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Ashley - posted on 07/19/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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this is my first child so i really am worried about not knowing what to do when the baby gets here im 4 months and 2 weeks just about to go into my second trimester i still haven't felt or seen my baby. Any advice?

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Nesha - posted on 07/22/2013

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That does complicate things a bit. I'm trying to remember everything I've heard from my doctors and read... As long as you aren't: bleeding heavily (soaking pad within hour), running fever over 100.4 F, having moderate to severe lower back/lower abdominal pain that isn't relieved by changing positions, have not had a "popping" feeling in the vag followed by a gush of fluid (clear, straw colored, pinkish, or streaked with blackish green[baby poo which is sign of fetal distress]), are able to keep food and drink down, haven't lost or gained a significant amount of weight in a short time, have little to no swelling of face/hands... then chances are you and baby are fine. Some spotting is normal for some women, it's usually brown or pinkish, there isn't very much, and it doesn't usually last very long, though some spot all the way through.
Try getting a full bladder, drinking cold water, then sit on the edge of a chair and lean forward just a bit till it feels a little hard to breath deeply. Babies don't care for cramped spaces, so you might get your little one to wiggle. This won't hurt the baby. Plus I've found that the full bladder makes it easier to feel the kicks/punches. Worth a try. Hope it works.

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Ashley - posted on 07/26/2013

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yea its hard too because i have to find a new place to live etc before the baby comes and i don't make enough money working at the place i work at to get one so i'm trying to figure things out i believe i can do it though *sigh*

Ashley - posted on 07/26/2013

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yea i finally got to see it today and then i heard the heart beat yesterday i was soooo excited my ultrasound picture of it *the face* looks like a little skelly lol but i guess it wouldn't set still long enough for them to get a good one

Jacqueline - posted on 07/24/2013

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Well, to ease your mind see your doctor and ask. If I recall correctly my first, I didn't feel anything I could be certain about if at all at 4 1/2 months either. It really was after 5 months that the real action started.

Ask your doctor but you may just have a little wait before you feel something.

Ashley - posted on 07/22/2013

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well its tough because i have no way to the doctors so im kinda doing this on my own for the most part....for now i have been taking my prenatals etc drinking a lot of water and i'm just a little scared cuz people talk about stillborns etc.

Nesha - posted on 07/21/2013

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First, good prenatal care is a must. Build a relationship with your OB or Midwife or whomever is taking care of you and baby. Don't be afraid to ask questions, lots of them, no matter how silly they may seem to you. Most caregivers know that even a seasoned mother has worries, so let them ease some of those for you. Also, read pregnancy before/during/after books by people who know what they're talking about. A little research on the authors will let you know who to trust and who's full of bull. I recommend certified physicians or seasoned mothers. Ask around your town/city about pregnancy centers. They usually offer classes on childbirth and parenting, most of the time free of charge. Some even have reward programs for completing lessons about pregnancy and childbirth.
As far as not seeing/feeling baby yet: in my first full term pregnancy, I didn't feel my daughter move until I was almost 20 weeks. I'm not sure if it was because I kept thinking the fluttery feeling was just gas or because I have extra love around the middle, but it was unnerving all the same. The only thing that kept me from freaking was seeing her wiggle on the ultrasound. Some caregivers only offer two during pregnancy, one before 14 weeks, and one close to 20-24 weeks. I know it can be a little pricey, but if there is a diagnostic lab that offers ultrasounds, I would do it. At least that would be one less thing to worry about.
Do relax a bit, though. It's hard to enjoy the perks of pregnancy when you're wound up and nerved out. Get your gallon of water, lol, prop your feet up, and imagine what color hair and eyes your little one will have, or if baby will have your toes. Best wishes to ya!

Michaela Jane - posted on 07/21/2013

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I think everyone feels this way, I knew absolutely nothing about babies and I was terrified but it does all just fit into place as time goes on, I googled everything and websites like this are a godsend! My lg is now 7 months old and im taking everything day by day and learning bit by bit, try not to worry and just relax x

Krystal-Tess - posted on 07/20/2013

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its okay. i think everyone feels this way when they are pregnant (= it'll pass when the baby comes, and everything will come naturally.

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