sex and babies

Natasha - posted on 07/30/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




Ok, now I know that this is going to be a fairly controversial topic, but I just want to see what you all think? Be mindful of the guidelines, or you may be suspended from posting.

Now my friend has come to me and she has no children, her boyfriend and her own their own home, etc, quite well set up. Now she got pregnant, and he told her to get an abortion. Now he has made her go on several forms of birth control, yet he won't wear a condom. She got pregnant again, he made her get an abortion. (its the if you haev this baby i'll leave you). Now she hasn't got her period in 1 year, and may infact be faceing infertility.

My question is, should we no matter what our relationship status (married, single etc) or age be having sex if we aren't ready to have a or another baby??

My opinion is no, I'm not against birth control, its a womans choice to do what ever she want. But I do believe to have sex, you and the person you are having sec with need to accept the fact that you may get pregnant.


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Jenni - posted on 08/03/2009




I believe that sex is an important part of any healthy relationship, but you do need to accept that a baby is a possibility, no matter how many precautions you take. If I was in her position and not ready for a child, I would have put it up for adoption, seeing as how, at the time, there were no medical risks to either. If in her position, and wanted to keep the baby, he would either accept it, and be a part of his child's life, or he could walk out and send a monthly check. Either way, if the baby would have been kept, it would still be his responsibility. If he didn't want to deal with any of that, he should have stocked up on the condoms. Or, since he seems so immature, he probably shouldn't have been in a relationship with anyone but his computer, lol.

Mel - posted on 07/30/2009




a girl should be able to have sex whenever she wants most girls lose thier virginity by age 16 if they wait they long and most 16 year olds are not ready for a baby so just because people are horny and want to fix that doesnt at all mean they are ready mentally or physically for a child. If someone doesnt use protection they need to take responsibility for thier actions if they do use protection I still beleve its a life and doesnt deserve to be killed but its a personal choice I have friends wh have gotten abortion at 17-18 i do not judge them for it, same as i have friends who use drugs on a regular basis and i dont judge them for it even if i dont do it myself.

Kate CP - posted on 07/30/2009




Well, personally, I would have left the jerk the first time. Sex is great and tons of fun, but if you're going to do the deed you have to know that something is eventually going to happen. Even with two forms of birth control (condoms and the pill were my combo) stuff can still happen.

Jessyca - posted on 07/30/2009




if your not ready for a baby then dont have sex thats just how i feel about it !

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