PLEASE HELP ME

Jade - posted on 07/29/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I recently had a bad month, i was in a domestic violence relationship, my family home of 6 years was flooded where i was left homeless and i lost my job also from this. At this particular time i could not in my eyes give my daughter of 2 what she needed and deserved and could not keep her safe seen as i was homeless. I agreed with her father for him to look after her until i sorted myself out as he had money, a safe enviroment and a home to give her, i feel i done the right thing as any mother should. However he has taken her to southern Ireland and is refusing to give her back to me. I have been to see a solicitor and they have informed me that there is nothing i can do as she is another country. Please advise me i need help.

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User - posted on 07/31/2012

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even if he brings her back i advise to still apply fo rthe orders otherwise he could take her again!

User - posted on 07/31/2012

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you need to get a residence order and a prohibitated of steps order against him you also need to get a lawyer in side so you can go to court as an emergency case ex parte also call the poloice and tell them what has happend he should have to bring her back as im asuming you both have parental responsibuility you have a say that she be brought back to you. you will have to give evidence and a statement to the court and poloice regarding the domestic abuse you suffered and if you suspect your daughter to be at any risk. if you cant get help of a solicitor then you can mayby file to court on your own if you download the paper work and apply representing yourself.

Amrit - posted on 07/31/2012

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Is he a US citizen or and Irish citizen? Different countries have different laws. For example, many women have fallen in love in arab countries, moved there, and had babies, only to find out that they want to go home and bring their children, but in those countries the man has the right over the children, and if a wife tries to leave with them it could be considered kidnapping and the kids would go back to the dad and the mom would be SOL..
If he is an Irish citizen, I would go there to where he is and contact a lawyer/the authorities and see if they can help, meanwhile you might at least get to see your daughter. Do you know his parents? Would they sympathize with you? Would they help you see her/get her back? There must be gov't agencies here in the US that are meant to help with that kind of thing. Did you contact the police?
How did he get her out of the country? did she already have a passport? I know to drive thru canada if both parents are not present that the parent bringing the child must have signed permission from the other parent to do so.

Amie - posted on 07/30/2012

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Is it better for your daughter to stay with her father though, since he can provide for her? Both parents should have equal rights and I don't agree with what he has done, but is she better off there?

I really feel for you and your daughter who is stuck in the middle. Have you tried ringing a women's community group or crisis centre. They may be able to provide accommodation, work assistance and legal advise for you. Some of those places can advocate on your behalf in making the correct phone calls.

Good luck Hun.

Amie - posted on 07/30/2012

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Ring a women's help centre, they may be able to make calls or assist you in the right direction

Kelina - posted on 07/30/2012

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Why don't you try calling a lawyer in Ireland and seeing what they recommend? It's possible that under the law there you can just go pick her up and bring her home. I'm not sure how he got her there in the first place though considering you're supposed to have the permission of both parents to get them on board a plane to get out of the country.

Helen - posted on 07/30/2012

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In Ontario all u have to do is go to the courts and they will make him come back a mother has all rights matter what the case keep fighting you will get her back don't stop no matter what

Stifler's - posted on 07/30/2012

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He's her father though. You can't just hand the kid over and then expect them back immediately when you want.

Jade - posted on 07/29/2012

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I am 22 years old and have no family or friends who can help me, im dealing with this alone i would really appreciate if you could do that for me. I love my kid she is my life and i must get her back for my well being. The reason why i feel there must be something is because i have hear worse cases and they have got their children back. Thank you so much x

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