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Alizbeth - posted on 02/21/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 6 month old boy who hasn't started to sleep through the night yet. Also he sleeps on me and I have to sleep in the recliner. Sleeping in the bed next to me doesn't work either. I refuse to do the "cry it out" method. He really screams when I put him down to sleep. I'm willing to try just bout anything else. A way without so much crying and stress.

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Try putting bed elevators under one side of his crib. If he has reflux this can help keep the acid down. Or you can put some books under one side of the matttress.

Alizbeth - posted on 02/23/2009

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Doctor said that Casey could have a reflux problem and that is what is waking him at night. Discovering this I know that if I had tried the CIO method I would be feeling real guilty right now. I have some meds that we can try to settle his stomach. 

Alizbeth - posted on 02/21/2009

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If he is asleep and I put him down sometimes he will stay asleep for about 2 hours. Other times he wakes up right away and starts to cry. Sitting next to him does not help. My mother says that she never had to have us cry it out. I do breast feed. He wakes up hungry still. He is a big boy and eats a lot. The doctor says he is not fat just larger than the average baby. right now I am getting more sleep with him in my lap at night. If I fought with him to keep him in a bed I would never get any sleep and the schedule that we have will be thrown off. Even when he was just a few weeks old he didn't want to be put down, At least now I can put him down to play when he is awake. He doesn't just cry a little he screams after just a few seconds, then he cries so hard he has a hard time breathing and he coughs. I afraid that if I just let him cry he will cry himself sick. You know vomit and fever. So until he starts sleeping for more than 2 hours at a time I guess he will continue to sleep on me.  

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I feel for you.  I would not recommend CIO in your situation at all anyway.  I believe in doing what is best for each individual child, and your child doesn't want to be put down.  My daughter was the same way.  If she was awake I had to hold (just me, even my husband holding her would make her scream her little head off) her and especially if she was sleeping.



I know how tiring it can be.  My best advice is moving you and him to your bed once he is in a really deep sleep.  Do you breastfeed?  If yes, you can also try nursing him to sleep in your bed.   



We did not do CIO with my daughter.  She made it clear that she wouldn't stop crying (the times we had to let her cry like in the car, etc).  How is he when it comes to naps.  A good book is the No Cry Sleep Solution, although it can take a long time for it work.  It is a really good book though and if you follow through with it you will get your baby to sleep without crying. 



Not to make you feel worse, but my daughter didn't sleep through the night until she was almost 2 years old.



I'm here if you want to talk.

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I know it is hard to keep a kid in a routien that wont sleep but it is the best thing you can do for him. Also part of the problem is probably that he is not getting enough sleep witch only ends up making the baby cry and fuss more when you try and put them down. I battled with my son to the point that I had a nurse come to my house that helps new moms. I hated to leave him to cry in his crib till he fell asleep but it ended up being the best thing I ever did. The way I finally got him to sleep in his crib and take successful naps during the day was this: Lets say he woke on screaming at 6:30am in the morning (after i had been up all night with him!). I would get up, feed him, and after lets say 2 hours I would put him back in his crib. I bought a Miracle Blanket and wraped him in that because he would get out of a regular swaddle (www.miracleblanket.com). I would get the room as dark as possible, turn on the white noise maker as loud as possible, and get the room to a comfortable temp. Then I would leave the room and not return for 1 1/2 hours. If he had not fallen asleep I would then pick him up, feed him again, have play time or whatever and then is was back to his crib for the second nap of the day. I would do the exact same thing as the first nap. Come night time he would get a bath (to help him wind down and to signal that it was bedtime) and then a bottle in the rocker with maybe a few books and lullabys. Then we would turn on the noise maker, get the room very dark With no nightlights (remember he is a baby and his brain does not know what monsters or ghosts are and therefore cant fear them). My husband and I would leave the room with the monitor tightly in hand and would wait. If he was still crying after, say, thirty mins we would go in, rub his back or hair. We did this very quietly without talking or turning on the lights. It was important that he knew it was night time and that he had to sleep. After he calmed down a bit (sometimes he would just scream more quietly) we would leave the room and wait another thirty mins. eventually he would fall asleep. For a while he would wake up randomly in the middle of the night. I made sure to NOT GO IN THERE (OK maybe i would crack the door and make sure he hadnt somehow managed to strangle himself). I would give him some time to figure out how to fall back asleep on his own. After about thirty mins. if he was still crying i would go in quietly and rub his back again the same as before. Leave and repeat if he didnt fall asleep.



It usually takes at least 3 days of sticking to a routien for a baby to pick up on it and get in the grove of things. For me after about two days he began to cry for shorter periods of time until he was only crying for five to ten mins before a nap and depending on how tired he was a few mins before bedtime. He is 11 months now and I just realized like last week that he was no longer crying at all before falling asleep.



Before I started all this I made sure to take him to the doctor and make sure there was no other reason he could possibly be crying (reflux, sour stomach, ect.) After switching him to a rediculously expensive formula for reflux, feeding him anacids from the doctor and spending endless worrying we came to realization that the kid really just needed us to help him get to sleep. Which is why he needed to be left alone to cry. He needed to learn HOW to fall asleep which he could only learn by himself.



Baby MUST sleep. YOU MUST SLEEP! Your son needs a mom that is all there and not on her last limb. At least try to let him cry it out for a few days. I was totally against it but it was the best thing I could ever have done for my son.



Sorry for the length and most sloppy writing! Hope I could be of some help.



P.S. One last thing I learned and then I will leave you alone: I previously kept the monitor right next to my ear on the bedside table. I think I seriously believed I would wake up to Aiden not breathing. As if that would make a sound. I finally moved the monitor across the room from my bed about two months ago and I have found that I get much better sleep. I still wake up to him wimpering or crying but all the little noises of him rolling around in his crib no longer keep me awake.



O, lol, and one more tip. He would piss through his diaper sometimes by halfway through the night so I always put him to bed wrapped in two of them. In the middle of the night I would sneak in and as best I could without waking him slide the inner one off. I wouldnt attempt this until he has mastered sleeping on his own.



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Julie - posted on 02/21/2009

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You can't keep sleeping in a recliner. have you tried putting him down in bed and sitting in a chair next to him for a while, letting him fall asleep with the security of knowing you are there. I was just like you with the crying thing. But a little crying wont hurt a baby honest. My son would only sleep in his swing for about 6 weeks or 8 weeks if he wasn't moving at night he wasnt' sleeping. Then I started a routine. Normal feeding times, nap time, bath and bed time. Within two weeks he slept on his own the whole night through. I let him cry for 5 minutes the first two nights and then 10 the next couple night and so on and so forth. he only got to 15 minutes of crying before he understood it was time to go to bed and as much as it broke mommies heart she wasnt' giving in to him. He has been a sleep all night kid since. Its a guilt thing with moms. But you deserve a good nights sleep and so does he. just keep working with him it will work I promise. But in the end you have to do what works but I promise you this will!!

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