Questions for young moms?

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Ok so im new to this site and I was just wondering how all of you deal with "older" people's judgement on being a young mother. I was married young and my husband and I had our first little girl when I was 21... I just turned 25 and just had our 2nd little girl. But I find when I'm out and about with my kids I always get looks and I have had older people stop me and mistake me for my kids babysitter! My husband works alot so most of the time im all by myself and at first I use to just let it roll off my shoulder because I know I look young and I am a young mother.... but now it really has been bugging me like I have to wear a sign on me that says YES IM A YOUNG MOTHER BUT IM MARRIED AND HAPPY... so stop passing judgement lol. But also I have noticed when im out and older people stop and ask me about my girls they always look at my hand first to see if I have a ring on too.



Thanks ~Missy~ Proud YOUNG Mother of 2 =)

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Nicole - posted on 10/14/2009

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I get theexact same thing but u really cant let it bother you, I get some pretty bad looks especially in my own local area, I had my first daughter when I was 19, got married, then had my secnd days after my 21st birthday, then got divorced am now 23 and remarried. If there are dirty looks to be given I get them, but it doesnt matter becase regardless of age you can still be an amazing mom and as long as you kno ur age doesnt count, your kids happiness and well bing does.

Brittany - posted on 10/14/2009

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I get the same thing i have 2 kids i am 23 they are all like you dont look old enough to have kids.

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It happens to everyone. I was a teenage mom so I can totally relate. To tell you the truth if they do comment I always say: Yes I was an young mom. But I am married to him now and have another baby together. I finished high school, got my bachelors degree and work very successfully and make a good income..

Everytime I say this *which its true they always say wow you are doing good.

People assume that just because you are a young mom that our whole life gets destroyed...

April
www.april56.fourpointmoms.com

Rachell - posted on 10/14/2009

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im a young mother of 3 and I dont really have older people look down on me. maybe im just oblivious to it. i do hawever get a lot of people commenting on how full my hands must be with 3 little girls.

And as for mixed races, its sad that people have to teach there kids to be racist. I thought our country was past that. I try to teach we oldest about races and how every one is still the same.

Lindsay - posted on 09/26/2009

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I think passing judgement on someone as a mother because of their age is ignorant. Its important for people to realize that age is just a number. My Mom was a young Mother and did a great job with me. Look at them thinking your a babysitter for the kids in a positive light.. Like when they get older people will think you are their sister! You must look awesome for them to assume that! :) Good Mothers come in all ages shapes and sizes. Age does not predict your ability to "Love."

Ashley - posted on 09/26/2009

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I use to get this to and it drove me nuts. I had my first kid at 17. I'm twenty five now and just found out i'm having my fourth in March. I am also married and have been since my oldest was one. but when i first enrolled her in school all the other parents where in there mid thirties and so they either looked at me weird or talked down to me like i didn't know nothing cause my age. I just told them my age number does not define my maturity or ability to take care of and provide my children with a happy healthy home. after that they stopped looking at me like that. Now obviously you can't say that to everyone and nor would you want to. This is just one of those things were you have to be the bigger person and ignore it. Your not a mom for them or because of them. and were living in an age where more and more "young people" are becoming parents. people are going to have their judgements and there intitaled to it but you don't have to react or respond and that will show them just how "old" you are.

Esmeralda - posted on 09/26/2009

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i get the same thing!

people think im her aunt,or cousin,babysitter,a very young teen with a child. and then when they find out im married they think it was shot gun wedding or something!



ive learned that i cant please everyone,i dont have the time to tell everyone my story,and i just have better things to worry about lol



try not to let it bother you too much. so what if they give you bad or weird looks. i think a lot of the looks are out of jealousy really. im young,petite,a good mother,and happily married...how many women can say that? or even half of those things?



be proud! and dont worry anymore ;)

Leticia - posted on 09/26/2009

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its ridiculous! my husband is chinese, and i'm white and mexican, although ive been told i look more middle eastern. my son just started school too, and it seems that his class is so diverse nobody has said anything. or we haven't been informed.

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Thanks Im glad im not the only one =) lol. I have a girlfriend and her kids are mixed and her oldest is now in school and she was telling me how kids in her daughters class make fun of her little one cuz her mommy is white and her daddy is black. I really don't know about most people now a days why do they have to be so mean. It's not there life to live it's yours.

Leticia - posted on 09/26/2009

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you know what? i get the exact same thing. and my kids are mixed raced and ppl look at me weird sometimes. you really just have to let it roll off your shoulders. i get it real bad bc i look so young and i'm so small so they really think i'm just the high school kid that babysits after school.

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