Serious Question Here... please respond!

Danielle - posted on 07/18/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Alright. I signed up to this site to get advice for my 3 year old boy Jeremiah.

I want some honest opinions on my situation though!

I am not Jeremiah's birth and did not come into his life until the last year. I met his father and it has been love ever since. I feel as if it is my position to take care of him the best that I can...

Should I feel wrong for doing this? His mother has nothing, or should i say rarely, has anything to do with him....

Help?

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Mandie - posted on 07/18/2012

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right on=) Wasn't tryin to be rude or anything.Just sayin even though he is old enough to know the difference those kinds of things can confuse him to no extent. I've seen plenty of people force the Mom/Dad role of another person onto their child/ren and it never ends well. Good for you though,sounds like you got things well handled =)

Danielle - posted on 07/18/2012

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Oh don't worry! He knows who "mommy" is, and he calls me Danielle! I let him make his own decisions. c:

Mandie - posted on 07/18/2012

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Not at all. I think it takes great courage to step into a parental role of a child that is not biologically yours and especially when that child lacks that certain parental figure in their life.The only thing I wouldn't do in your position,is step into the mom role,in other words do not declare yourself as mom to him.Let him make the choice if he wants to give you the actual title or not.Although he is only 3,he does know the difference between his mother being around and you being around and as he gets older he will realize just who is really there for him and who isn't. But I would say keep doing what you are doing because it is very commendable that you are taking care of him the way you are. =)

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