sexually four year old NEED HELP

Lora - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Ok guys i really need your help I have a four year old who is very obessed about the female body

i know that he is see the difference between male and female

but some of the things that my son saying blows me to the floor example if he seees a women in person or on t.v. he'll say

'aww mommy i what her" and i will ask him why and he'll say because i want her naked

also he very obssed with female chest excessly mine i am really well in doubt and he always wants my to pull my shirt or wanting to touch what should i do

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Jackie - posted on 09/20/2009

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what he is sayin I don't know what to do but for the touching you sternly and firmly grab his hand and say NO YOU DO NOT PULL MY SHIRT OR TOUCH ME THEIR its not nice and i don't like it next time you will sit in a time out!! BUT just remember kids ONLY say what they here!! example a child in a englis speaking home will not come out and speak spanish unless they hear it on TV, at day care, school or frinds house etc! So their for you need to find out who talks like that to or around your child and put that to a stop and then you need to correct the way he talks how I don't know but I am sure you can find that somewhere a round here! Good luck to you keep in touch!!

Gelasia - posted on 09/20/2009

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my son is going through that stage too. I talk to him about what "private parts" are and how to respect other people's privacy. other than that, getting a few books for him on the subject is a great idea and sometimes role play with toys or puppets can be really helpful in modeling socially appropriate behavior.

Betty - posted on 09/20/2009

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My step daughter is four and she loves talking about boobs too. It is normal. Just teach him manners so it doesn't become an issue at school.

Sarah - posted on 09/20/2009

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I would make sure their is no one that could be hurting your son, first. Once you rule that out,talk to him about the differences/ about respect too. maybe talk to your doctor or go to therapy, if it doesnt help.my daughter was 7 when she started to be intereseted in the differences (she asked her cousin if she could look at his) they were that same age. so I talked to her, her doctor to make sure it was normal and got her the book "whats the big deal". but she was at the right age, 4 sounds young and what he's saying- im sorry but I would be very worried. Good Luck, I hope it works out for your family!!

Betty - posted on 09/20/2009

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Just teach him to show good manners around women. Explain to him that if he ever wants a lady of his own he will need to treat girls with some respect. lol
He might just be curious because it's something he doesn't have. Try teaching him what breasts are for and maybe that will calm his curiosity a bit too.

Esmeralda - posted on 09/19/2009

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i would just start by telling him those things are not nice to say. he needs to be a nice boy and treat girls nicely.



and just tell him he cant touch you(mommy)there. and he cant touch any girl there b/c thats your private parts. no one is supposed to touch a girl in their private parts and no one is supposed to touch a boy in their private parts.



of course,say those things to him when the times arrise. and it will take some persistance,but if you speak at his level and are serious about it,it will get through to him.



also,you might want to think about where he could be hearing those things,to say them in the first place.

it could be tv, did he overhear your husband/SO,friends?...be on the watch ;)



good luck!

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