personal experience.

Jessica - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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i am 21 and have a 3.5mth old little girl. i have noticed that when i tell people i have a child they seem to assume that i am a lot younger & therefor i am stupid. lol. i mean, in the city i live in it seems to be a trend to have a child by 17. and in my personal opinion all of the people i know that have kids and are that young seem to just want them as a toy. so when i am telling people about my little girl they look at me as if i wanted one just to have one. which is not true, sure it wasnt planned but my husband and i have been together since we were 16 & we've both been working & finished school 3 years ago, we lived our lives and are happy to start our family. everyone around us thinks we are crrazy for having a baby so young. i really wish people would stop looking at me as an idiot... i lived my life, did my fair share of partying and am happy. it doesn't bother me all that much but it gets really annoying. lol.
i mean, back when my parents and grandparents and greatgrand parents had their children, everyone was having them at 18 or 19. & now it seems to be as if they think the world has changed a ton, when really it hasn't.
i refuse to judge anyone at any age having a child. if you can raise your child with your own money and your hard work, and show them the right way then all age really is, is a number. now, if you have a child and then pass them off to everryone else to raise, then sure, i dont think your fit to be a parent yet. but if you can do, even if your getting help once and a while then im all for it. just like in relationships.... age really is only a number and does not define your maturity.
thanks for reading my little rant. hope you enjoyed!
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ps. if i offended anyone in this, i want meaning to. honestly. its just my opinion.

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Jessica - posted on 05/02/2009

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in total agreement.
there are some amazing moms and dads that are young...and then these....
children are ruining it for everyone. they are all like "i dont wanna give anything up for my kid" where as i am not giving anything up, im expanding my life.
im doing things i only dreamed of... for example, i always wanted to model and im not one of those super skinny girls, but my daughter only being 3.5mths old has given me so much strength. with her & my guy i feel anything is possible now.

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i agree with you, i was 17 when i got pregnant, and just turned 18 when i had my daughter, and everyone looked/still loks at me like i shouldnt have a kid, and i've even gotten the comments "she should have kept her legs closed' or some lady actually told me 'your child isnt loved and you can't give her the life she wants/deserves/and needs cause your so young and your not with the father anymore' along with other things, (not a word of a lie, and it was right in the middle of work)

I agree with you too with if you can raise your child by yourself and do a good job of it, then age is just a number. i worked 2 jobs when i was pregnant in order to get mat leave, now im in college doing it alone, granted my mom and family help me out. but still. . I truly hate seeing people that pop out a child thinking its the 'in thing' and then just pass it off to their parents or someone else. (i know someone like that, the grandparents have full custody of this little girl, cause she wanted to party and do the normal teenage stuff, and now shes pregnant again and shes 18 i think) i hate seeing that, cause it's people like that that make the good young parents look bad. in my opinion to put it bluntly.

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