Pregnant with my first

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Is Motherhood as hard as everyone makes it out to be?? This is my first and all people want to share is there horror stories..

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Krissy - posted on 06/12/2009

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as far as traveling most docs dont recommend it being close to the due date...I actually stopped traveling about 6 wks before I gave birth b/c I knew I wouldnt carry my baby until her due date. Be safe then sorry I'm sure whoever wedding it is would understand.

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Tanya - posted on 06/16/2009

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There will be a point where you just don't know what to do and you just want to either pull your hair out or break down and ball your eyes out. But yes it is well worth it. I don't think i've ever experienced soo much love for someone so tiny. It really is amazing.

Samantha - posted on 06/15/2009

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well my doctor and I havent discussed it but the nurse practitioner says it isnt a good idea.. I however am starting to think she is a nut job with a few of the things that she has brought up..

Carrie - posted on 06/14/2009

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It is not nearly as bad as some people make it out to be. I have two wonderful children and all anyone did when I was having my first is tell me what everything will be like and it was nothing to that extreme. All you can do is take it one day at a time. I don't know maybe I am just lucky, I had great pregnancies, my children where great babies, and I have a great supportive husband that is always there. So all I can say is good luck and don't let everyone scare you off... Congrats!!!!1

Belinda - posted on 06/14/2009

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Motherhood can be tiring and difficult at times but in the most wonderful, amazing, wouldn't change it for the world way. I've had a few sleepless nights with my little one when you didn't know how you'd get through the next day, then you see their little smiling face in the morning and you completely forget the night before and can't wait to spend the day with them again. Yes there will be hard times, but the good times and the amazing experience of raising your beautiful baby will definately make up for it! Enjoy every second, it goes so quickly!

Kate CP - posted on 06/13/2009

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There are times when I want to beat my head into a brick wall because of my 3 year old...but the wonderful times FAR outweigh the stressful ones. She's my blessing from God. :)

Katherine Leslie - posted on 06/13/2009

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I am sorry that people like to give out the horror stories. I am not going to say it is easy but it is really a thing to look forward to. Now if you were asking about labor then you would get a lot more horror stories. LOL... I have a 2 year old and I am not going through the horrid terable twos. Just remember you are learning with your children and they are learning too. When asking for advise take and pick wisely because some like to tell you how they think you should be and it doesn't work for you nor your child. Just try and see what seems to work with you both. Good luck and you will do just fine. God bless.

Crystal - posted on 06/12/2009

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Yes, like Krissy said, "be safe" in regards to traveling. I wouldn't risk it. That's just too close, anything could happen! You never know when he might decide to get out! :) Plus, if you were going to fly, you can't fly during your 3rd trimester.
But yes, motherhood is amazing! The hardest thing for me is giving up sleeeeep oh sleep how I love thee. ;)

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2009

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It can be a little hard at time but Im 21 with 2 children and I find it more enjoyable than hard. When I had my first child everyone told me horror stories about frustrastion and getting overwhelmed and I was scared to death bc I was 18! But it turned out to be the complete opposite and most of the things I heard never even happened. The best thing to do is just relax and do what you think is right,y always listen to advice but that doesnt mean you necessarily have to use it.

Jenny - posted on 06/12/2009

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Hi Samantha, I have two children one is 16months and my other is 4months, as you can see they are super close together. I wouldn't listen to anything negative anyone says. I think I've heard it all especially with have two so close, but to be completely honest, Its has NOT been a struggle, I have a wonderful husband who loves helping out, every situtation is different, but I truely believe if you are relaxed going into motherhood and take everyday as it comes, you will have an absolutely wonderful experience...looking back I can honesly say it is NOT as hard as people make it out to be, love your kids with all your heart and everything else will come!!! You'll be great!

Krissy - posted on 06/12/2009

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No it'z not hard just a little scary and maybe over-whelming. But, it'z the best thing ever....motherhood! My girls are the best things that ever happened to me. They make me smile and feel like I'm the most blessed person ever. Don't worry I'm sure you'll be fine just be patient and willing to learn something new everyday :)

Traci - posted on 06/12/2009

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Aw, congratulations!!! Babies are sooo special :) I've got three kids and motherhood is NOT as hard as they make it out to be, in my experience anyway. I take my kids everywhere with me ( I don't trust babysitters, only Grandma!) and get complimented by complete strangers all the time about how well behaved they are. It's important to have fun with them.



The infant part is the easiest, especially if you breastfeed. I was never sleep deprived, like everyone says. With nursing, all you do is grab the baby, feed them, change them, and back to the bassinet they go. No worrying about getting bottles ready, etc. So convenient! I don't know if I just lucked out with good babies or what, but I found that time to be the easiest. My favorite age is between and 5. They say such cute things, you never know what they are going to come up with! The terrible twos are a myth. My kids are 6, 4, and 1 and I'm ready for more!!! Being a mom will be the best thing you ever do :) Good luck:)



Remember...you can NEVER have too many pictures. I've been known to take 40 pics a day...:)

Christy - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have traveled up until this month.. the month I am due. I decided for myself not to incase something happened. My doctor agreed that I not travel as well. Maybe U should ask UR doctor what he/she recommends. It might depend on UR situaton. If UR dialated or not.

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2009

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Wow thank-you everyone. It really is a nerve racking experience although everytime I feel my little boy move inside of me I get that wonderful feeling that makes it all worth it. I really hope that motherly intuition kicks in. My husband says that it already has due to my quitting smoking cold turkey the day I found out and the dramatic slow down on caffeine intake.

my one concern that I get mixed feedback on is travel. If anyone can give me a helpful response that would be great seeing as you have all gone through this at one point or another. My son is due in mid september and there is a wedding that I was invited to in early september. The wedding is in Texas and I reside in North Carolina. What is everyones opinion on travel that close to a due date?? has anyone experienced that??

Amanda - posted on 06/12/2009

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Congratulations on your pregnancy... when i was carrying my daughter all kinds of people came up to me and told me their horror stories... i wouldnt worry over all the negative things that people say... some people talk before they think about what they are saying... Being a mother is a wonderful experience, it can be hectic and nerve wracking at times but i never laughed like i do now, i've never loved like i do now and it opens your eyes to whats really important in your life... believe me leaving the house in make up is a rare occasion now... wish u all the best

Jessyca - posted on 06/12/2009

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motherhood is a WONDERFUL thing but of course it can be hard but its so worth it!

Christy - posted on 06/12/2009

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Like the other woman said it is a scary and nerve racking experience. I was so afraid that I wouldn't know what do when my daughter cried. It honestly just comes to you like you have been doing it your whole life. Maybe U will get lucky like I did. My daughter slept through the night from the day she was born. I dont know what its like to loose sleep. I have heard its tough. Although I am PG with my 2nd and due in 9 days. Who knows I might know what life is like with 4 hrs of sleep a day. I can guarantee it will be worth every sleepless second. I can't imagine my life with out my child. Congrats and Good luck. Im sure U will do great. Remember to take deep breaths and only do what U can.

Sara - posted on 06/12/2009

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It's the toughest thing i've ever done, and be prepared that the days of sleeping in are pretty much over...there's a lot of worrying, and it's exhausting, but at the end of the day you have this perfect little person that loves you more than anything and who you love more than you ever thought was possible. As hard as it is, it's also the most wonderful thing you will experience in your life, in my personal opinion. I think people that don't have kids are missing out, personally. You'll be fine! :)

Tara - posted on 06/12/2009

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Congrats!!! Motherhood is scary, confusing, and all the things people say it is but... it's also the most rewarding, wonderful, amazing, enlightening thing you will ever experience. My son is 4 and I've gone through a lot so far with him and my personal life since he was born, but I wouldn't give it up for the world. You will do just fine, and you will be a great mom! Just do what's right for your child and don't be discouraged. Also, try not to listen to all the people around you... take some of the "horror stories" with a grain of salt. If you try to please all the people around you, and take ALL of the advise, you will go crazy!!! Even if they are just trying to help, it can be a bit overwhelming. Congrats again!!!!

Amber - posted on 06/12/2009

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Yes it can be scary and difficult but it is all worth it. I have 4 kids and i was scared every time then when they were born you can never remember your life without them. Its extremely wonderful.

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