shopping 4 groceries is a nightmare!! help!!

Adonis - posted on 11/26/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Im mother of 2, a 3yo boy n 1yo girl. I shop 4 groceries once every 2 week, I hv no choice but 2 bring along the kids. the problem is, once we're inside the supermarket he'll run off n take anything he like. if I don't buy 4 him, he'll scream n cry his lung out n liedown kicking. the same goes 4 window shopping. please help me.....

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Shelley - posted on 11/26/2010

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I agree with Meghan. Kids like to be prepared for the things they are going to be doing. Definitely get him involved. Make it a learning trip. Teach him the correct way to pick fruit and veggies, and see if he can find what you need. I do it with my son, and he has a blast. He's a pretty well-behaved boy, but usually if I make him just sit in the cart, he throws a fit. This way he's too busy to make trouble. If he does start throwing a fit, I remind him that him doing that is getting him no closer to getting a treat and bad behavior yields no rewards.
If you're just window shopping, play I Spy with the window displays. It's easy for kids to get bored when they'd rather be doing stuff. Try to make it fun or less boring for them. If your son still refuses to behave, then darn it, give him a smack on his behinder. You don't always have the time to screw around with their temper tantrums. I don't like doing it, but sometimes a little public humiliation will keep them in line. I know it sounds mean, but constantly acting like that in public is selfish and disrespectful on their part. No parent should tolerate it from their child, or force other people to put up with it.

Rosie - posted on 11/28/2010

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my kids LOVE helping me shop. i have my list and they go get what i need. it is hard with a 3 year old and it takes a bit longer, but i don't have near as many meltdowns. found it works a lot better than hitting my child.

Brianna - posted on 11/28/2010

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honestly if i was you i would ask him to behave causally and he doesnt does listen go to his level and tell him to behave or you will take him to the bathroom. and if he still doesnt listen take him to the bathroom and spank his butt.. all it takes is spanking once or twice and then the threat is enough to make them behave lol my mom did that to us and it worked.. and my daughter has never acted up in the store she enjoys going out

Shelley - posted on 11/28/2010

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I don't know about all this leaving the store stuff. Why in the world should you have to stop what you are doing because a kid decides to throw a fit? I don't have the time to do half my grocery shopping, leave in the middle of it, then go back and do it all again. It's not like you took the kid to the park for a fun time, and then they started to misbehave so they had to go. You are grocery shopping. That is an important errand, not a joy ride. All that teaches them is when they are sick of shopping, they throw a fit, then they get to go home, like they want to. Makes no sense to me.
Not to mention, doing that then makes YOU a pain in the butt to the grocery store worker, because after you leave that grocery cart full of food just sitting there, some one else has to put all that stuff back. That's ridiculous.

Amber - posted on 11/26/2010

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I always let my son pick out 1 special treat that he usually trades in at least 5 times for something else. But he knows he will only get 1. Also I try to go when the store is not very busy so we are not waiting in line for to long.

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Sherry - posted on 11/29/2010

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My honest opinion would be you need to put 3 yr old in the basket of the shopping cart. My store has a 2 seated play car shopping car that I can put my 1 yr. old and 2 1/2 yr old little girl in. With the fits, you'll have to ignore them even if he doesn't like it. Your the mom, and you'll have to take control. My 2 1/2 yr. old use to throw her fits and i would tap her on the mouth and tell her no and if she threw a bigger fit i tap her on the bottom and she got my point. Just have to find the best way to discipline your children. I know it may be hard at first but in the long run it works great. I don't have any more problems with my girls in the store or anywhere else in fact.

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when he has a tantrum lie down next to him and have one with him....kick and scream. it is embarrassing but it only took 1 time for me with my niece.

Stifler's - posted on 11/28/2010

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I agree, get them to help and tell them which stuff to get to keep them occupied then you can get all the stuff and get out quicker.

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I dunno, but who has the time to drag a kid around by his arm while they're trying to shop because he's decided to throw a fit for God knows what reason?

Ashley - posted on 11/28/2010

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My son is the same way i took a few suggestions of here a few weeks a go, bringing toys did not work for me my son just chucked them, but buting a small toy or treat at the beginning and if he behaves he gets to keep it if not it goes back also i dont agree with leaving the store who has the time.

Tamara - posted on 11/27/2010

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I don't have any problems with shopping but I really feel for u.
My suggestion is what my mother did to my sisters and I when we were younger and I intend on doing it with my 1 year old.
If were not behaving then we given one warning. Just one. And if we did not behave she would just put us in the car and take us home. She told me just recently she had to do it maybe 3 or 4 times but we angels from then on.
One Jong she has suggested is never to offer food as a bribe or treat for food behaviour. Sets up bad eating behaviour for older. She suggested stickers or a game.
Good luck! I know the idea of walking out can be hard. If you have a back up meal in the cupboard or freezer you can try again the next day. Which is even more helpful because they will remember clearly how you walked out the day before. An while u are there all the suggestions above are great. Except he food ones.

Adonis - posted on 11/27/2010

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thanks everybody for the good advice. Im new here, so I would like to say HI to all of mommy out there....

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I'd find a baby-sitter or spank that little tail. If he can't respect you as his mom by staying with you and being a good little boy, then he doesn't deserve to come along or to get the things he wants.

That's if the other suggestions people have made don't work. I'm just the type who doesn't put up with that sort of thing from anyone, especially a child I brought into this world. My parents were like that with me and I turned out to be a decent human being.

But whatever works, I suppose.

Kimi - posted on 11/26/2010

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My 5 year old still rides in the cart most of the time. There's lots of weirdies around here so I prefer her there for safety. I don't want to give someone the chance to validate one of my biggest fears as a parent.

Meghan - posted on 11/26/2010

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Thats a good idea too Kimi, my son doesn't even know it's an option to walk around.

Kimi - posted on 11/26/2010

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Keep your son buckled up in the cart and do not let him out. He will scream a few times and then get used to it. Your daughter could always fit in one of those harnesses you wear.
Do online shopping as often as possible. Some grocery stores deliver for free and others have your groceries ready to pick up.

Liz - posted on 11/26/2010

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I have a set of two year old b/g twins and a almost five month old son. We use those kid carts at the grocery store, and the twins are content there, and our youngest goes either in his harness thing or the three of them are in their stroller.

Meghan - posted on 11/26/2010

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my son has always been good at shopping and he is a tad younger than your boy, but I always get him prepared for the trip. Before hand I tell him what we are doing, and when we get there I tell him how he is expected to behave. Try getting him involved, let him hold the list, help you pick out the fruit etc. And maybe to get him from freaking if he doesn't get what he wants, find something that you need and let him make the choice as to which one to buy- if you need to get crackers pick two and let him pick. Hope that helps a bit?

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