SHOULD I ALLOW MY BABY'S DAD TO TAKE HIM FOR FEW DAYS?

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Jodi - posted on 02/21/2013

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Do you have court ordered custody? Without a court order, indicating your custodial rights, your child's dad may have equal rights, depending on where you live, and may choose not to return him and file for primary custody.

So on that basis, I would suggest you continue to allow him to see his child on a regular basis, but also speak to a lawyer about a custody order of some sort.

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2013

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Dove makes a good point. I didn't even consider the fact that the relationship may still be intact! It would never occur to me to question whether my husband should take the baby for a few days....I just automatically assumed it was a split relationship!

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Pamela - posted on 02/25/2013

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Aside from the relationship that you had with him, Do you trust him to take good care of your child? Do you think your child would be in harms way? If he loves his child and you think he would take good care of him during that time, let him go. Sometimes we confuse our relationship and feelings with the relationship between the child and father. You should want the father to be in his life regardless, IF he is a positive influence. It may be difficult for you at first if you still have feelings for him. Trust me, with time that WILL past! If you do decide to let your baby go, use that time for yourself. Do something for you! Go out with some friends, do something that you enjoy to keep your mind on positive things. At least he is sending money and financially helping you out. It seems like he wants to be in his child's life. Before you can move on...You have to WANT to move on...Really want to move on. Try not to let your personal feelings about the way he hurt YOU in your relationship get in the way of the type of father he may be able to be for the child you two have together.

Addo Joy - posted on 02/25/2013

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im 24 years old and my son is one year old we used to live with his Dad , we were never married... but now living alone with my baby. his Dad left me for a rich young girl, he drove me out of his house because of his mom ( family) that never loved me. so now im trying to cope alone but he sends money every week for his son's up keep. please I need advice and some encouragement on how to move on without my baby's dad. thanks!

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