Problems with going out with children?

Amanda - posted on 02/13/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )




I am 20 years old and I have a 9 month old daughter. My boyfriend works nights and taking my daughter out during the day seems like such a task that I stay at home all the time. Its not good for my daughter to be home all the time but I just don't know what to do?

Any advice?

Mothers with similar issues?


Timora - posted on 02/19/2013




The more you go out the easier it will be. I have two ages 1 1/2 and 4 and we go somewhere on almost a daily basis too. I take both girls grocery shopping, to target, the mall, out to eat, etc. Pack a diaper bag and an emergency bag for the car so that you always have those ready to go. Throw in some fresh snacks and drinks and you're good to go. I always make sure to have snacks with me so if they get restless in the middle of a shopping trip I have something to give them. Our local mall has a play area, so if I go there I plan to break up the shopping trip with a stop at the play area and I'll get a special snack for them in the food court. I always try to plan it so I can take my time, make sure it's not nap time and just have fun. Choose places to eat that are child friendly and where the food comes out quickly. I don't do places like Olive Garden that take longer unless my husband is with me.

Also look for mommy and me classes, etc. There are also a lot of places that specialize in the baby through preschool age for play time. There are two near me called Bouncing off the Walls and the Little House of Make Believe. Or children's museums are always good.

If you put her in the stroller and start walking and just let her fuss for a while will she stop. My girls went through the stage of not liking the stroller, but I had to take the dog for a walk, so in they went and off we went and it only ever took a few minutes before they stopped complaining.

As far as things like going to the bathroom you'll figure out the stores/places where there are family bathrooms and changing tables. It's definitely a trick to go while holding a little one, but it is possible. I've gone to target and taken the whole cart inside the family bathroom so my little one would be strapped in while I went and helped my 4 year old.

Rebekah - posted on 02/17/2013




The more you do it, the more comfortable it will become for both of you. I'm a SAHM (to 3) and I honestly try to go out (somewhere) every single day. If you never take her out in public then you are not teaching her how to behave in public. So to avoid some major nightmare outtings when she's 2-3 years old, take her out now and teach her what you expect.

Today I took my three kids (5, 3, and 1) to Target, Dollar Tree, Michaels, and Sears, and with the exception of my youngest needing a snack in the middle of Target, they all did great... They've been running errands DAILY since they were born so they've all learned what I expect. Yes, we've gone to story time at the Library and only been able to stay for 5 minutes (due to a tantrum), but that's how they learn.

Mommy - posted on 02/15/2013




Why don't you try taking her to the park where she can run around and not be in a stroller or be held. And instead of taking her to eat in restaurants, order out and have a picnic somewhere. Take her to kid-friendly places, or maybe get her involved in a mommy and me class. There are lots of things you can do with your little one. I remember when I first had my oldest I was apprehensive about going out, but I was also mildly depressed for the forst few weeks following her birth, so that was the cause of those feelings.

Lynelle - posted on 02/15/2013




I was like that with my first for the longest time. Now I have 2 and we go anywhere and everywhere. Maybe thou should try taking her on short outings to the park if the weather permits, or little monkey bizness. You could take her to the library or to the zoo. Anywhere that might keep her engaged and just leave if she gets restless. Honestly it sounds like she's in a phase so if you aren't too worried about it just give it a few weeks and see what happens. The only thing you can count on is that kids will change.
Also, I was so scared to take my 2 boys out by myself the first time but I didn't want it to take away my freedom so I just decided to take them to walmart for a bit (after much planning lol) and it was surprisingly easy and fun! Now my oldest is almost 4 and my youngest is 9 months and we just went shopping at 2 stores yesterday. Don't get me wrong thigh its a lot if work but you can do it!
I hope this helps!


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Lorrie - posted on 02/26/2013




Some of my friends were like this. I always have brought all three of my kids everywhere. How will she not stay in a stroller at 9 months old? Start with short trips until she gets used to it, or over a kid friendly friends house. Seriously though it's not good for either of you. If you do not teach her how to act in public she will not know. I used to hate getting two of them in carseats at the same time. But loved getting out of the house. There were ages I dreaded though.

April - posted on 02/22/2013




It is a task I agree. I have a 3 yr old and 15 mo old. We go somewhere every day. Usually multiple places. Sometimes we all do great sometimes both kids melt at the worst time possible. But we make it. I've sat my youngest on the bathroom floor before in a pinch. They won't learn to behave if they don't have the opportunity. While it can be tough it's worth it for you both. Just take a deep breath and a few snacks and you can do it. Go somewhere to play to start with and then branch out. Good luck :)

Angie - posted on 02/21/2013




I would suggest start out small. Take her to the store when you only need to get a few things. Or just for a walk around the mall window shopping. It does take planning but it can be done.
All good answers here. Bring snacks, something to drink and maybe a small toy to keep them occupied. I don't usually have to go to the bathroom when I'm out but I have 3 kids (aged 4,3 and soon to be 2) and they do have to go. It's not fun taking 3 little ones to a public bathroom but it certainly is possible. And you do learn places that have great bathrooms and others that don't.
My little guy doesn't like sitting in a high chair either, so sometimes that means we eat while he sits in my lap, or if he's happier standing in a chair, I let him do that. It doesn't hurt anything.
Sometimes when we go to the grocery he prefers to sit in the back of the cart with his back to me and I'm okay with that. She can at least sit up, I always found that my kids loved riding in the cart sitting up! You can talk to them, play games, sing songs, make it fun. I actually wish I had my kids with me sometimes so that I'm not talking to myself! Don't get me wrong, I do love shopping alone, it is easier and more relaxed, but you just got to get out there. You won't know what you're capable of until you try.

Rachel - posted on 02/18/2013




Get out and just go! So many places are great for you and the wee one. Your little one is at that exploring stage. Let them. It might take you an hour and a half to walk around the block. You'll be surprised what you learn to accommodate for. Before little chairs in the bathrooms i'd hold my baby on my shoulders and go that way. One thing i learned around week three is that I always have a fully stocked emergency bag in my trunk. If my child is left alone in a barren room for 48 hours that bag will sustain them. I just have to remember to repack it when supplies get depleted.

Amanda - posted on 02/14/2013




The hardest part is being out alone with her. She won't sit in any high chair, stroller, or anything else. At this age she just wants to move move move now that she is starting to walk more. So holding her gets hard and getting everything situated. And I am afraid some places wont accomidate a baby such as bathroom and all that.

Jodi - posted on 02/13/2013




What is it that is making it such a task? Not only is it not good for your daughter to be home all the time, it isn't good for you either. Is there something in particular that is making it so difficult? Only practice will make it easier.

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