Sad sex life

Katisha - posted on 09/09/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hey guys this may be a forward question to ask but my partner and i have a very sad sex life and its been like this for a while now. We have a gorgeous 6 month old daughter together and im a stay at home mother and im the one that gets up to her at night and everything but my partner always says he tired and just avoids sex... Im always the one that comes onto him but im starting to not want to try anymore because most of the time he rejects me... Had anyone elses sex life gone down hill fast since having children and what can i possible do for him to want to have sex with me and make the first move...

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Michelle - posted on 09/11/2013

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Once a man has see his other half give birth he never looks at her the same!!! You have just grown and delivered a little human being and to some men that changes the way they view the female body.
Have a talk to him about why he seems to be avoiding sex. it may as simple as he doesn't want you to have to go through giving birth again and he relates sex to having a baby.
You really need to have a heart to heart with him. We don't know what is going on with him and any advice we give could be completely off!!! Remember the key to a good relationship is communication!!!!! If you can't talk about this then what's going to happen when there are bigger issues in your relationship?

Tanisha - posted on 09/10/2013

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Sometimes when there is a newly born baby men sometimes can get a little jealous or see you as a mommy. I've been through this before with being the one to come onto him and being rejected (which is the worst feeling ever!). Arrange a sitter cook him a romantic dinner if you drink open a bottle of wine and bring out the sexy lingerie and pumps. Men are easy to visually stimulate.

Amanda - posted on 09/09/2013

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My husband and I have that problem from time ti time too. I am also a stay at home mom (of 3. 6,3,1 years old) and always seem to start the act lately too. All men seem to like the southern area to get some attention if you know what I mean ;-). You could try and sneek in while he's in the shower and give him a little lovin' if Baby is napping haply playing. Or maybe even in the middle of the night while he is asleep. Usually works for me.

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Ohh boy this soundsbtoo familiar!! Let me guess "I'm too tired" ... I feel the same as you.. perhaps they ate overwhelmed or something. I cant think of anything else... men are very strange lol... I tried communicating with mine ( not sure if you did.. but maybe it would help) and he tpld me he's tired. I feel as though when he wants to have sex ( even if I'm tired or not feeliing It I do it for him.. be) but when I try... I'm aparantly some sort of sex fiend that needs to calm down lol hugs to you. Xox :(

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2013

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Sorry. I forgot that you have a daughter. Maybe he feels weird with the baby around. I get that way sometimes too.

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2013

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I totally understand, I've been there. I know that when it was me that felt the way he does I was a little depressed. And so was my husband when he went through it *although he didn't want to admit it....I knew* Sit down and talk to him, he may not want to but make him ! Tell him if he cares about you and the relationship you guys will work this funk out. I hope all works well. Do you guys have any kids? That could be a factor too.

Katisha - posted on 09/10/2013

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Yeah its been like this for about 4-5 months and its just hit the wall... I did suggest for him to go see a doctor and he just says dont be stupid theirs nothing wrong with me so i dont know what to do. Iv got my fingers and toes crossed that its going to get better but if nothing changes i dont know what it means for our relationship. I love him but i dont want a loveless relationship either

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2013

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I'm so sorry :-( maybe he's just in a funk. Has this been going on for a while? Maybe he needs to have a check up, sometimes it could be a sign of something....or maybe not. But it still wouldn't be a bad idea.

Katisha - posted on 09/10/2013

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Iv tried sneaking in while his in the shower but all i get is 'cant i have a shower in peace.' Its putting the biggest strain on our relationship, i know sex isint everything but when your 20 and have a sex life thats pretty much non existant it really sucks iv tried everything but its not seemin to work :(

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