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Christy - posted on 08/03/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I STARTED DATING THIS GUY JAMES... ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS... I THOUGHT HE COULD BE THE ONE FOR ME.. HES GOOD WITH MY DAUGHTER BUT NOBODY TH INKS HE IS.. PPL T HINK HES MEAN AND PPL BEEN SAYING THINGS THAT NOT TRUE BOUT HIM... MY FAMILY IS ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE.... MY MOM SAYS MY DAUGHTER IS AFRAID OF HIM... SHE WONT SAY NETHING TO ME... HE JUST BROKE UP WITH ME TONIGHT CUZ OF THEM.. PLUS OF WAT I DID BUT HE HAD HELPED ME CHANGE MY WAYS AND STUFF... IDK WAT TO DO... I LOVE HIM SOOO MUCH N IT WAS DIFFERENT WITH HIM THAN NEBODY ELSE....

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Kylie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Turn your caps lock off in the internet forum world caps is considered shouting :p
ok so i think you should take this break and have a breather, you need to put your child first before anything and its really unfair to be introducing her to a new man, someone who you feel you want to marry and thern have him saying this is going too fast etc. i think you should have waited at least 3 months before this guy even met your child. it's all well and good to fall in in love in flurry and rush into a realtionship that feels so right when your a single woman but when you have a child you need approach the whole dating thing a lot differently. if this guy is truly the one..take it very slowly and cautiously and protect your child from hurt and disappointment. If he is worth it he will wait and go very slow and this will give you and your family the time to assess his true character and intentions. People usually date for 2 years before they are comfortable enough to show each other their true self.

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Christy - posted on 08/04/2009

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idc if having the caps on means shouting.. its just on cuz i always have it on

Christy - posted on 08/04/2009

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cassidy is with me 24/7 when im not working mostly... my bf isnt ready to be a dad or get married or nething.. his focus is on school right now. his family is kinda rich they get to do what they want but after my last bf i wasnt goingto date nebodyunless i thought it could be the one i spend forever with.... if this doesnt work with him.. im never freakn dating another guy or even touch a damn other guy ever again. i cant stand being alone ... all i wanted was a family a mom,dad, baby... is god punishing me? none of my relationships work... my bf helped me be a better person... i shut ppl out of my life and dont do nething im suppose to be doing or change or act different ina relationship... ive never had a real relationship with a guy.. not even my babys daddy... idk how to act im trying my best to do everything i can to make things happen for me. its my family who gets me mad about guys... mom didnt like ne of my bfs. it pisses me off. i left a few guys cuz of her so we wouldnt be fighting bout it nemore. i hate when my family interferes with my life. i am putting cassidy first. but mom takes her from me on weekends so how am i suppose to do things with her. my daughter calls her grandma "mom" it makes me mad but mom wont do nething lto change it.. pplthink shes her mom n im her sister. i love james. i never loved nebody like i do him. no one sees how he is cuz they dont go around him much like i am. hes with me every nite and every weekend. mom says hes mean to cassidy.. hes not mean he just tells her to listen to me .. ya i yell at her but only cuz shes not listening ... the other day we was getting ready for church n she wouldnt get dressed and was running around the house... so my bf caught her n told her to listen. he didnt like yell at her like i do.... hes just trying to help me with her. i just dk wat to do. im sick of ppl saying things bout him like hes a child molester... hes not 22 hes 42... he threw cassidys toys away.. hes jealous of my grandpap... hes mean to cassidy... all those aint true. it makes him mad n not want to be with me cuz of wat my family is saying. it makes me mad too. i just wanted it to work this time with someone new. i just wanna move away and forget everybody.

Christy - posted on 08/03/2009

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TY FOR WRITING ME BACK... I NO ITS CRAZY TO LOVE SOMEONE IN 3 MONTHS.. THERES SOMETHING DIFFERENT BOUT HIM THAN THE OTHER GUYS IVE DATED. HE HELPED ME BE A BETTER PERSON. HE GOES TO CHURCH N HIS WHOLE FAMILY DOES.. HIS WHOLE FAMILY IS ALL NICE AND FROM NORTH CAROLINA.. HES HERE TIL DECEMBER FOR SCHOOL AT WYOTECH... Y DID WE GET TOGETHER IF IT JUST GONNA FALL APART FOR? MY DUAGHTER WONT TELL ME ANYTHING. IVE TRIED TALKING TO HER SHE JUST DOESNT WANNA LISTEN... SHE SAYS SHE MISSES DADDY... (HES NOT HER REAL DAD THO... I WAS WITH A GUY FOR 3 YEARS SINCE CASSIDY WAS 5 MONTHS OLD SHE CALLED HIM DADDY)... MY MOM IS A TOTAL B***** ABOUT EVERYTHING. MY BF LEFT ME TODAY BUT ITS JUST A BREAK FOR NOW TO SEE WATLL HAPPEN... HE SAYS IM MOVING TOO FAST.. TALKING BOUT MARRIAGE/MORE KIDS N STUFF... I JUST WANT WAT MY FRIENDS GOT.. THEY'RE MY AGE TOO MARRIED/ HAS KIDS. ITS NOT REALLY FAIR... WHEN WILL I GET THAT? I HAVE GOT RIGHT WITH GOD SUNDAY... IVE GONE TO CHURCH N STARTING A NEW LIFE.. I JUST WISH THINGS WOULD GO RIGHT WITH MY FAMILY/BF NOW.

September - posted on 08/03/2009

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Sounds like a lot of drama to me! Maybe your main focus needs to be your child :) Plus how can you truly love someone in 3 months... Good luck!

Stevie - posted on 08/03/2009

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i totally argee with annette i have been told that a few times too when i was younger and you know your daughter might be afraid of this man and doesnt want to tell you cuz she is afraid to hurt your feelings or something idk have you sat down and talked to her about how she felt about him maybe she would tell you then but it was probably for the best he is gone maybe now you can find an even better guy all of you like :)

Amanda - posted on 08/03/2009

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if theres stuff your family doesn't like about him and you see it as wrong tell them but i am 27 and i have been in relationships where my family has had something against my partner and there instincts were right on the money but if you think hes the one go get him.

Annette - posted on 08/03/2009

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depending on the kind of people ur family are, it's probably just that they see his demeanor more clearly than u do. I have gotten into relationships that my friends and family warned me over and over about long before I could see anything wrong with the guy, but more often than not, they were right. it's hard to see the red flags when ur involved and falling for someone, they tend to get buried by the fun times and also shrugged away b/c u don't want to believe it means anything. ur family may be wrong about ur guy, but it's also very likely that they see something about him u haven't discovered yet.

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