Sex after birth

Erin - posted on 09/22/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I was curious about sex after birth and what other moms experienced.

I had my daughter vaginally about three months ago and to me sex isn't the same; I feel as if i have less feeling down there and was wondering if others have experienced this too. Is it normal or do I have to start doing Kegels? I don't mean to get too personal and I'm sorry if I offend anyone; I'm just at a loss, if this is normal or not.

Thanks all, Erin

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Alex - posted on 09/23/2014

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You should do Kegels anyway! They are fantastic for your pelvic wall and floor!

Your pelvis needs that strength later. It tightens you up and it is a great habit to build. As far as sensation goes, I had my son vaginally and sex wasn't enjoyable again until about 4 months later. I was also mentally exhausted and was self-conscious about my body and that made it really difficult for me to relax.

Try a hot bath, meditate, drink a cup of decaf white tea, listen to relaxing music..or do whatever makes YOU relax...try to get yourself into the mood and try to make yourself climax before bringing your partner back into the mix. Your body has gone through a trauma and needs recuperation as well as a little bit of TLC!

Also, now, the sex is better than it was before...and I have to credit that to my Fiance...but I am nearly positive that as time passes, things relax and get more comfortable.

Don't give up, you're doing great!

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Brandi - posted on 09/25/2014

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I had a csection and we started having sex again about 4 or 5 weeks later it hurt a lot the first time after the baby but after like 3 or 4 times it got back to normal. I've heard about what your going through and yea you probably should start doing kegels. They will help tighten the muscles down there to make things feel better

Erin - posted on 09/23/2014

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I found your response very helpful.

I never thought about the mental exhaustion affecting my sex life, or the stress that comes with becoming a new mom.

Also it gives me hope to hear that sex did become enjoyable again.

Thank you :)

Carly - posted on 09/23/2014

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Erin, after I had my son it took me a while to get back to sex or feeling normal down there. Your lady parts went thru so much. I found taking epsom salt baths at night helped feel normal and if this is TMI but using sex toys helped alot. Now 6 months postpartum and I live for sex lol. Don't worry it all will feel better soon. Just remember u pushed a kid out. Lol

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