Regrets on Pregnancy?

Latoria - posted on 01/15/2013 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Do you regret that you got pregnant so young before your life really started? I'd love your comments please

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Sara - posted on 02/10/2013

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I used to think I did. Hubby and I planned to get pregnant but I "regretted" it after going through the horrid pregnancy and the tough times. But when you really and truly think about it, chances are you'd regret any scenario. If you wait to long you'd regret that and think about how much energy you would have had when you were younger. If you have baby young then you regret the loss of freedom as a child. On top of that, having a baby- whether at 19 or 30 is a huge step. You let go of one lifestyle entirely for another. It's hard. That kind of change is not easy. There is no turning back. And although you miss freedom/money/lack of responsibility well you also gained a whole lot. Both lives have great points and you'd have to make that leap regardless.

Ashlee - posted on 02/01/2013

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II have never regretted having my kids. I had just graduated high school & tuned 18 when I found out I was pregnant with my now almost 7yr old daughter. I was 22yrs old when I had my second daughter who's almost 4yrs old. Yes if I could go back like a lot of women, & wait longer before I have kids I would but only if I got the same kids later in life. I love my daughters dearly & I don't regret any decisions I've made when it came to them.

Christina - posted on 03/08/2013

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I have some major regrets because a week before I got pregnant I never even saw myself in a relationship! I was 21, single, working, in college, had all these plans and BAM! I met her father and he swept me off my feet and I was pregnant a week later, found out a month into our relationship and here I am a year later, engaged, taking classes online, with this child I never in my lifetime thought I would have. I never wanted kids, I wanted an education, a career and a cat. haha Obviously, I would never go back and change anything because I love my fiancé and I love our daughter and if it went any different she wouldn't be herself but sometimes I find myself wishing I had waited a few more years or maybe had a baby with someone else..

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Blanca - posted on 03/11/2013

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No I don't think I do..love my kids..I think because I always had my husband by me helping me 100% and always been a stay home mom has gave me all the time to be with my kids..but at times I do think what would off happen if I waited maybe I would became a RN how I wanted or doctor..it does come to mind other things...specially that now there all in school..

Cyndi - posted on 03/08/2013

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I was 19 and was told that i needed a hysterectomy. I choae not to have it then i became pregnant with my daughter almost a year later,, had her at 21; my son at 22 and my surpriae baby at 23. I dont regret one minute of it. I had always wantef to be a mom and if i had waited it wouldnt have happenes for me and my hubby.

Brandie - posted on 03/04/2013

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I had my daughter at 18. Regrets? No, not really. I love my daughter with everything that I am. She truly saved my life. I was heading down a bad road when I found out I was pregnant, and because of her I made it through my last year of high school (no home schooling or online school, actually walking around the halls of my high school, hearing the jabs and jokes about me the whole year) with straight a's and an opportunity to show everyone the person I knew I could be. And it was all because of her. I do not miss the partying or anything. The friends I lost during and after my pregnancy where replaces with real ones, and other young moms. Some times though, I do admit that I wish I had waited. Not for me, but for her. To be more settled to give her the life she deserves, but I am working on that now. Two jobs currently and planning on going back to school. I can still do the things I had been planning on, just have a companion with me to boost me up when I need that extra kick in the pants, and remind me what I am fighting for.

Blanca - posted on 02/28/2013

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I had my first kid at 15 I was a young mom then at 19 had my second child..and at 21 had my last kid I'm now 29 and my dauther is 14 my son 10 and 8.. I'm young and my kids are big I was able to enjoy my kids to the fullness..but as a young mom I can say it been hard I miss in alot of things..i don't regret my kids I love them but I think if I can change I would off Waited longer to have them...

Jen - posted on 02/26/2013

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I do wish I would have had my daughter a few years later. I got pregnant at 18 and had her a few days after my 19th birthday, and while I love her like crazy, I do wonder what life would have been like if I had been able to do things like live on my own (I lived at home with her until I met my hubby), travel, ect. BUT, I can't change the past :) and if it meant her not being here I wouldn't want to!!

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2013

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I think it's natural to feel that way sometimes. I was pregnant with my son at 20 and had him at 21. I had my first daughter at 22 and my second daughter at 25. I'm 29 now married with the kids father after being together for ten years. When I look back I'm glad I'm a young mom. Kids are tiring and I couldn't imagine starting out in my 30's or later. I love my kids and am happy with our life together!

Nina - posted on 02/23/2013

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Me and my husband got married at 19. We finished college and traveled the us and Europe before I eventually got pregnant
And we had our son at age. 23. There are moments where we feel stuck after having traveled and lived so free, and now we are trapped in a house caring for a newborn. But those moments pass and the excitement of getting to share this new life with our son is so rewarding and soon we will all be able to travel the world together. I think if we waiting until we were old and done traveling and stable, at age 35 or something, well our son would have a less adventurous life and would be exposed to less crazy and fun experiences,

Jessica - posted on 02/22/2013

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I definitely do not regret having my daughter. She is one of the best things to happen to me but I do wish I did a little more before having her. She was a surprise and I had just finished up 18 months of taking care of my mother (she had brain cancer and passed October 27th 2009) her passing meant I could grieve and then get a job again and hopefully travel (which was the main thing I wanted to do). I also wish my life wasn't/isn't such a mess (financially and such but its getting better). So while I wish I did all that, now I just have a little companion to enjoy those trips with me and my SO whenever we can make them happen :)

Melinda - posted on 02/22/2013

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i dont regret having me daughter but i do regret not being able to give her eveything that she deserves due to lack of resources and lack of time to get ready for her arrival

Danielle - posted on 02/22/2013

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Yes, and No.
I was pregnant at 20 and had my son at 21.
The father and I were dating for 3 months before I unexpectedly got pregnant.
My life was in a very delicate position where it could have gone only one of two ways: good or bad.
I had to drop out of college (Illustration Major), and I lost a lot of other opportunities. I wish I would have travelled more, had been better prepared, and had a better understanding of what parenting would be like.

On the other hand, I married my boyfriend, who is also the father of my son.
We ended up living with my father for a year and saved enough to buy a townhouse, finance a new car, furniture, ect. We have went on to have another baby boy who is now 6 months old, and is growing like a weed. We will have been together for 6 years this September, 2013.

I feel like if I had a time machine I would have done everything the same. I took a huge risk, and I feel that it has paid off in the long run. I couldn't imagine I would be any happier than I am now if I would have waited.

Micah - posted on 02/22/2013

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I can't say I regret having my baby girl cause she's my world but I just wish my life wasn't such a mess when I got pregnant

April - posted on 02/22/2013

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Nope. I can't think of a better way to spend my life. I am in school. I can travel with them. I'm not missing out on anything that has lasting significance :)

Ebony - posted on 02/20/2013

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I do, I got pregnant at 18 and gave birth at 19, I had empty promises of him growing up and he never actually did. Now I have another child with the same person but im raising them on my own. I wish i was more financially put together and I never had kids with an immature anal retentive hole. I love my children with every fiber of my being but i wish i had the time to just spoil myself first, put myself together, and make more mistakes so that i could be a better mother to them. Despite my feelings, I have to look on the bright side, I went back to college and graduated with honors and was able to save enough to purchase a home on my own. Anything is possible and I guess we have to show our kids our struggle so that they can live better. I think that if i never became a mother, I wouldnt have become an over achiever now. But it eats me up all the time that i had my children with the wrong person and now they have to pay.

Noel - posted on 02/19/2013

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I had my kids at 20,21, and 25 I'm glad i had them young cuz now at 29 because of medical issues i can't have anymore children. I am blessed every day that i had my little girls.

Marie - posted on 02/18/2013

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Well I can tell you I'm very happy to have had my children when I did my first at 17 by the time I was 20i had 3 boys I am now 24 about to have my first daughter and I'm glad to say I'm a working ,housewife yes you can do both and glad to not be like my crazy wild friends that party and are"enjoying"their lives I'm glad I have my kids and plus by the time me and my husband are 40 somethings we'll get to party while our friends are just in the midst of starting their families so who really has it bad

Jess - posted on 02/17/2013

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Nope! I had just turned 21 when I got pregnant with my first. I started full time college and went back to work full time when she was 6 weeks old. Now 6 years later we have 2 kids (6 and 19 months) and in a year I'll have my Masters. It's not always easy but my kids are my life.

Ashli - posted on 02/16/2013

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I got pregnant with my daughter at 22 and had her and had her at 23. i am now 8 months pregnant with my son. parts of regret being pregnant because of my situation im in now. my ex (sons father) dont have anything to do with me i feel sad. having to do it alone with no help is very hard. and i wish i would have waited.

Rebekah - posted on 02/14/2013

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I don't regret my little Grace. Me and my husband got married and a month and a half later I got pregnant. It was a surprise to both of us. I didn't expect to get pregnant that fast. My husband was hopeing we would have a couple years before having kids. But by the time Grace was born both he and I were looking forward to having a baby. There is somthing about a baby that adds more love to a family and brings a husband and wife closer together. And I wouldn't change the life we have now. I love being a mom. It is the hardest but best job in the world. And when I see that smile and sparkling eyes looking up at me, I feel more happy then words can say. I would never wish that I hadn't had that beautiful precious little girl.

NICHOLE - posted on 02/13/2013

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I GOT PREGNANT AT 17 HAD MY CHILD AT 18. I WENT TO A PRIVATE SCHOOL SO I HAD TO HIDE MOST OF MY PREGNANCY. I WAS ACCEPTED TO THREE DIFFERENT UNIVERSITIES ON A RUGBY SCHOLARSHIP.
AT TIMES IT GETS DIFFICULT NATURALLY, BUT I DO NOT REGRET IT ONE BIT!
MY SON, WHO IS THREE NOW, IS MY BEST BUDDY! I LOVE IT AND HOESTLY FEEL I WAS BETTER OFF, PERSONALLY, BEING A MOTHER THAN GOING TO THESE SCHOOLS.
I JUST HAD TO REROUTE MY LIFE A LITTLE.

Jessi - posted on 02/05/2013

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No sense in worrying about it now, is there? I got pregnant at 16, and am now expecting my second child 12 years later with my husband of 10 years. I made choices as a result of my pregnancy that led me down this path, and I really think that my life is better off for it. Without my teen pregnancy, I would not have become a nurse, or met my husband (because I would not have attended the community college that I did instead of going out of state for school). You make the choices you make and you can only blame your kids so much for your missing out on doing something. I'm not sure what you miss that you think is better than being a mother? Drinking every night? Having lots of boyfriends? Going to lots of parties? I don't see much worth missing there.

Amogelang Favor Grace - posted on 02/05/2013

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No regrets at all. My two bubbles keep me thinking on my feet, i can ask for anything more.

Jazmin - posted on 02/04/2013

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i got pregnant at 15 had my daughter at 16 im 19 n shes gonna be 3
i dont say i regret having her shes the best thing that ever happened to me and i love her soo much with out her i think i wud be lost in this world. shes my happyness. yes at times i go dain what wud it be if i never had her like how wud my life be how wud the rest of my high skool years wud of been. but then i look at what i have now and i love it.
I LOVE MY LIL GIRL AND WITH OUT MY DAUGHTER I WOULD BE LOST AND INCOMPLETE.

Shawnteria - posted on 01/23/2013

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I think regret is a strong word i believe a person should live life with no tegrets because everything that happens in life happens in good fortune youll always learn a lesson i do wish i would have had more time to enjoy things in life and party more with no worries of diapers and baby sitters but now that my son(going on 3 mnths n 5 days) is here theres nothing i see myself doing without him. And dont feel like youre a bad mom if youre feeling this way your not alone. Your child is your blessing and your gift.

Iris - posted on 01/23/2013

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I can honestly say no lol I love my baby's I have no regrets.... I was pregnant wit my first at 17 had him at 18 oh wait what I do regret is not staying in school that's the only thing

Michaela - posted on 01/22/2013

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I had my daughter at 19 years old. She'll be 3 in a week from today!! It was a shock to find out but I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. She's amazing, super smart, beautiful, talented, and a big stinker. Being a mom or parent in general, is No walk in the park, but it's wonderful and frustrating st the same time

Tiffany - posted on 01/19/2013

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i am bit younger then most on this but i had just turned 18 when i found i was pregnant had my baby turned 19 and i am going to be 20. knowing what i know now i wish i would have waited and thought of the consequences but i do not regret my baby because it was my choice to have her and make the sacrafices and take the responsibilty but i love it because the experince of being a mom is like no other.

Valerie - posted on 01/19/2013

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Never, my son is my life, he is what inspired me to get my life together. I stepped up and became the responsible adult everyone knew i could be. Sure my life will be tougher because I had him at 17 but he is the light of my life and my reason for pushing myself. I'm also never going to give up on my dreams, it might take a bit longer to achieve but I am determined to show my son that no matter what you can achieve what you set your mind to. =)

Sarah - posted on 01/18/2013

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hi im 29 this year and i have 3 sons age neally 11 neally 9 and neally 3 i have been with my partner 13 years this year . i dont regret having my kids early but i suppose if i could go back wait longer and still have the same kids i would only so i could get a better education to have a better job to spoil them more : ) I dont want my kids having kids at such a early age there such a big world out there i want them to explore .

Jessica - posted on 01/18/2013

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I can't regret having my little girl. I became pregnant at nineteen and had her at twenty. Makes going to college a bit more difficult and I have to plan everything with her in mind, but I love her to pieces and she is totally worth it.

Jessica - posted on 01/18/2013

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I can't regret having my little girl. I became pregnant at nineteen and had her at twenty. Makes going to college a bit more difficult and I have to plan everything with her in mind, but I love her to pieces and she is totally worth it.

Jessica - posted on 01/18/2013

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I can't regret having my little girl. I became pregnant at nineteen and had her at twenty. Makes going to college a bit more difficult and I have to plan everything with her in mind, but I love her to pieces and she is totally worth it.

Ashley - posted on 01/17/2013

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I do not regret getting pregnant so young my kids r my life i wouldnt change it for anything in the world i have 2 beautiful boys one is 7 and the other one is 3 .But yes it can be rough at times but when it gets rough just sit back and look at ur kids and u will love them even more then u do

Lana - posted on 01/16/2013

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Of course! I married at 21 thought hubby and i had some years to enjoy before we had kids and BAM! Oh well shes here now through no fault of her own and we will suck it up and raise her to the best of our ability!

Lisa - posted on 01/16/2013

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I was preg at 19. Had my son at 20. I wish I would have lived more, done more, went to college. I'm 42 now 2 kids 2 adopted kids from second marriage. There is always some things you wished you would have done different but I love my kids.

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