Should i feel bad if my son calls my mother Mommy, but calls me by my name? because sumtimes i do

Dealfneil - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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Is it because am young, or because he hears me call my mom mummy, but if he wants something he calls me mama, or if i dnt answer him he says mama. Sometimes i do feel bad. I do tell him am Mama, but he still calls me by my name.

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Brianna - posted on 10/07/2009

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Just start calling her grandma and he will call her grandma. When my mother is around I always refer to her as grandma, I mean I still call her mom sometimes, but you can't call her mommy all the time and then tell him to call you mommy. It'll confuse him. Also does your mom refer to you as mommy when shes talking to him? And do you refer to her as grandma when talking to him? Because that might help, that's what we do with my son.

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Sarah - posted on 10/10/2009

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My kids did the same thing Because at my moms house everyone is calling her mom and everyone is calling me Sarah. I just corrected them and the stopped doing it now that they are and 4 years old. I didn't like it either it mad me feel like crap even though they didn't understand. You just have to correct them.

Breihana - posted on 10/10/2009

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I agree with all the mothers as well just try and say grandma or granny. It will work I never noticed but while my granny is talkin to my son she always say mommy this mommy that referin to me and it works. My grandmother is like my mother but I'm constantly sayin granny this granny that and its works. Just try it really.

Suzanne - posted on 10/10/2009

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redirection is key here....how old is your son?? most babies call everyone mama n dada for awhile but as he gets older he will start to learn who is who..when he calls her mommy tell him not thats grandma i am mommy

Eileen - posted on 10/10/2009

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I would think if you spend alot of time around your mum, then he is just copying how you and your mum communicate with each other. He watches you call her mum, and she in response in im assuming calls you by your name. When it comes to the crunch moments he calls you mama. He knows the difference, he's just a sponge soaking everything up that 2 very important woman in his life have to share.x

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when im around my mom we came up with i call her nana and she calls me mom so that my daughter didnt get confused on wht to call who. there r times though that shell tell me when she goes to stay over at nanas house that shell be my daughter later. kinda hurts but i figured out that nana lets her get away with a lot more then i will and when i pick her up shell tell me how she mises me and loves me so it all works out in the end

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My 2 oldest did the same thing to me. They would hear people calling me "brandi" and would call me "brandi" and would hear me calling my mom "mama" and call her that. It was hard for me at first but they grow out of it. When he clals you by your name, correct him and tell him that you're mama. He'll catch on!

Ashley - posted on 10/09/2009

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My daughter used to do this and it drove me nuts, I think all kids go through this stage at some point. Children learn by what the see and hear more than anything else when they are little. My Mom always refers to me as Mommy when talking to the kids or around them, I always call her Nanny when they are around. She doesn't respond to them by anything other than Nanny and I by anything other than Mom (or some version of the word)... if there is nobody around and I'm the only here and it happens I'll wait a minute then reply asking if she meant Mom? It's okay... it will pass and you have to remember how confusing it must be to hear someone called so many different names. Though it's not a bad idea to teach your child your real name... what if they get lost or something happens, God forbid, you wouldn't belive how many children don't know thier parents names and they are 5 or 6.

Jodi - posted on 10/08/2009

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I agree with the other moms. I am sure it hurts. Does she watch him while you work or something? to where he is around her more?

Steph - posted on 10/08/2009

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My kids have always called me mama or mommy well my son will call his dad babe or steve or daddy. My advise would be to constantly correct him. I dont think that ignoring him will help much. As for him calling your mom mommy if you are not ok with that then sweetie correct him. tell him no sweetie that is nana or grandma or whatever she would like to be called and just tell your mom that it really hurts you when he calss you mommy and not me and you would appreciate it if she also corrected him when he did. it will take time but dont get mad at him he will catch on and hopefully your mom will understand too.

Kelliann - posted on 10/08/2009

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Well my three year old calls his aunt mommy and me mama, its because they hear and repeat what people call other people. You call her mom so your son thinks thats her name, and in my case her kids call his aunt mommy, so he thinks thats what he is suppose to call her... he will grow out of it once he really knows what mom means. But it is funny that my son distinguses between us, he calls me mama and her mommy... its commical now, but at first it did bother me a little.

Jacqueline - posted on 10/08/2009

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My daughter calls me by my first name whenever were around my mom and siblings and i think its because that's what they call me. If anything be happy that he knows your his mom and knows your first name he's learning

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maybe try calling your mom gramma, and ask her to call oyu mommy....one of my girls did that and so i asked a few family members to call me mommy instead of margaret or maggie, and it stopped. I'd say your boy is pretty smart. He figures everyone calls you by your first name and you respond, so that's what he should do, and you call your mom, mom, so he figures that's her name....seems to me that he's being logical....be patient, it's all a part of learning

Sonya - posted on 10/08/2009

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It might be because he hears you call her mummy... Me and my fiance call each other mommy and daddy in front of our daughter....and we call ours moms grammy and nana, so she eventually understood what to call people...

Dealfneil - posted on 10/08/2009

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No he calls me Alf because thats what everyone calls me. His father tell him call me mommy, but only if he wants smt or he is calling me Alf, i wud not answer him, then he wud say Mommy. he calls his father Daddy, but calls me by my name. i guess its because thats all He hears all the time, so he picked it up quickly..

Dealfneil - posted on 10/08/2009

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Wow. Now i do feel bd now. i will try though. i dnt want him to luk at me as Nelly. i would love to hearmommy. Not that he dosent call me mommy, but he only does it when i dnt acknowledge him.

Dealfneil - posted on 10/08/2009

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Not necessarily. i call her mommy, he calls her mommy. she calls me by my name, so i think thats y he is doing what he is now

Stephanie - posted on 10/07/2009

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Don't feel bad about it. You son could name you worse then your name. Maybe he just thinks to call her mommy because you call your mom, mommy. Actually my daughter name her dad by his name and after repeating it saying no not John thats daddy then she got the picture. Same with me.

Chelsea - posted on 10/07/2009

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He just hears you call her that. I call me my Grammy all the time because that is what my kids call her. My son calls my husband by his name all the time we just correct it and carry on he will stop at some point! good luck

Alex - posted on 10/07/2009

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he probably hears other people calling you by your name and you calling your mom "mommy"

Jamie - posted on 10/07/2009

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To me it shows that hes acknowledging your mom as the parental figure in the picture. And personally I think you should feel bad. I lived with my mom while my husband was deployed and my kids were infants and they never called my mom "mommy" they always called her grandma.



I mean you could start addressing your mom and grandma and see if that helps.

Stevie - posted on 10/07/2009

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what do you mean he calls you by your name does he say dealfneil can you come here... how old is he id have to say that id have a talk with your mom and see what she talks about with him when you leave him with her if you do maybe she is teaching hime to say that or maybe that is whhy you could always try just calling your mom grandma around him or all the time and in your house call each other mommy and daddy if his father is still there i can understand why you feel bad....

Ivona - posted on 10/07/2009

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when you talk to him about yourself always say like your momy does,come to momy,momy loves you the most,momy will show you....and when you are talking to him about your mother always say give it to grandmother,like your grandmother,wher is your grandmother...you just have to show him with words what is the right thing...

Ashley - posted on 10/07/2009

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hes doing it cuz he hears u cal her mom and hears everyone call you by ur name. my son used to do it to me. he would say ash n he finally got to saying mom now. my husband and i kept correcting him. and saying wheres mommy so he got used to it. he will grow out of it soon enough.

Ashley - posted on 10/07/2009

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My little Brother used to call me Mom bc I watch him all the time. You just need to call your Mom Grandma and he will do the same. My son now likes to call his Grandpa by his first name because we do but when we started calling him Papa he changed that!

Dealfneil - posted on 10/07/2009

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U r so true. but you know how we mothers r, Soft hearted man. But dnt worry i will tog=ughen up because i dnt want him to be rude

Tiffany - posted on 10/07/2009

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You just have to be firm about it! Kids will do whatever we let them get away with.

Dealfneil - posted on 10/07/2009

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nice. When he calls me By my name, sumtimes i do not answer him, but then i feel bad sometimes when he calls it for a long time so I do, but then after a while He starts to say mama

Tiffany - posted on 10/07/2009

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My daughter used to do the same thing. Kids will call you what they here other people calling you. Just tell your mom not to respond to him when he calls her that. And you shouldn't respond when he calls you by your name either. Eventually he will figure it out.

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