psycho ex gf says horrible things about my child...what to do about it?

Toni - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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So my childs father and I split up when she was just a month old, now shes 6 months and Ive decided to start dating again. I found a really amazing guy, just one problem...his ex is insane. She goes out of her way to say atrocious things about me and my daughter on facebook, myspace, and through text messages. When I say atrocious I mean vulgarities you wouldn't even say to your worse enemy. As mothers I know you understand what its like to hear somebody say something nasty about your children and want to just come completely unglued, but im also trying to "be a good mom" and not act like I usually would and just freak out. Any advice???

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Nicole - posted on 07/02/2009

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Hi, I Kinda had the same problem the father of my child and split while i was pregnant. I started dating a wounderful guy when i was only 3 months pregnant now who is my husband,but anyway to the point the real father of my child started to date this girl who was so jelouse she would go out of her way to start rumors about me and son , and went as far once i was walking down the street with my son, friend and her daughter and this nut job tried to hit me and my newborn son. To this day i find myself some-what running into her and her rude comments. The only advise I can give you is try your hardest to ignore her as hard as it is. as a mother you have to think will this affect my child , and if i act in the wrong way i could loose my child. Talk to your friends,family believe or not talking does help!
best of luck,
nicki

Laura - posted on 07/02/2009

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document evrything she says or does and go to the police if ignoring her doesn't work. she's obviously jealous of u, hopefully it will die down, or maybe change ur number? Or like someone else says report her to facebook and myspace. Good luck!

Ericka - posted on 07/02/2009

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Someone should "accidently" let the bat go at the right moment. hehehehe maybe she'll catch the drift! J/K

Toni - posted on 07/02/2009

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those are all great ideas...the harrassment thing for sure, cause i have some of her nasty text messages to prove it.

Breonna - posted on 07/02/2009

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go down to the police station and file a harrassment complaint. that will get her to shuttup

Staci - posted on 07/02/2009

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You can report her to facebook and myspace and get her profiles deleted it's kinda like a underhanded thing that will make her take a hint

Denise - posted on 07/02/2009

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If you're having problems with her in public and she's harassing you, call the police and file a report. If this continues after the season, file a restraining order and if she contacts you or him in anyway she'll be arrested. You'll be able to get her off your back that way.

Toni - posted on 07/02/2009

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I know! ive asked him to just blow it off...but his sister plays on that team too, and she is one of my bffs and he is the best guy on that team. so she begged him not to quit cause they have a shot at the championship. i understand cause im a super competitive person too, but damn. Kassie his ex just makes everything so fing difficult.

Ericka - posted on 07/02/2009

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Maybe he should quit the team. I know there is only a month left, but if he realizes the hell you go through on Sunday, he should be happy to quit. It is only softball, you are the woman in his life!

Toni - posted on 07/02/2009

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he did block her from being able to text him, and she doesnt call him. its my phone she blows up with hateful stuff...and my cell provider wont let me block just one number from texting. he has really done a good job of cutting her out of his life, but they play on the same co-ed soft ball team and thats the worse part. i know there is only like a month left of the season, but every sunday she is harrassing me the entire day.

Alexis - posted on 07/02/2009

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Have your bf change his num...there should no longer be any communications between him and her. and explain to him how it makes you feel about this situation. he should have offered to cut her off immediatly.

Toni - posted on 07/02/2009

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thanks...i hope by just ignoring her she will eventually get bored enough she will move on to a different target.

Charlie - posted on 07/01/2009

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she sounds like a sore loser , dont worry hun i know it hurts to hear someone say things like that , but only a sad, pathetic loser would say such things about a child ! keep your chin up you and your child are better than her .

Toni - posted on 07/01/2009

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ya thats true...the biggest problem is like slow pitch softball games, cause my bf plays in 3 diff leagues. of course she always has some ridiculous excuse as to why she needs to be down at the ball fields, even tho she isnt dating any of the guys that are down there and the only reason she ever used to go was to watch my bf.

Ericka - posted on 07/01/2009

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Can you change your number? I knows it stinks to change your life around, but start going to places in the surrounding area. Check out new places she wouldn't even think to go. Like classy places cuz it sounds like she's probably a little trashy and "ghetto" if she's trying to get in your face and cause a big scene out in public. If all else fails, get an order of protection. Use that as a last resort. That way if you and your honey are out and about and she does show up, she has to leave right away. The management has to make sure that it happens. If she throws a fit, they can call the police and she'll be arrested.

Toni - posted on 07/01/2009

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She is 20 yrs old, out of high school, and they dont have any children. he doesnt even have a myspace or facebook and has blocked her from texting his phone. it me...she post this stuff on her own pages but she texts me all the time. i have a diff cell provider than him so i cant block just one number. on top of the fact that she tries to intimidate me when i see her in public, but im not scared at all. its just embarassing when she makes a scene. i try to ignore her as best i can, but it seems like there isnt a single place we can go in this town that she isnt at or follows us to just to draw attention. its really unbelievable.

Ericka - posted on 07/01/2009

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My God... How old is she (ex)? High school? lol There is not much you can do. She posts this on her own page or your's/ his? The better part of me want to tell you to ignore as much as you can. Show him you are the better person. Of course, the other part of me wants to tell you to kick the ever loving dog shit out of her!!! Teach her a lesson. LOL Anyway, back to the point... If she is texting him/you, CHANGE #'S! Thank God your daughter is too young to understand any of this. Does he still keep contact with her for any reason? Do they have kids together? I know it's hard to ignore, but if she doesn't get a response from either you or him, it will die down eventually. What she's looking for is him to call her, even if it is to yell at her. She wants whatever kind of attention from him she can get.

It's sad how desperate some women can get. Keep your head up sweetie! As far as Facebook and Myspace, don't do anything. It's just her friends that are looking at her page anyway. They probably think she's immature for doing these things anyway. Like I said before, IGNORE it! The more you do and say to her, the more she wins. It's like a naughty child. ;) Hopefully she'll get bored being the only one who is listening to herself whine and bitch. I'm sure her friends will only listen to it for so long.

Good luck!

Jamie - posted on 07/01/2009

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Ignore her, you arent dating her your dating a man. Shes jealous and we can see why he left her.

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