Pregnant with my "friend with benefits" child

Elly - posted on 03/09/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have an 8 year old daughter, her father left me for another woman when she was 2, I had another long relationship that started not too long after an even though we tried for years I never fell pregnant, now we are no longer together (for other reasons) and I started seeing an old friend, I told him I don't want a relationship and he is the same. We both are happy single and we both have daughters (his is 7) however we sleep together every chance we get... I started taking the pill too late! I am pregnant! He works away so it was hard to tell him.. I did though but he says he's not ready to be a father again.. I tried for so long! 2 kids to 2 different fathers and I'm single! HELP! I need advice... Very confused :(


Samantha - posted on 03/10/2013



1 crazy...BUT listen hun....if you want this baby and you are able 2 do it without him then go for it....seriously hun not everyone needs a man to b a great parent.. its sad that hewould want to miss out on all the great gifts that his child would have to offer but maybe hheis just scared rite now and just needs time....hopefulky when your beautiful baby comes into this world he will have an entirely different outlook once he lays eyes on him/her.....but if not then no worries. just continue to be a wonderful mommy and do your part in the babies life and if he doesnt come around (hopefully he does) then you will eventually meet that special someone who will love you and them babies so much and then you will have that happy family BUT in the mean time dont rush....dont force him or put pressure bcuz theres nothing worse than MAKING someone be with you for the sake of having a "happy" never works out in the end and deep down everyone is miserable. just take it 1 day at a time and dont be hard on him or try to make him be there for u both out of guilt just give him space and hopefully he'll come around and if not his loss your gain......GOID LUCK HUN

Liz - posted on 03/10/2013




You can do it! Just remember that pregnancy is (sort of) long, and you both will have plenty of time to get used to the idea. I'm sure it was a huge shock for him (and you too, I bet!).


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