited to any activities such as birthday parties or play dates.

I'm finding myself becoming very resentful of this city and the mormon religion. I wonder how a religion that claims to love and help it's fellow man can teach their children to discriminate and show hate at such a young age.

How do I help my child be accepted by these people, without having to pretend to believe what they do??

This is not meant to offend anyone of the LDS religion, if it does, I sincerely apologize.


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Amy - posted on 04/18/2014




If theyre mean dont worry about fitting in bcuz you just wont your the outsider of the religion those are mean spolied kids jesus was bullied by other kids and mary kept them away because they wanted to harm jesus in a way theyre bullies

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I'm sorry you're going through that. I don't think all LDS are like that. My dad was LDS growing up and all of my cousin, aunts, uncles, etc are still LDS. They were always loving towards us even though we were not LDS. It's just the parenting of these particular ones IMO. I hope your child will find some good friends soon. :)

Charity - posted on 04/01/2014




Nicki, I'm sorry your son is being treated that way. I grew up in a very religious family with many different divisions of the same religion. Think.. Amish, Mennonite, brethren for instance. Because of our family being an ever so slightly different variation of the religion, I was not allowed to speak to kids in other groups.
It was frustrating. Just try to understand that the parents might be worried that their children will hear something different from the way they're being raised and might question them about it. Or maybe, the child of the LDS parent will begin to doubt the specific doctrines of their church and so the parents are probably worried about that.
I'm sure you have a wonderful, respectful, loving child an maybe if you could talk to the parents of the LDS children and get to the bottom of it or if that doesn't work, maybe there are some children at your church that you could arrange play dates with. Best wishes to you = )

Amber - posted on 03/31/2014




I am LDS and I live in a place where we are definitely the minority religion. My daughter was bullied at school today because she was a mormon which is what led me to this page. Several children told her that they couldn't be her friend because of her religion and that, "if we build a church around here, they will burn it down." This happens in all religions where there is a strong majority. It is our obligation to educate our children about what freedom of religion really means.

MaryJ - posted on 05/21/2013




As sad as that is, its a good thing. Keep your son away from these people. They sound pretty ridiculous, hateful, judgmental and just all around wack. Find some non-LDS families and if you can, move to a bigger more diverse community in the future if thats possible. You want your children to grow around loving, accepting people.

Marlo - posted on 05/17/2013




I am LDS. You are in Utah and it sounds like you are in a small community. Not all LDS people are like that. If they feel uncomfortable around you that is because they don't know you. They also probably feel that being the same faith with someone will give them an idea of what to expect. We had the same problem moving to UT and we are LDS. If you ever come up to the Salt Lake area we can have a play date. You're right we do believe in love towards our neighbors and helping our fellow men. Please don't think we are all like your town. I have found that because I am from the East Coast and am kind of a loud person those in my neighborhood didn't quite get me, I ended up putting out flyers for a weekly play-date at various parks and at first people came because they were curious once they met my kids they came for friendship. I hope this helps.

Gena - posted on 03/03/2013




I actualy feel sorry for those children because its the parents who are to blame. I respect all religions and my son may play with any child he would like to.I just dont like when religions are to extreme. If it were my son i would let him know that it isnt his fault that they dont want to play with him,i find it important that he doesnt think he is doing something wrong.i hope you can find some other parents with kids that dont judge(religion,skincolour etc). Hope i could help you.

Kealohilani - posted on 03/02/2013




Im a 19 year old mom to a one year old imagine how I would be treated there! Disrespectful regarding what religion you are you should be accepting that's just like being racist.

Michelle - posted on 03/02/2013




I totally agree with Jodi. There is no way I would want my children playing with them either. I have taught my children to be accepting of everyone and not judge people by their race or religion. One of my oldest son's best friends is a Jehova Witness and my son thinks it's sad that he doesn't get to celebrate birthdays or Christmas.

You can't change the attitude of others but you can teach your son the correct way to treat people. I would explain that maybe they aren't very nice people and that he should find some other friends to play with. They aren't worth the effort!

Jodi - posted on 03/02/2013




I don't think I'd want my child playing with the children of such obvious bigots. Imagine if the attitude rubs off. That's just outright rude, and each and every one of the parents of those children should be ashamed of themselves.

And if this is what those of the LDS encourage their children to do, then I have absolutely no problems offending them by telling them how very rude and bigoted they are.

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