Should I get my tubes tied??

Amber - posted on 09/08/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I recently got the mirena taken out due to weight gain and depression issues. I tried the paraguard for three years and had terrrible periods and cramping. I have two kids, my boyfriend and I been together for 12 years and he doesnt have health insurance otherwise he would get fixed. I've heard bad things and good thing about getting a tubal. I can't handle my hormones being out of whack with bc and don't know what else to do, I'm fine with condoms but he's not. Please if you've had your tubes tied tell me what is it really like? Anyone with helpful advice please!!

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Quoting Lauren:

I am 24 and I had the Tubal ligation done. I honestly regret it. I wasn't that keen on the idea when I got it done, but with 2 kids of my own and raising another I just did it. Its not the hormones that got me. I bleed outrageously bad and cramp like ive never cramped before. I would seriously recommend birth control if you have any, even the slightest doubt about it. Its not something that can just be undone. Its a big big choice to make and I cried when i signed the papers. Its not easy... Good Luck! ask any and all questions you want to ask me... :)






When you say that you bleed and cramped a lot was that immediatly after surgery or with every period? I do have slight doubts but I had severe postpartum depression after both of my pregnancies and am afraid if I have another baby I will have that problem again. That is why I'm so unsure. Thanks for responding!





I STILL cramp and bleed badly. I was actually told to take iron only on my period because the bleeding was so bad. Just after you have the surgery you hurt. Its like being stabbed in the stomach (saw that above, best way to describe it) I felt like I couldnt stand up straight afterwards. About the postpartum... if you were to decide to have a baby again, you should talk to your doctor about getting on meds as soon as you find out your pregnant. This just allows the meds to fully get into your system before the postpartum strikes.  If you are considering the thought of ever having kids then the surgery is not the road you want to take. I still get very upset with myself for taking that option away... I mean honestly I have 3 kids but I wonder "what if".

Jenn - posted on 09/10/2009

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I had one right after my son was born nearly 6 years ago. I have been very happy with it. Afterward i felt like i had been stabbed in the stomach and had some difficulty moving around for about 3 days. Holding a pillow against your stomach when getting up or sitting down helps a lot. Just be sure you really don't want any more kids.

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I am 24 and I had the Tubal ligation done. I honestly regret it. I wasn't that keen on the idea when I got it done, but with 2 kids of my own and raising another I just did it. Its not the hormones that got me. I bleed outrageously bad and cramp like ive never cramped before. I would seriously recommend birth control if you have any, even the slightest doubt about it. Its not something that can just be undone. Its a big big choice to make and I cried when i signed the papers. Its not easy... Good Luck! ask any and all questions you want to ask me... :)

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Don't get me wrong... the surgery is good for some people- the people who are getting older.. who have more than one child and are certain that they do not need or want anymore children ever. I just don't see how at 24 I should have been about to make such a huge choice after only giving birth to 2 children... even though i am raising 3.

Amber - posted on 09/11/2009

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Thank you everyone for responding, I have been going crazy the last couple of days trying to make up my mind and the support really helps a lot. Please continue to respond, I have until next Thursday to make my final desicion!!

Amber - posted on 09/11/2009

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Quoting christina:

i had mine done at 26. I didnt regret it at all. We have 3 kids and i know i was done and at my limit. The only advise i can give is to make sure you are done having kids. My husband wanted me to do it after our second when i was 21, but thankfully the dr told me i was too young and didnt have enough kids to do it. I knew my family wasnt complete but hubby was done. Im glad now it wasnt done, our unexpected surprise came 5 years later. Something my hubby didnt want turned into the little girl of his eye



Ya we have two kids and I feel that there is room for a third he says no but he has mentioned wanting another in the past. I think right now neither of us want it but maybe eventually. I just don't want to go through postpartum again that's why I think that I should not give birth to another baby.

Amber - posted on 09/11/2009

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Quoting Karalee:

I had my Tubal done when I was 24. Since then I divorced and now my fiancee wants kids of his own. I don't know what to do cause I can't have none. As for the hormone's I didn't feel no different then b4 I had it done. Besides every now and then I miss my period. I wish I never had gotten it done. I also went through depression really bad for about 2 years. Hope this helps.



Do you feel that the depression was because you had the procedure? I already have depression issues so I'm am nervous that this may make me worse, I have read some other people have had that problem. Part of the reason that I want to get it done is because ever since I had postpartum depression with both of my pregnancies I have been up and down, I want something to resolve the depression not make it worse! Thanks

Amber - posted on 09/11/2009

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Quoting Lauren:

I am 24 and I had the Tubal ligation done. I honestly regret it. I wasn't that keen on the idea when I got it done, but with 2 kids of my own and raising another I just did it. Its not the hormones that got me. I bleed outrageously bad and cramp like ive never cramped before. I would seriously recommend birth control if you have any, even the slightest doubt about it. Its not something that can just be undone. Its a big big choice to make and I cried when i signed the papers. Its not easy... Good Luck! ask any and all questions you want to ask me... :)



When you say that you bleed and cramped a lot was that immediatly after surgery or with every period? I do have slight doubts but I had severe postpartum depression after both of my pregnancies and am afraid if I have another baby I will have that problem again. That is why I'm so unsure. Thanks for responding!

Stephanie - posted on 09/11/2009

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I had mine done after my 2nd daughter was born ( I was 27). I also tried mirena ( it didnt work for me either). The only BC that worked for me was the path ( I am also very sensitive to medications-- so you might was to ask the doc to try it). If you know that you are truely dont having kids, then do it. But dont if you have any doubts. I felt great after having mine done and have had no ill effects since then and it has been 2 years. Good Luck.

Christina - posted on 09/11/2009

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i had mine done at 26. I didnt regret it at all. We have 3 kids and i know i was done and at my limit. The only advise i can give is to make sure you are done having kids. My husband wanted me to do it after our second when i was 21, but thankfully the dr told me i was too young and didnt have enough kids to do it. I knew my family wasnt complete but hubby was done. Im glad now it wasnt done, our unexpected surprise came 5 years later. Something my hubby didnt want turned into the little girl of his eye

Karalee - posted on 09/10/2009

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I had my Tubal done when I was 24. Since then I divorced and now my fiancee wants kids of his own. I don't know what to do cause I can't have none. As for the hormone's I didn't feel no different then b4 I had it done. Besides every now and then I miss my period. I wish I never had gotten it done. I also went through depression really bad for about 2 years. Hope this helps.

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