Post natal depression

Lizzie - posted on 01/23/2009 ( 51 moms have responded )

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Hi,

anyone else suffering from this right now!!! In need of some supporting ears/advice

x

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Nina - posted on 11/30/2012

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Hi, i been diagnosed with postnatal depression, two months ago but i had it ever since i got pregnant. I found doing yoga, swimming, having a bath and going for a walk to the library or coffee shop and sitting and having a hot beverage is nice. Also i have learned that i just need to let some things go, sometimes but for me it is easier said than done. Its hard sometimes to get out because i also get very bad anxiety, but i noticed it helps me better to get out the house than stay in. It also helps to do little things for myself like making a cup of tea, it helps to relax and reminds me take care of myself.

Melanie - posted on 02/19/2009

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Hi Katie..how are you doing with everything..Hope all is well and going better for you!!

Katie - posted on 02/07/2009

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Quoting Melanie:

My self I hate being on Medication I dont like the idea of having to take a pill everyday just so that i can manage day to day things.I am wanting to come off them but i have been told it will be hard because apparently your body gets addicted to them.I know a few times i have missed a day or two of taking the effexor and my arms and chest all go numb,and i feel very sick from it.I see my doc next month and want to talk about coming off them slowly.I was the same towards my daughter to.Wanted nothing to do with her other then making sure she was fed and changed.First chance i could get to get rid of her i took.Then knowing the day she was coming back I dredied it..And Katie Iam sorry to hear about you moving from your family..What about friends or maybe even moving back to where your family is..I can definatly say that if you have some kinda support it helps a bit...Dont be affraid to talk about it.Another thing I could suggest is taking omega 3 6 9 vitamins and b6 they help with something in the brain.Also excersise! it is supossed to get adrenline going wich helps to make you feel better..These were some suggetions my health nurse gave me.You probally will find that you dont have the energy to do it.But just tell yourself that you dont want to feel like this anymore and force yourself to do it..I wish you the best.



thank you for your advice i will try and get out more see if that helps me..i also have my brother down nxt week so hoping that will do me some good as i want to get this out of my system as soon as i can and be a good mum to my kidsx

Melanie - posted on 02/07/2009

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My self I hate being on Medication I dont like the idea of having to take a pill everyday just so that i can manage day to day things.I am wanting to come off them but i have been told it will be hard because apparently your body gets addicted to them.I know a few times i have missed a day or two of taking the effexor and my arms and chest all go numb,and i feel very sick from it.I see my doc next month and want to talk about coming off them slowly.I was the same towards my daughter to.Wanted nothing to do with her other then making sure she was fed and changed.First chance i could get to get rid of her i took.Then knowing the day she was coming back I dredied it..And Katie Iam sorry to hear about you moving from your family..What about friends or maybe even moving back to where your family is..I can definatly say that if you have some kinda support it helps a bit...Dont be affraid to talk about it.Another thing I could suggest is taking omega 3 6 9 vitamins and b6 they help with something in the brain.Also excersise! it is supossed to get adrenline going wich helps to make you feel better..These were some suggetions my health nurse gave me.You probally will find that you dont have the energy to do it.But just tell yourself that you dont want to feel like this anymore and force yourself to do it..I wish you the best.

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My oldest was born at the end of 2003. I wouldnt even go near her. I wanted nothing to do with her. I would do what I had to do for her, but when a chance came up where I could get someone else to take care of her I jumped at it.

I was very depressed and wasnt myself at all. I kept everything to myself for a lnog time, I always put on my happy face. Summer of 2005 I finally went to my doctor. I was put on Celexa. The first month was great, I was happy again. Then it stopped working and they put my dose up, again it worked. But after a few months of being on it I realised yea, I was happy again, but I still wasnt ME. So I took myself off the pills andjust started doing things for me, going for a walk after dinner by myself, small things like that. And it helped a little. At the start of 2007 I had gone to my ob/gyn because we had been trying for awhile to get pregnant again and it wasnt working out. When she did her tests she saw that my progestrone was that of a 70 year old womens. I started taking some fertility meds. After a month of them the blood tests showed it had worked to level out my hormones. And to my suprise, I was no longer depressed and I was myself again. PPD/PND is a hormone imbalance, doctors treat it as 'depression' and give patients anti-depressants which mask the problem, it doesnt fix the problem.

My fertility treatments didnt work, I still didnt get pregnant on them. 6 months after I gave up I did find out I was pregnant again. After having my second daughter I had my hormone levels checked (she was 2 months when I had them checked) and they stayed normal (thank god!) and I have no PPD.

Most doctors will still give anti-depressants and ignore the fact that your hormones need to be balanced and laugh at you if you even meantion it. But it does work and it is what you need. Just keep going to new doctors till you find one that will listen.

I was lucky, my ob/gyn listened to me, my GP would not, he kept trying to give me anti-depressants, and still does try.



Those 2-3 years of PPD were hell. I feel terrible for the way I was with my daughter, her and I are close now, but not as close as we could be. And I know its because of how stand offish I was when she was a baby.

Katie - posted on 02/07/2009

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no my partner at time said if we moved bk to his home town he wud be happier and things would improve between us things got worse...so i actually moved away from my family which makes things ten times worse they live hour away...x

Melanie - posted on 02/07/2009

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I couldnt imagine go thruogh everything alone.Does your family help with anything?I was the same during my second pregnacy. I was not really happy about it at all.I was happy with just having my son.I do love them both very much..I know about feeling bad for feeling the way you do.It will get better.It may seem like it will never end and that time has stopped,but i really suggest talking to you doc about everything,you are not alone..And dont be ashamed about it either..One thing that someone told me to to is write a journal but only try and write the positive things about your self.At first it will seem impossible to write anything.But eventually you will be able to write even 1 thing and so on..If you need anything I will try my best..And remember you are not a bad person or a bad mom by no means.And dont let anyone tell you that..Like i said you are not alone.....

Katie - posted on 02/07/2009

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hi

I may have PND my health visitor came over wed and is keeping an eye on me been crying loads every day for 2 wks noe and been feling low hardly go out atm really moody my baby is only weeks old tho but i also have 2 yr old and didnt feel like this with him at all but he was planned this baby was not..i love them both the same...i feel as if everyone judging what i do and how i do it...and i dont want to fail..i am single parent as split from baby dad in dec..i personally think i had ante natal depression while i was pregant i cried loads during and didnt want to have any more children as i didnt feel i could give them both the love they desrve..my partner at time begged me to keep baby and in the end i did..sometimes i think i made rite decision other times i dont but i love them both.......but i should not think like that and i hate myself for doing so..my partner told me when we got together that he cud not have children and only admitted last wk it was lie which did make me really angry as i had such bad birth with my first and didnt want the same..luckily i did have a much quicker birth...i dont feel as if i m coping very well at all and it is really hard on my own..i m not really eating much either atm i just dont feel hungry..i know i need to be strong for my children i just dont want to feel like this anymore its horrid and feel bad for feeling this way..

Kathryn - posted on 02/07/2009

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i am on tablets for it, i only got it when me and my partner moved into our own place so then i had a whole lot more to cope with trying to look after a 3-4 month old baby and looking after the house. i struggled for a while until my son was about 7 months old. they have helped a bit...more in the beginning but it didnt fix the problem. so me an my partner stil fought and things about the housework and helping etc, but i think communication is key for dealing with it. i quite often felt like a failure as a mother becos i used to get so frustrated with my son because i was so stressed out and tense that he picked it up and was very unsettled all the time....but i realised that this wasnt the path i wanted to go down and so i talked to my partner and i went on the tablets, and started sorting things out. so the tablets dont always fix the problem they provide relief, but ultimately if there is something fuelling the depression you need to find out what it is and fix that before you can move on i think.

Laura - posted on 02/07/2009

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I had terrible post natal depression after having my son and pre natal depression before having him. It was the darkest days of my life. I eventually went to my dr because it got so bad. Spend time with you friends or arrange to meet other mums get out of the house even if you don't feel like it, it will do both you and the baby the world of good. If you have the chance of getting a baby sitter spend time with your other half or go out for a night with your friends. You may feel alone but there are people that care for you and love you around you. this took me a long time to realise this. Hope you feel better soon

Melanie - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hi name is Melanie iam a mother of two.After my Daughter was born 18 months ago.I was diagnosed with postpardum depression.About two months after she was born I completly fell apart.I felt so lonely didnt know who I was anymore.I felt major guilt for my son,I was having anxcity attacks.I even quit eating(couldnt keep anything down).I lost almost 25 pounds in 2 weeks.It came to the point where my baby girl had to go stay with family for two months so I could get better.My doctor put me on Effexor.Eventually I got a better enough that i could bring my daughter home..Its been very hard to get where iam now.Iam still on Effexor 225mg a day.

Beth - posted on 02/02/2009

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Hi there,
I am suffering from depression. My doctor put my on some medication. They help but most importantly I found that taking things slowly and not beating my self up all the time really helps. Getting out for a walk and talking things through is great. If ever you need a chat just holla x

Lizzie - posted on 02/02/2009

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Husband is working a night again and I'm beginning to feel scared and worried about him! One side of my head is telling me he is fine and the other which is winning says something must be wrong! This happens alot and I hate it! There is no reasoning with myself. I higher tablets not sure how long they take to kick in this time. Had a few days feeling a bit better but tonight feel so low!

Samantha - posted on 01/28/2009

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i have had PND for almost 4 years now and I am still battling it. i'm here for u if u wana chat hun

Mandy - posted on 01/27/2009

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Quoting Lizzie:

I really feel like i'm going backwards, spoken to my husband and he has noticed how down i've become again and acting like i was before put on the pills. There is a 5 month waiting list to speak to a professional. I hate being like this.



is thre no way of seeing anyone sooner?? a walk in clinc to get a referal?? keep pushing and being persistent!!!!

Mandy - posted on 01/27/2009

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catherine, i am so sorry you are going through this!I knowit is hard but as cliche as it sounds you need to admit to yourself that you are not happy and you need to decide whats best for you and your baby.  I think all too manytimes people stay in relationships because they feel they have too, but I think you need to talk to your husband and tell him how you are feeling, these feelscan be because of PPD and you can get through it together, I was the oppisite way..didn't want my husband to leave my site and my GF as like you...I think if you are honest and open about everything then it will get better...I think you need medication as it gets better fster, but if you don't feel safe u need to talk to your dr...

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im in a tight spot at the min. My daughter is 18 months old and im feeling sh*t. I've suffered from depressionon and off since 2004. when i was 6 months pregnant i started having panic attacks and was having nightmares about giving birth. when i went to the midwife for help i was refered to a psychiatrist and social services but that just made my anxiety worse cos i felt that they were going to take my baby away. I never saw the same person twice, appointmentswere cancelled withuot me knowing and social services would turn up at my house 2 hours late. my last appointment with them was 8th aug 2007, but i didn't get a discharge letter til 4th Jan 2008.

I married my husband in sept 2008, but now im feeling like it was a huge mistake. Im fighting thefeeling of running away from everything everyday.

I dont want to go to the doctors cos they are just going to put me on tablets and i know they make me worse (i've taken 2 overdoses of prozac in the past all because the temptation of having the tablets in the house).

can anyone suggest anything to make this better?

User - posted on 01/27/2009

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i know the feeling.i am having a really bad day today i woke up late to take my son to school but the thought of taking him in late terrified me because its his assembly i just felt they were going to think i was a bad mum that cant be arsed.The school is very good and i have explained my situation but when i feel like this i just dont know how to pull myself out of it!I love what jasmine said ' its like falling down a big hole and being content to sit there at the bottom and not try and climb out' that is exactly how i feel today!!! i have both kids at home today my son is 4 and my daughter is 17 months and i cant bring myself to do anything constructive with them.the mechanics like feeding and dressing have been done but the tv has been a babysitter and i feel guilty for it.I have been reading my previous advice of get out the house and try but this is a classic example of easier said then done.i am surposed to go to my mother in laws party tonught but i am already thinking up excuses because i am going to have to explain why ciaran hasnt been to school for the past two days.Yesterday was because i hadnt set the alarm and not had anything ready to get him there quickly.it does sound like i dont care i know but i do but when i feel like this its hard enough getting out oof bed never mind facing people.i sound selfish dont i ??i love my kids i do and i know how important it is to get them out the house ,i feel like the worst mum in the world!!!

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I don't know what I have, I don't know if it's even classified as PND. But I know that I havn't felt normal since I had my daughter 4 months ago. Its progressively gotten worse, I am still waiting to feel that overwhelming bond, I know I love my daughter, I would never hurt her and I am not in the hurt myself mode either, however I am a single parent, I am vehicle-less, it's very very cold here in NB Canada so walk are out for now, and I am having a hard time getting anything done not because of the demand of my daughter, but because I can't be bothered. After I first had her the "nesting period came late" I couldn't clean enough, now I have to fight to do dishes. I do , do it. Only because I refuse to allow myself to become a slob, but my wardrobe consists of pj's , pj pants and t shirts and sweats and t shirts, when I go out in public I do get dressed but only to feel like everyone is staring at me.  I have spoken to my doctor and she said it can often take time to build the bond between parent and child, and not to worry, but this is getting a bit silly, and I can see it happening but can't do anything to stop it. ...it's like I am aware of everything but can't be bothered to make any changes.  Kinda like I have fallen down a really deep hole and am content to sit at the bottom and stay there, instead of trying to climb out.

Alison - posted on 01/26/2009

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This is going to sound really strange, but i found the best cure for my attacks, which are anxiety, so very similar is to read up on it, and depression. It is sooooo much easier to cope with something that is going on, if you understand it. Just google depression and panic attacks and it will explain to you whats going on inside your mind, whaats making it happen and good ways to deal with it. Let me know how you go,. i very interested if it will help you like it helped me.

Helen - posted on 01/26/2009

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Hello i really feel for you i have just come out of the other end and yes there really is an end! I suffered with post natal depression with my second child who has just turned 2 and i really had no idea what was going on in my head sometimes, it can be a very scary thing to admit that you just dont feel right especially when everyone else expects you to be happy after all you have this wonderful healthy baby so whats to be depressed about it seems no one can understand. i wish you lots of love and it does get better x

User - posted on 01/26/2009

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panic attacks are awful,i suffer from then but it is just an emotion the trick is to beat it.Unfortunatly that is easier said than done my doctors put me on proprapnal it stops the fight or flight instinct.It really helped me.It takes practise to beat them you will learn your signals and what triggers them.What my trigger is is being sick in public dont know why but i am terrified so what i do is ffind an escape route or a loo just to regroup if i start to panic.sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt some times i dont even make it out the door.i havent had any talking therapy for some reason and i have just had to try and cope.My partner is fab he makes me do things like i wouldnt get in the car in case i was sick so he gave me a bowl and said be sick in there!it sounds awful but it works.he always says so what if u are sick u arent going to die are u?people are sick all the time,lol.funnily enough i have never been sick in public!!you have to talk to your friends and family the more u get it out the less burdened u will feel i promise!

Lizzie - posted on 01/26/2009

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Seen the doctor and she has increased my pills now on 40mg. Feel awful today couldn't be bothered to get dressed or play with my little one. I feel so guilty about that. Doctor said to phone my health visitor for a chat. So might do that. really want to go to groups but don't feel able to, I get panic attacks about it. Its so horrible feeling this way and don't really feel able to talk to any friends / family about how bad its become. sorry to burden people with it on here.

Alison - posted on 01/26/2009

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I was terrified when i first went to a group but found really quickly that i wasnt alone and that every other person there had felt like that when they first went, You will make great friends that you can talk to and lean on that know exactly what your gooing through. Think of it this way, if you go and hate it, there is nothing lost and you will be no worse of than you where before, but at least you will know that and wont have to wonder what if. But you will like it and in weeks to come you will wonder what you where scared for. We are woman and mothers, we have already done the scariest thing  there is, LABOUR!!! lol this is a walk in the park compared. Have faith in yourself. My thoughts are with you and im sending you some courage, enjoy!



 

User - posted on 01/25/2009

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i really feel for u hun but u need to get out the house, the longer u wind yourself up the harder it is going to become. trust me i have been there.Going to a group is a terrifying thought i know but at least try!even if u get to the door and go home again at least you got there and u can try to improve that each week.what is it your scared of,think of the absolute worst case scenario ,is it really that bad??if you panic u can leave its as easy as that you dont have to explain your self to anyone,but you will probably find u enjoy it! I would suggest taking a friend for support...good luck

Lizzie - posted on 01/25/2009

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I really feel like i'm going backwards, spoken to my husband and he has noticed how down i've become again and acting like i was before put on the pills. There is a 5 month waiting list to speak to a professional. I hate being like this.

Lizzie - posted on 01/25/2009

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Thank u all for the words of support. Am seeing the doctor tomorrow so will tell her how I've been feeling again. Health vistior has been trying to get me to go to groups and I really want to go but keep finding excuses. I'm soooo scared about going and don't really know why. I thought I was getting better but feel quite low again. I do have good days but are beginning to feel like more bad ones again.

To the person who wanted to private message not sure how you do that.

Thank u again

Mandy - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi lizzie this sounds like me and what I went through exactly.....this is post partum depression and you need to talk with your Dr and be very honest, there were some things I didn't tell him as I knew it would cause more grief then anything but I told him the most important stuff...I new for a fact I would never hurt my daughter so that was number one...you need support and it sounds like you have it..and if you are on medications you need a higher dose!!

Mandy - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi there, I am so sorry for all of you that are going through this I was diagnosed with Post partum depression a week after my daughter was born.  I had a wonderful pregnancy and I have always been a happy happy person, so when she was born I knew something wasnt right.  This was one of the worst times of my life, looking back on it now I realize that I can pretty much overcome anything but it still hurts to look back on it.  I was placed on cipralex 10mg is is a new PPD medication that binds to the one seritonin site in the brain and it is pretty effective and fast.  I had to go back about 2 weks later nad was placed on a higher dose and within a month I was almost back to my old self.  I stopped taking the medications when my daughter was 9 months old, I had some withdrawl from it but it is ok now.  It was very hard for me to go through this because I had 4 close friends have babies around when I did and it was so effortless to them and then "loved" being a mom, and it wasn;t like that with me.  I am very open and talk about it to anyone that needs the advice its hard but you need to get yourself out of the house but I think that PND or PPD needs medication it isn't something that can change without...granted if you want to wait 8-12 months it will get better but I could never imagine waiting that long to enjoy my little girl, it hurts enough to look back ont he months I lost with her and it breaks my heart.....and it breaks my heart to know that I will go through it again with my next, but I have the resrouces and the knowledge and strength to overcome anything!!! There is a WONDERFUL book my gf gave me it is called The mother of all post partum depression books.......this helped me to see that I wasn't the only one going through this..cause alot of times you feel as though you are.   Good luck and we are all here for you.....

Emma - posted on 01/24/2009

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do you go to anybaby groups i find they really help me baby gets to play with other babies and you get to chat to other mums it really helps i had really bad pnd  before i started to go to things like that  if you dont do any allready and you dont no were any are just ask your health visiter about them and if your worried about going because you dont no anyone dont be most mums there are in the same place you are but  if you really dont want to go on your own the health visiter will go with you the first few times if you want her to and they really do help 

Marie - posted on 01/24/2009

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i had pnd with my youngest daughter, i found just having some me time helped alot hunny let dad take over 4 a bit and you go and do your thing!! xx

Vicky - posted on 01/24/2009

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yeah i suffer from it too, but am proud to admit it has made me a stronger person and i still love my kids dearly.



i find escaping to the gym on an evening really helps me escape and gives me some time to myself.

User - posted on 01/24/2009

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hi , i suffered really badly when i had my son in 2004,over the next couple it just got worse,i suffered really bad panic attacks and ended up just locking my self in the house!i used to hide if someone knocked on the door.I found the tablets helped they werent a miracle cure but they took the edge off and helped me to think more rationally.i had my daughter in 2007 and was alot better.I am still on my tablets now and it has been four years i still have the odd day that i just cant cope but the good days are starting to outway the bad.IT IS NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!! There are people that couldnt understand why i couldnt just pull mysel together and i lost alot of friends through my irrational behaviour but as i am coming out the other end i look at it as the people that really care are still here!!My advice would be tell people u are suffering so if u have any mad moments people know why it is happening obviously some wont but do u really want them in your life?pnd is an illness and a frightening one at that.If u had a pot on your leg everyone would know what to do and be falling over to help you but some people find mental illness(hate that saying) difficult to understand,please get n touch if u need some one u are not alone and there is light atb the end of the tunnel i promise.

Kelly - posted on 01/23/2009

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Can I suggest praying? I know not everyone out there has a faith or believes in God, but when I went through all the things everyone is saying I decided something had to change. So I started getting up everymorning 1/2 an hour before the kids, and reading a bible. Then, because my mind was so all over the place, I would write out letters to God, instead of just praying.



I told him how I felt, how angry I was that this was my life, everything that was going on. Slowly things started to get better. My attitude changed. The things I read in the Bible seemed to directly relate to what I was going through, and I have come so far. This time around with a new baby, I actually enjoy every moment, and understand why people are so happy to have babies. This is a new experience for me, all because of prayer and God's answers. You may be sceptical, but if you are desperate - what can it hurt?

Alison - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi i had a very bad experience with post natal depression. I had suffered it with my son that i had in 2000, but never done anything about it and then i had my daughter in 2004, and still done nothing about it until 2006 when my depression had gotten so bad i started drinking heavily at nite when my kids where sleeping and my husband was on nite shift. According to experts my mind had completly closed down from a mental breakdown and i was living in a fantasy world in my mind, no one around me ever knew because i put on a happy face cause i was brought up in a family where you didnt air your dirty laundry in public, you just simply dealt with it in quite, Well i did that until my mind couldnt take it anymore. I started to live like a zombie and my kids started being neglected. Not normal person neglect but me neglect as im a very full on mum and i became just a whatever kind of mum. I started to self harm to deal with my pain and almost died from one cut. I left my husband and spent 23,000 dollars in a matter of weeks. Im telling my story so that you wont neglect yourself and you must see a doctor and let them, know what is happening before it gets too bad. Have someone that you can talk to when things get bad, learn what triggers you to be down and low and then work out what makes you feel good and do that when you feel it comibg. A good thing is dark chocolate, it is packed with anti oxidents and is a sorta natural anti depressent. Walking is fantastic cause it makes the body realise your happy drug known as seratona. There are so many things you can do, and trust me if you dont ignore it you will come out of the dark tunnel and you will never look back. Im not sure what country you are in but here in australia we have a program called the first five years program which is run by The Benevolent Society and they have volunteers go to a mum who is having trouble and help her and talk por go shopping or just let her take a nice long bath. see if there are any programs like that near you, and also do a you nite where you have your bub watched like once a month and go and out and do something you used to love doing. If you need any advise please dont hesitate to ask, its such a horrible thing to try and deal with on your own and dont ever be ashamed to say exactly what your feeling. It took me a while to work that one out. Im a very happy person these days and a full on mum again lol. And remember a smile on the outside releases those happy chemicals and will always make you feel better.



Good luck and find that strength all mothers have.

Jordan - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi.. I'm wondering if this isn't what's going on with me right now. I haven't felt this way since I had my son, it really only started after he was about 6 months. I left my fiance, my new house, my whole life and now at 22 years old I'm living with my son at my Mom's house. It kind of all hit me like a ton of bricks and doing this Mom thing alone is so hard. I absolutely love my son and I haven't had any negative thoughts in that aspect but I find myself so frustrated all the time for no reason, to the point where I feel like just pounding on something. And the tears come with or without provocation. It's just one of those down and out, find a corner and sleep for days kind of feelings and I've been afraid to go to the doctor about it. Does this sound anything like post partum depression? What is uupp...

Sian - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hiya, I've had post natal depression for 2 years now, tried to sort myself out with help from the health visitor, but ended up on tablets as it didn't help. Now split from my husband (my choice) and things seem to be on the up. I'm trying to come off them, but it's hard work being a single working mum of 2! Best thing is to have people to talk to, who are going through the same thing! Take the help that you can.

Lizzie - posted on 01/23/2009

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thank-u for listening (reading lol) i'm got to go, but your advice is so helpful and to know someone has got through it helps. Will come on here again, think i need the support. thank-u again x

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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you must never ever feel like you are worthless thats rule number one, you gave birth to a wonderfull baby and its dam bloddy hard, you dont sleep you feel shit you dont have time to do things, and no one deals with it the same.

you will have mood swings as your body needs time to get back to norm, and that will take time as you are a moden day mom you work and have a baby to bring up its not easy and very one finds it hard.

but most of all you must know you are not alone.

Fiona - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hiya no they neva really giv me ne tips at all lol. And i dont think the tablets seem 2 work im startin 2 get a bit betta but still av my days lol x

Lizzie - posted on 01/23/2009

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mood swings, been very tearful again. scared myself last week as a horrible thought came into my head when driving home from work, did tell my husband. don't think I'd ever do anything silly though and haven't thought it again. Also get overly worried about baby and husband. Will speak to the doctor again. Health visitor is setting me up for some groups but not sure if I can manage them yet.

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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god been there hun, mine are 5 and 9 now so over the nights, its hard i know.

make sure you tell the docs when you go back how you feel, and take what ever help thay can give you, there are groups that you can go to and alsorts.

i turned down help, pills and ever thing they wanted me to do, and i realy paied for it, my little one was 4 when i got over it and even now i still have my days.

how dose it make you feel? if you dont mind me asking

Lizzie - posted on 01/23/2009

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she's nearly 7 months old. my husband gives me quite a bit of help but is on nights this week, so I have been doing it all.

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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lol its ok, some times it would be good to be a man i think, we give birth ,cook, clean wash, look after and have to look like we are ok.

and the worst part is cus we are women they think we know what we are doing

Lizzie - posted on 01/23/2009

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I go back on monday! Just hate feeling so low and pretending everything is ok! Sorry just having a moan.

Lizzie - posted on 01/23/2009

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Do you think they are helping? I thought they were but the last week as been horrible!

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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sorry to hear that fiona, did they give you any good tips on how to deal with things?

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